Drving: after many, many years of "I can't drive I am too scared etc" the day finally came that I realise not driving was hampering my quality of life... sometimes after having dd2 i realised that moving around with 2 children in London by public transport, while eminently feasible, was not hugely practical so I started driving again. took maybe 10 driving lessons and tried some hypnosis.
Here in Geneva I HAVE to drive or else I'll have no life. I am still not comfortable driving huge distances/on motorways, and i do have my fair share of extremely hairy moments (mostly involving lane changes... my nemesis) but am getting there slowly and hopefully safely. fingers crossed. automatic car helps, as does satnav. No way I would ever drive in Rome though! let alone Palermo (Rosa is my hero for that)
Sui, darling, I am sorry you are feeling so down. I really don't know what to say, on the one hand, breastfeeding is wonderful and fantastic and worth sticking to... but... and i say this purely in order to offer an alternative possibility, so take it or leave it... your sanity, happiness, and health (all of which are hugely dependent on your physical wellbeing and pain-free existence!) are much, much more important to your baby's current and future wellbeing.
Men's operating mode is problem solving- I do genuinely think they know no other way, and your dh is of course looking at this as something that needs fixing because he thinks that's the best way of helping you. But at some point- it would be ok for you to say to him, enough, it's not helping, you are just going to have to accept that this has not worked out, and stop trying to "fix things" . you know in your heart of hearts whether you want to keep going or not, whether it's worth hiring a guru (highly dubious of gurus btw, in any discipline...). Your dh will- should- be supportive of whatever you decide, as long as it makes you happy.
Breastfeeding, parenting, hell even driving are not "skills", there is no exam, no judgement, no pecking order of parents based on whether/how long/how easily we breastfed or our kids slept through the night or how far we drove them!
You have done a wonderful job so far, and if you called it a day now, you should only feel proud (ok, a little sad maybe, but not defeated or guilty!) of how far you've come.
This is not a popular view on MN, but truly, NO ONE in RL will ever judge you, and they do, they are completely lacking in empathy and perspective, so fu*k them as our Baltimore friends would say . You should not judge yourself.
I don't know if this is what you wanted to hear, and as i said, it's not advice. but i just wanted to offer an alternative perspective...