please help. I can't deal with my baby anymore.

[nickytwotimes]

It is me again.
He has terrible reflux.
He won't feed today.
he screams all the time, sometimes from pain but often from exhaustion.
I am exhausted from trying to soothe him.
i have another son who is totally ignored because of his brother.
My husband is off too and I still can't cope.
I wish we had never had him.
I hate what he has doen to us.
we have nothing anymore, no family lifre.

Hazey....Do you have a swing? I found that really helped me have a little hands free time.

DS1 had milk intolerance and I was advised he was greedy because he vomitted all of the time and i think he had reflux because he was sick when he laughed. DS2 fine. DD1 had terrible reflux and would scream even on a very long car journey, she was undiagnosed despite frequent visits to the GP...I had never heard of reflux, but she definitely had it very bad for eight months, ds3 the same, only he was diagnosed. I inc=vested in a swing which I resold on ebay with only £15 difference, it was a lifesaver for me and DS!!!

Morning all.

Hellish night.

Thanks for your posts - they do help.

A reflux thread would be great, yes.

I am indeed in SW Scotland.

Waiting for paed to phone today.

Might visit docs yself , get something to help me cope on bad days, as i am not coping.

Morning Nicky, def visit docs for yourself if that's where your thoughts are heading. You need all the help you can get right now!

yes, go to the GP nicky. hope you get a paed app quickly. dont sugar coat it for them....let them know exatly how bad it is and how you feel x

Really feel for you, we had months of this with ds1, it was hellish and I had to leave him alone in a safe place more than once. (Six years ago and I still shudder! He is now the most delightful, sensitive child.)

A couple of other posters mentioned nutramigen (sp?) a specialist feed. It worked for us, literally, overnight.

Good luck x

poor you - sounds awful. I went through this with DS1 and I can't imagine coping with another child at the same time.

Does driving around help, or does he just shriek in the car? If driving will settle him enough to sleep for a little while after you stop, how about going to lunch at a drive through Macdonalds (or similar) regularly for the next few weeks?

Perhaps you and DS1 would be able to eat peacefully in the car and get a bit of respite. Drive through restaurants saved my sanity when DS1 was small. And I am not generally a fan of fast food!

It will get better. In the meantime, do whatever it takes to survive (non-stop beebies for DS1, constant swing for DS2, stopping bfing, spending a night away a week while DH takes over...).

Sadly I dont drive.
DH is out in car with him before I throw him in fronmt of lorry.

Nicky - I went to the doc with DD1.

Happened to get a locum who I knew.

I said "Get me an appointment to see a paed or I'm leaving her on your doorstep at midnight and you can have her"

The fact that I had been in the waiting room, and the patients in front of me (elderly couple, middle aged man and young girl) all said "you go first" coz she was screeching so much - totally affronted.

And I second the posts about the specialist feed, honestly, with her it worked literally in a couple of days.

Nicky, have you spoken to the paed today?

How's your evening honey?

No paed.
This evening as shit as last night and he has barely slept in the last 24 hours.
I can't get him to wind down.
I dont want to be in the same room as him.
He is a little fucking shiot \i hate him so much

Nicky, I remember you from the due May thread. I've hardly been on here trying to recover from the eclamptic seizures, and my little may monster is the same as yours. Have a huge un MN type hug.
You need to get the Omeprazole sorted and be very assertive with the docs. Flossie's been on low dose Omeprazole for about 5-6 weeks, some very slight improvement but not much till we saw the paed who upped it massively to max dose.
Max dose is 3mg per kg of body weight.
I spent alot of last weeks Disney holiday in tears at the situation. Exhausted etc. Sure i nearly sparked a security alert at the Davy Crocket ranch as I was sat out in the car for nearly 2 hrs from midnight, feeding crying, dealing with screaming ridgid child. Security van drove past every 10 mins, think they wondered what was going on.
Keep venting here hun, fully understand. Add me as a friend if you're on face book, Odette on May group.x

Thanks five.
It is fucking awful, isn't it?

Almost on the verge of a nervous breakdown here and we're on the good meds now! It's not fair on the other kids though, that's the really hard thing. gotta go feed again now.x

I have an arms reach co sleeper cot and an AR pillow for sleeping. I get 4.5 hrs at night. then she's off again. It's better than nothing though. Google them, worth their weight in gold.

He'll only sleep on me!
I don;t mind, if he sleeps though, but he won;t sleep!

DD sleeps on me from 5am, I get the 12-4ish window alone now though with the AR pillow.x

Hi all

Another reflux mummy here!

Just wanted to say that I too know how you are feeling nicky - it is truly shit and I often considered jumping off a bridge, and used to get so frustrated with the crying that I just wanted to throw ds on the floor! (I didn't of course)

One thing that really really annoyed me was that a few people said things like "Oh that's just babies, they cry" .

If anyone says anything like that to you, please DO NOT LISTEN. I did, and it caused me to feel that I was totally incompetent as a mother, when in actual fact my poor ds was in a lot of pain.

Anyway I thought I would just list some of the things that helped soothe my ds:

Switching from BF to bottles - contraversial I know, but my ds was overfeeding on the breast, which can make reflux worse. With bottles I could monitor the intake.

Nutramigen formula plus Gaviscon - almost instant change

Baby swing - I have a Fisher Price rainforest one that goes back and forth as well as side to side - I found that the side to side motion was much more effective - he would sleep for 3 hours - bliss!

Cranial osteopathy - only went once but it really helped with releasing a lot of wind and poo!

Baby massage and yoga - he used to fall asleep in the class.

Dummy - again, contraversial but worked for us.

Hairdryer/fan/white noise - used to stop the crying and soothe him to sleep.

Wrapping him up warm/swaddling - must have made him feel secure/relaxed.

I honestly thought it would never get better, and that I would never feel affection for my ds, but he is 2 now, a picture of health, and I absolutely adore him. It all seems like a distant memory.

We are all here to support you .

Thaks Pioneeer.
Yes, throw him on the floor - I have felt like that! It is the pits.
Hope you got a bit of sleep last night, five?

She finally went down at 12.45am, then slept till 6am, but has been up since then. Tried to get her back off, succeded twice, but as soon as put down wakes squealing again.
Off to get her weighed later, then will need to see doc and reasses her opmeprazole dose, I think she needs an increase!
I made the mistake of getting some dairy free chocolate and scoffing loads (it's been 2 months since I last had any.) Soy based, bad reaction!!!
Hope you had a bearable night Nicky.
The hardest thing Ifind is when my 2yr old DD kicks off at the same time, especially in the car, there's been times I've just wanted to drive straight into a big brick wall at speed.
It's so hard but try to remember he's only doing this because he's in so much pain. I would even go so far as to camp out in A&E and refuse to go till they sort him out. Having him admitted will make them realise what you both are going through. (((hugs)))

www.babydreammachine.com/ Found this idea on the internet if you are desperate and cant cope with pushing the pram anymore. You plug it in and put yr pram on it and apparently the baby wont be able to tell you have stopped moving. Seems quite expensive but if it worked I guess it would be worth it. Sorry if its a silly idea but was trying to find something that might help you.

Hi nicky - how are you doing today ?

Pioneer - great thanks. He SLEPT last night?!!

Crossing everything...