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[BlackeyedSusan]

Good morning. Come and chat. Somewhere to escape to if the rest of life is too overwhelming..or just to relax.
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Hi Emma I'm doing better by having the injection at night. I went out for dinner tonight with dh and my adult dcs and had about a million calories, but then came back to life. Didn't feel cold, lethargic, depressed, tired or miserable. Not eating is so self destructive, but how else to lose weight?

Hope you are well and everyone else is also well.

Glad you're feeling better Barrow
I know what you mean re the food, though I'm dreading the whole dressing for summer thing, which makes me reconsider a bit. I seem to be super huge at the moment though I weigh my usual huge weight.

Hope Lily is on the mend and everyone else is okay.

@EmmaH2022 I'd love to wear dresses 😥 I feel too self conscious though.

Oh I don't wear dresses
eczema scars mean I am similarly covered all year, but summer is linen.

i often get people ask me "aren't you too hot". Annoying.

Linen is nice and cooling isn't it? It gets a bit creased though. I have some linen tops.

Hello lovely people! still achey as I was a twit yesterday and did some heavy gardening, not clever! Bruised leg was killing me this morning.

We went for a lovely drive on Monday up the coast (the A78 coast road, basically goes from Cairnryan (the port for the Belfast ferry) to Inverkip just south of Glasgow; we just went from Largs northwards). Absolutely stunning as always with the flatter islands to the south (except Arran which has Goatfell, an extinct volcano) and then the mountains at the start of the Trossachs national park and towards Loch Fyne (where the salmon comes from!).

The tide was low enough for a couple of seals to be doing their mermaid posing on rocks and the sea was full of cormorants and eider ducks - I still get a thrill from seeing the seals here!😍

Barrow, it's really good the night-time pen is better for you - now you can soon buy lovely floaty linen tops and trousers/dresses!💖 I'm wearing a cheesecloth shirt today, because it was really warm, but now covered up as it gets cold at night, 8c at present: being a wafty southern English person from the SW I'll never get used to the cold up here ❄

Barrow - linen does get horribly creased, yes. Don't know how to get round that one.

Lily that drive sounds wonderful! You need to take it easy though.
I would love to see seals.

I have some dresses that are linen at the front and stretchy cotton t-shirt material at the back - they don't seem to crease as much as linen-all-over and they are also forgiving if you are having a bloated tummy day!

... I got them on eBay - they say 'Made in Italy' on the label which I think is actually the brand!

Board just looked that up, looks good! Might have to buy something.

i normal wear a linen shirt over a vest top and then linen trousers if trying to look vaguely summery.

not dieting but busy. This thread made me think to check the scales. In spite of being madly bloated, I am 1.5lb less than last time, though I can't recall when that was. Still grumpy Saxenda didn't help me.

I'm having a crappy day (sorry for the moan!) when I was last at the dentist there was 3 people talking at me/to each other, dentist, dental assistant and the person taking the payment. Sensory overload and didn't understand when next appt was, dh always deals with my phone appts etc as I can't do phones, but he rang up today and they won't give him the date of next appt without talking to me (which they normally do) and urghhhh so just won't know when my appt is for my grinding nightguard and will miss it.

I wish there was apps for this type of thing or emails or carrier pigeons or morse code, smoke signals, literally anyway to find my appt without having to ring up.

On the positive side of life my raised beds have arrived and I'm so excited to get them built this weekend and the new vegetables im going to grow in them!

Pyii I'm guessing your dentist doesn't do stuff by email?

i have the teeth grinding issue too.

Re lots of people talking, i used to shoo people away from my desk because they'd be right next to me chatting away.

i bought Flare Calm and it seems to do nothing?!

No email sadly, honestly tempted to see if I can find a woman on fivver or a similar freelance website and give them my dob to just ring up and pretend to be me find out when the appt is and reconfirm that I'm autistic and they have permission to talk to dh about these things. Very dramatic but I'm not sure what else to do!

Have you had a nightguard for the grinding? How did you find it? I've been putting it offbfor years as I don't think I will enjoy the sensation but my jaw constantly clicks and aches these days!

