How does one convince a lady?

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Yes I'm a male on Mumsnet(LOL)... So I choice this particular Forum/ site thingy due to the shear volume of female users and, I need advice.

Basically we(fiancée and me) currently live in London (Marlybone) in a 3 bedroom cramped flat with no children (yet) :P and, to be quite frank I hate it here, it's huge and small all at the same time. I feel like moving and, in particular I have my sights set on Birmingham as I recently went there to visit a friend and I felt 'at home'.
Henceforth I want a change but my fiancée doesn't.

My question is to all of you women how would you be persuaded to move to an unknown location?

Another question, What are the best areas to live in? On a side note I've read via Mummyloos' thread what places are good but I want it too be more specific and, what I mean by this is postcode specific considering the following;

1. Good community all ethnicity's are welcome.
2. Safe
3. Good facilities e.g tennis court, swimming pools and nature reserve parks(like Richmond) or any nice park for a good stroll.
4. Big garden for barbecues and parties
5. We have a budget of about 1-1.2mil I'm looking for around a 5 bed so when friends or family come they can stay for the weekend.
6. Family friendly.
7. Excellent Night life (prob one of the highest priority on the list)
8. relatively close to amenities like doctors and dentists.

Thats all I can think of right now( seems a little bit since I had a list of stuff. Weird.)

Another thing would be if I posted links if it's allowed could you guys give your opinions? Highly appreciate it.

I decided to post my own thread as I did not want to steal the other users

Just browse Rightmove. Any one persuaded? Or is this one too big?

You mention family friendly and excellent nightlife. You don't mention schools orjobs.

You may want to give your list more thought...

Areas like Richmond Park in Birmingham? Oh dear OP you haven't a clue.

Like a (balti) lamb to the slaughter...

No, Brian was from Hull.

The bit about nightlife being a high priority, apparently over family-friendly, amenities, etc, does seem a bit odd if part of the given reason is more space for kids.

Maybe she's worried that if the OP moves closer to his mates in Birmingham he'll be out enjoying the nightlife and she'll end up stuck at home doing childcare?

Do you know,what I love about this? OP wants to make a massive life change for him and hid wife, on the basis of feeling of being at home .

I thought us laydeez were the ones governed by feelz?

"of A feeling" stupid phone !

I went to Scunthorpe and felt at home. Do you think the council will offer us a good house in a good postcode? And does anyone know a good Balti house in Scunny?

Start a thread in Local, expat - you'll probably get stacks!

Oh, yeah, and how to convince my husband. And those pesky kids.

Why not cook him.a roast and wear something pretty, expat? Don't forget the lippy!

Subtle persuasion ex pat failling that ask mid blow job

I think you should talk to her but more importantly you should LISTEN TO HER.

You could show her this - it has its own pool, but if she doesn't want to move you can't and shouldn't attempt to make her.

www.onthemarket.com/details/1538423/

I have an idea, you go to Birmingham and she stays in London.

Maybe she's settled with friends, job, family, social life, loves the london culture and nightlife, likes her flat, doesn't want a 5 bed place I n case friends/family see it as an open invitation to visit etc etc.
Maybe she thinks you wanting to move to Birmingham on the strength of a brief visit is nuts.
Maybe her priorities aren't the same as yours. Maybe she thinks you are changing the goal posts from when you got engaged.
Maybe she's happy in your cramped 3 bed place.
Do you know what she wants? Did you discuss your future plans with her when you got engaged?

Mid blow job?

Laydeez don't speak with their mouths full!

Oh god no chance! I grew up there, left at 18 never looked back. There are some nicer suburbs, but not with good nightlife - its either/or. And they still aren't that nice.

A 3 bed in Marylebone "cramped"?

In london it's a mansion if you can't fry an egg in your kitchen while taking a piss in the toilet.

OP I have moved from Ireland to England, I did it 6 years ago and since then I met my fella and I've moved up and down the country (because of my fella's job).

Moving away from home, even if it's only a few hours drive away can be tough. It's not like she can just nip over to see her friend, mum or whoever. When you have kids and you've moved away from family it's very hard and quite isolating and I speak from experience here as I've now got kids and we live far away from family. I can't call my mum and ask her to come and look after the kids it really doesn't work like that.

If she doesn't want to go that far away she might be a bit of a 'homebird' and that's OK. You two need to be on the same page and make a compromise.

And I agree with detestable your list as a prospective husband father is bizarre.

Meant husband and father.

I'm going to try and reply to y'all some of are getting me wrong here and, it's kind of annoying so here goes.

@thrillhouse Everybody has a price...
@VioletBam It's more than a feeling: we've been going there visiting and staying at friends/ families houses ( my family side).
@RNBrie Yeah, I know it's a selfish thing to do since her family is in London. She wants to stay in London but move into a more spacious property. Her choice was to move to Wimbledon in SW London. Well... I just wanted to go to B'ham (I assume that's the acronym?