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How does one convince a lady?

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user1466055892 · 16/06/2016 07:56

Yes I'm a male on Mumsnet(LOL)... So I choice this particular Forum/ site thingy due to the shear volume of female users and, I need advice.

Basically we(fiancée and me) currently live in London (Marlybone) in a 3 bedroom cramped flat with no children (yet) :P and, to be quite frank I hate it here, it's huge and small all at the same time. I feel like moving and, in particular I have my sights set on Birmingham as I recently went there to visit a friend and I felt 'at home'.
Henceforth I want a change but my fiancée doesn't.

My question is to all of you women how would you be persuaded to move to an unknown location?

Another question, What are the best areas to live in? On a side note I've read via Mummyloos' thread what places are good but I want it too be more specific and, what I mean by this is postcode specific considering the following;

  1. Good community all ethnicity's are welcome.
  2. Safe
  3. Good facilities e.g tennis court, swimming pools and nature reserve parks(like Richmond) or any nice park for a good stroll.
  4. Big garden for barbecues and parties
  5. We have a budget of about 1-1.2mil I'm looking for around a 5 bed so when friends or family come they can stay for the weekend.
  6. Family friendly.
  7. Excellent Night life (prob one of the highest priority on the list)
  8. relatively close to amenities like doctors and dentists.

Thats all I can think of right now( seems a little bit since I had a list of stuff. Weird.)

Another thing would be if I posted links if it's allowed could you guys give your opinions? Highly appreciate it.

I decided to post my own thread as I did not want to steal the other users

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OneTiredMummmyyy · 16/06/2016 12:54

You want an area that is family friendly but has excellent nightlife...? Hmm

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user1466055892 · 16/06/2016 13:02

You want an area that is family friendly but has excellent nightlife...?

Yep, why is that so hard? I mean family friendly is in the long run. But when I mean nightlife I mean a few pubs and cinemas and maybe a club here and there.. nothing too big.

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ABCAlwaysBeCunting · 16/06/2016 13:04

I wouldn't want to move away from all my friends and family either, especially as your desire to move sounds like a bit of a whim to make yourself feel better. Except it would be at the expense of her happiness.

You want us to come up with some uniquely-female foolproof excuse which will convince her 100% to bow down to your suggestion and it ain't going to happen.

You could, of course, force the issue by selling the house out from under her, as you suggested, but don't be surprised if it ends your relationship. Likewise the leaving to go home for a few months.

Sorry, but you need to find a compromise with her.

Gowgirl · 16/06/2016 13:15

Well done to replying to us all!
In my own case London is home I fought tooth and nail to come back and the only way dh will get me out is in a box! He knows it tooGrin
What do you think your lady (perfectly good term, anywhere but mumsnet btw) would say if she saw this thread?

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user1466055892 · 16/06/2016 13:17

ABCAlwaysBeCunting Your' username is perfect for my self loathing actions :P I could since I own it however it was a mere joke. But I fail to see how going away for a bit to see friends and family is a bad idea? That way we both get what we want. Or I guess we could just always buy a second home there...

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user1466055892 · 16/06/2016 13:17

ABCAlwaysBeCunting Your' username is perfect for my self loathing actions :P I could since I own it however it was a mere joke. But I fail to see how going away for a bit to see friends and family is a bad idea? That way we both get what we want. Or I guess we could just always buy a second home there...

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user1466055892 · 16/06/2016 13:17

ABCAlwaysBeCunting Your' username is perfect for my self loathing actions :P I could since I own it however it was a mere joke. But I fail to see how going away for a bit to see friends and family is a bad idea? That way we both get what we want. Or I guess we could just always buy a second home there...

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user1466055892 · 16/06/2016 13:17

ABCAlwaysBeCunting Your' username is perfect for my self loathing actions :P I could since I own it however it was a mere joke. But I fail to see how going away for a bit to see friends and family is a bad idea? That way we both get what we want. Or I guess we could just always buy a second home there...

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user1466055892 · 16/06/2016 13:17

ABCAlwaysBeCunting Your' username is perfect for my self loathing actions :P I could since I own it however it was a mere joke. But I fail to see how going away for a bit to see friends and family is a bad idea? That way we both get what we want. Or I guess we could just always buy a second home there...

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Gowgirl · 16/06/2016 13:21

You seem to be multiple posting

OneTiredMummmyyy · 16/06/2016 13:22

I think if nightlife is important to you, what the other posters have suggested is a good compromise... Move to the suburbs of London (more family friendly) and then the West End is just a tube ride away Smile

Gowgirl · 16/06/2016 13:23

And putting the word cunt in your username makes it less useable by the daily fail Wink

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user1466055892 · 16/06/2016 13:26

You seem to be multiple posting

Woops! my bad I don't know how to delete a post, do you? or anyone else for that matter. My cat walked on the keyboard.

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SoupDragon · 16/06/2016 13:33

@SoupDragon Wow, you took it literally...-faceplam

Hmm

I feel most of you are getting this wrong.

Well, given we only have the information you provided, whose fault is that...?

my family and, most of my friends live there hence I'd like to move there

In your OP you just visited a friend and felt at home Confused

Are you this incoherent and vague when you talk to your finances about it?

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user1466055892 · 16/06/2016 13:36

tube ride away

I always imagine what would happen if my leg got stuck while boarding a tube/ train; don't know why.

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user1466055892 · 16/06/2016 13:39

whose fault is that...?

Yours?... you are assuming things instead of asking... just saying here...

Are you this incoherent and vague when you talk to your finances about it?
Pretty much since I am my finances.

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Gowgirl · 16/06/2016 13:39

I'm always vague when I talk to my finances soup, I don't like to get my money worried Wink

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user1466055892 · 16/06/2016 13:44

I'm always vague when I talk to my finances soup, I don't like to get my money worried wink

Wow how much money does you all have? you need finances... -whistles

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avocadosweet · 16/06/2016 13:45

When we last moved it was a mile away because I thought 5 miles away was too far. I def wouldn't go to Birmingham!

squeaver · 16/06/2016 13:52

Jeez, just get on the tube, man.

Don't get married before you decided where you're both going to live.

Have a look at some places in West/North London where you'll have easy access to Birmingham.

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user1466055892 · 16/06/2016 13:55

When we last moved it was a mile away because I thought 5 miles away was too far. I def wouldn't go to Birmingham!

Mhm... when comes home today I'm going to have a discussion... I'll probably end up just listening to her tho... I already know how it's going to go down :(

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BertPuttocks · 16/06/2016 13:56

"my family and, most of my friends live there hence I'd like to move there"

So why not ask them where the best places to live are? Confused