How does one convince a lady?

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Yes I'm a male on Mumsnet(LOL)... So I choice this particular Forum/ site thingy due to the shear volume of female users and, I need advice.

Basically we(fiancée and me) currently live in London (Marlybone) in a 3 bedroom cramped flat with no children (yet) :P and, to be quite frank I hate it here, it's huge and small all at the same time. I feel like moving and, in particular I have my sights set on Birmingham as I recently went there to visit a friend and I felt 'at home'.
Henceforth I want a change but my fiancée doesn't.

My question is to all of you women how would you be persuaded to move to an unknown location?

Another question, What are the best areas to live in? On a side note I've read via Mummyloos' thread what places are good but I want it too be more specific and, what I mean by this is postcode specific considering the following;

1. Good community all ethnicity's are welcome.
2. Safe
3. Good facilities e.g tennis court, swimming pools and nature reserve parks(like Richmond) or any nice park for a good stroll.
4. Big garden for barbecues and parties
5. We have a budget of about 1-1.2mil I'm looking for around a 5 bed so when friends or family come they can stay for the weekend.
6. Family friendly.
7. Excellent Night life (prob one of the highest priority on the list)
8. relatively close to amenities like doctors and dentists.

Thats all I can think of right now( seems a little bit since I had a list of stuff. Weird.)

Another thing would be if I posted links if it's allowed could you guys give your opinions? Highly appreciate it.

I decided to post my own thread as I did not want to steal the other users

Are you her fella or her sugar daddy fs
haha I knew I'd get someones panties in a twist.

@EmpressOfTheSevenOceans No one said my priorities were in the following order that was just an assumption made by you and DetestableHerytike... However you are on to something here; perhaps that might have a play in this. Thanks for that!

It had more to do with it being the only one on your list that you actually specified as a high priority.

Are you sure she actually wants to be a stay at home parent?

(This might or might not be helpful but if you put * immediately before and after something you're quoting, the quote will then appear in bold.)

User, please can you stop repeating the posts of previous posters in your own posts? It isn't the norm here, and it is really irritating.

Has your fiancée actually told you she wants to not work? If not, you are being pretty pushy. Would you want to be completely dependent on someone else financially? I wouldn't.

OP, think you deserve a prize for this month's most dedicated bridge dweller. Bonus points were awarded for answering everyone individually.

I think you should get you fiancé to read this thread.

It had more to do with it being the only one on your list that you actually specified as a high priority. valid point.

Are you sure she actually wants to be a stay at home parent?
Yep it is something she said she would like to do. Hence she will move closer to parents.
(This might or might not be helpful but if you put immediately before and after something you're quoting, the quote will then appear in bold.)*

Seeing is this thing works..^

Your family live in Birmingham eh? Never heard the cast of Peaky Blinders referring to panties and diapers What's Brum-speak for gobshite?

she doesn't need to work I make more than enough for both of us, she just works since she has spare time and most of her friends work.(But hey I ain't complaining if she's making her own money that's more for me)

My face actually did that ^ reading most of your posts.

Have you ANY idea how self centred and condescending you are? I mean really?
Your fiancé WANTS to work and sounds to have done well in her career. But as far as you're concerned, it's just a fun little thing she does for pocket money, to fill her time, and, memorably; 'because her friends do.'

And you want US to tell you the secret of how to make 'ladies' do what you want them to?

You're an idiot. An idiot who has little respect for, or understanding of, women.

Do her a favour and move to Birmingham.

squeaver She'll just laugh and be like "wow dedication congratz" -_-
powershowerforanhour Uhm thanks? Would you care to elaborate?
Solasum Yea I just learnt how to use the asterisk instead.

haha I knew I'd get someones panties in a twist

Oh fuck off. I've reported you for trolling.

*misogynist trolling.

powershowerforanhour When you've lived in London for a while ones vocabulary tends to change. I've learnt many new words.
Lumpylumperson Well I didn't actually puke but I felt it and made the whole sound and stuff. I won't be able to it's just to hard of a thing to do.
WellErrr Wait how am I? I genuinely thought it'd be better of for her not to work? and just enjoy herself but mkay each to their own...

Which post to elaborate on. Post 2 - you're the most obvious troll i've seen in ages. Post 1- anyone who goes out with someone who trolls a forum for mothers with this shit needs a contingency plan for the inevitable breakup
Post 3- schoolboy error there OP. You may deserve a prize for dedication to trollery, but but no points for subtlety.

WellErrr I'm sorry but what is your problem? are you a feminist and like I'm not sure just hating since I'm a male posting? not sure here.

how am I? I genuinely thought it'd be better of for her not to work? and just enjoy herself but mkay each to their own...

So you'd enjoy being patronised by having your career put down in the way that you have about hers, to be made to move somewhere far away from your job, to lose your earning capacity by having a baby, and to be permanently beholden to someone who basically seems to view you as a pet?

Ok then.

powershowerforanhour Please do go ahead and say where the trolling is? like I've been sat here asking stuff and replying for 2 hours?

So you'd enjoy being patronised by having your career put down in the way that you have about hers, to be made to move somewhere far away from your job, to lose your earning capacity by having a baby, and to be permanently beholden to someone who basically seems to view you as a pet? Excuse the language now, WTF? a pet? Have you not read all of my posts thoroughly? In my culture women not working is a good thing actually...(as you can tell from my name Omar) We consider our wifes like queens and they don''t work.

I'm sorry

Don't be.

but what is your problem? are you a feminist and like I'm not sure just hating since I'm a male posting

A feminist is someone who believes that men and women are of equal worth and should have equal opportunities. So yes, I am one, and I would hope that you are too.

I'm not 'hating' because you are a man, although I can see it would be easier for you to think that, rather than have to accept that your attitude is at fault. It's much easier to believe that a woman disagreeing with you is just a 'man hating feminist' ffs

Your wife WANTS to work. She enjoys her career. She doesn't just do it 'because her friends do.' For fuck's sake, give her a bit of credit.

And yes, she's not a pet for you to feed clothe and house. Women quite like independence and individuality - fancy that!

WellErrr The fact that you'd think I treat my fiancee as a pet make me feel weird? how does one come to this assumption? explain?

Yes 2 hours..like I say, points for dedication. Anyway, trollhunting is a banned sport on MN so I'd better clear off and leave you to your financial trading/sitting eating toast in your panties/ whatever it was that you were doing.

WellErrr Please hold on I urge thee, read my darn posts please? I vigoursly applaud her multiple time for where she is at. I say I understand about her work; However she could still work. Since she is always traveling anyway.
please, before you accuse me READ!

Guys read all my posts before you accuse me of anything ffs!

Because you don't seem to think that she might actually enjoy working, having her own money, having independence, being an individual.

You seem more interested in making her go along with your decisions, being patronising about her career, and wanting to keep her at home where you pay for everything.

She's not a thing. She's a person. Don't be shitty about her job. It's hers. Don't assume it's pointless because she doesn't earn as much as you. SHE earns it. Don't assume she only works because her friends do. That's seriously insulting to her intelligence.

I have read your posts. Hence my answers.