Pyii I just got a DIY one from Amazon. I have insomnia though, so I only use it when I really have to. I find it harder to get to sleep with it in, it's not uncomfortable, just odd.

How's everyone?

I was thinking, there are so many inspirational songs about love. I wish there were equivalent songs for organisation! 😂

Went to see Operation Mincemeat. Really well done, definitely recommend.

Ooo, nightguards are really good for teeth grinding. You soon get used to it and it really helps with pain and the poor teeth getting worn down. No more jaw aches or headaches.

My adhd seems to have gone on holiday because I've been concentrating on stuff and doing things I usually struggle with. I've done: cleaning and tidying, measuring stuff, the shower cubicle is gleaming, sorting clothing, reading Kindle and preparing healthy foods. I don't know whereabouts on holiday it is, somewhere chaotic and noisy probably 😬 I hope it gets lost and doesn't return though 😄

Ds2 goes to Orthodox Church and keeps trying to get me to go. Their services last two hours and he stands all the way through! 😮 I told him I'd need an armchair, tea and my crochet if I went.

Hope everyone is doing okay.

Nice one Barrow
what a pity your ADHD didn't invite mine 😂

two hours of standing and not moving around? I have an old injury and got stuck in a standing event, a long time after recovery. Turns out it's the one thing the injury can't handle.

i am so in limbo with "am I moving". I don't want to jinx it so not packing anything unless we exchange contracts. It makes things feel so weird, suspended in space.

I have just discovered Hart of Dixie and it's just the kind of feel good fluff I need at the moment, proper lols. But I think I am quite the target for bingewatching!

@EmmaH2022 when do you find out for definite about the move? Keeping fingers crossed for you🤞

I've lost 2lbs which I'm relieved about because I'd stalled.

Barrow Well done on the weight loss.

Are you finding it easy with the pen? I wish all my days were like my first three days on that, having to tell myself to eat something!

Re the move...we don't have an exchange date and are waiting on just one document. I don't think that will appear for a couple of weeks. I do now think it will happen though, though perhaps I just think that because I really want to move!

Congrats on your 2lb loss, Barrow - hopefully you are on the right side of a plateau now.

This is sort of ish prompted by another thread, though I was going to post about it here anyway

Been a bit friendless for a while and today I bumped into a neighbour who suggested going for a coffee. He has always seemed like a good bloke and I don't feel the need to mask around him etc.

Turns out he's not very nice, I think. Really hoping the move will help me meet people.

I have always thought he has ADHD but today he said to me he's having anger management therapy. I realise ND issues present differently in men and women but I can't abide a person with a hot temper, the reasons don't matter.

Anger management therapy? Sounds grim. I suppose at least he's addressing the issue. He must have been involved in some trouble in the past for him to be engaging with help now though 🤔

It's good he told me really. I really need friends but it would be awful to form a friendship and then find out someone has an anger problem. hope it's all right to say, even scarier if it's a bloke. I don't really make friends with men. I'm very much a woman's woman.

Hello folks,

I've been away for a week!! I interrailed down to the South of France and went walking in the mountains. Wish I could have stayed longer, and gone higher (and the weather could have been better- it pissed down on Saturday! ) Just back after a mammoth 22 hour train journey- 4 different trains. I'm exhausted and in bed trying to have a nap, but I don't think it's going to work. Having a post trip comedown- the house looks like such a mess, work is piled up....I don't know where to start!

Plus, I've been torturing myself with dating apps for a while- dozens of conversations that seem to go nowhere and just cause me loads of stress. There was someone last year that I just clicked with so much....he's ND too, we talked and talked and talked- even met up a couple of times- but he always seemed to be leading me on, too busy to meet (to be fair, he genuinely was busy), so I let the conversation lapse for a few weeks because I couldn't bear the strain, then he disappeared off the apps. I was gutted. I have thought about him every day. Nobody's affected me like this before. Today I've logged onto the app, and he's back with a new profile. So, I've liked him....waiting to see if he'll like me back. But he could have got on touch with me in the interim if he'd wanted to.

I feel so down, so lonely, so bereft about this kind of thing- I've tried so hard to do all the right things, but I seem to be romantic Kryptonite. If only I could work out what I'm doing wrong ☹