Come on in, chat thread

[BlackeyedSusan]

Good morning. Come and chat. Somewhere to escape to if the rest of life is too overwhelming..or just to relax.
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crackofdoom so glad you had a great trip! Do you get sensory overload on trains etc - I'm guessing no? Definitely get some rest before tackling anything!

Sorry about the lonely thing, I seem to be friendship Kryptonite and it's hard. I'm not a dating expert, never did online. But I think we live in a very strange world now and I can only say be careful out there.

Emma not normally, I find the underlying whooshing of the train acts like white noise. Things like cars and especially motorbikes revving really set me off though.

Funnily enough, in recent years I have managed to cultivate some decent friendships, and I put it down to being happier in my own skin, more accepting of myself, and giving less of a shit about what people think- remember, if they're being weird it probably has very little to do with you. Also, I got involved with Extinction Rebellion and made some good friends through that, even though I don'tdo as much as I used to. I'm still much happier when it's just one on one though.

Now, if only I could work out the knack of doing it romantically! ☹

I find the underlying whooshing of the train acts like white noise

I find this, and if I am by the window and can see adjacent tracks 'running' past, it has a soporific effect on me if I look down at them.

Glad you had a lovely trip!

I don't like white noise either. Lord knows where I should live 😂

Just pondering how I would make a great spy , the kind that does stakeouts😂always sitting outside of places for ages, trying to figure out what to do, does door push or pull, is that the entrance of the exit, is it busy or quiet, work up the courage etc to try and calm down the swirling social anxiety.

Managed to find out my dentist appt and went an hour earlier to scout out if you have to wait outside or inside, masks no masks, as rules have recently changed in Scotland. Then went to tesco and did the same thing as was nervous about getting it wrong/how busy is it at this time, can I work up the nerve to go in etc.

The names bond, pyii bond, licence to people watch 😂

Oh God, working out the RULES and how not to get it WRONG...😬

I have loads of child taxiing on Tuesdays, and it's a really tight schedule. So I went online to find the fish and chip shop near DS2's swimming, and ordered food online. Except that there are two, and I inadvertently ordered from the one that doesn't have parking near it, and there was nowhere to park, and the food wasn't quite ready, and I had to park- get this- on a single yellow line on a kerb for 5 minutes! I was heading for a full on freakout, and another customer was like "It's OK, the traffic warden has clocked off for the day!", and I was like "No, you don't understand! It's not good parking practice! It's not RIGHT!" I realise I was really getting quite agitated 😬

Wow, I do miss driving but I can't imagine deciphering parking rules now!

Having one of those days where I miss my former friends so much I could sit down amd cry 😭

Hello? Anyone about?

Yeah, I'm about. Wassup?

Hi Barrow

I can't believe I'm about to say this, even on anonymous forum.

Obviously you see from my posts I have been lonely. Really missing my pre lockdown life.

so....I almost kissed a bloke at work today! For some reason, I just now realised what a close shave that was. I'm sitting watching Grey's Anatomy, where people are constantly snogging at work 😂...and I just thought....yes, that was a narrow escape.

I guard my professionalism with my life. Thank goodness I didn't actually do it.

For background, I'm not in the office very often and when I am, lately he's been sort of putting himself in my way and going on about how great it is to see me.

Then again, I'm dreadful at deciphering this stuff. I once went out for a drink with a friend of a friend who I was sure was gay...until he gave me a full on kiss good night.

i just needed to share that with someone. Or the whole of MN, lol.

🤔 is he single?

It could be the start of something 😃🥰😚

I can totally see the madness of being ND leading down odd roads. Seriously, the last time I had a fling, it was because I was bored. And he was good looking 😂

Is it ADHD or is it peri? I find myself being inappropriate a lot at the moment. It's like I do half my life in strange hyperactive state and the other half feeling very very low.

Probably a mixture of adhd and peri. Are you finding it's interfering with your functioning though?

Definitely. I have to give a presentation on Wednesday and I haven't even started it. Something else I realised today is that I have had periods of being disorganised at work but it's almost as if I don't remember them.

very weird state of mind at the mo. Today i also asked my solicitor a few questions that had already been answered in stuff she said to me before.

i don't think the stress of the moving/not moving is helping.

thanks for listening. I'm going to bed, will try to fix brain tomorrow!

Okay, night night😴

Aah, peace and quiet for an hour or two! DP didn't sleep well so has gone back to bed and MIL isn't having a bad day. 🙃I am having a relaxing-ish morning at last!

I've just started on a 5/2 diet so made some roasted nuts to snack on and then went and cut some more tulips and some wallflowers from the garden for a small but lovely bouquet 😍

Lily glad you had some peace. Beautiful bouquet.

I have been without internet! And only have it now as I'm at mum's overnight.

Over privileged problem - wondering if I should stop doing bits round the flat and accept that I need to pay for a quick decorating job whether for sale or rent. It is really annoying trying to do bits and pieces.

Also I have to go to the office every day till my internet is fixed, so add the commute in...then have to help mum one night and weekends. She is still awaiting hospital appointments.

Emma, I'd say do what you can, but for selling it might be worth getting a decorator in (go for boring whites and shades thereof for resale) as you have an awful lot on your plate with caring (and work?) and you want the estate agent photos to look good.

I tried to get DP to understand we needed our cottage decorated as it was very tired and more than a bit grubby despite my best efforts, but he refused and we sold at a loss 🙄😡

Can you keep a diary / journal of your move and progress so you can keep an eye on what you have already asked the solicitor - and keep their costs at a minimum!😱😀

Lily thanks, that's an interesting perspective. So far, most commenters have thought that because most people would refurb the whole place, it's not worth doing a coat of paint to freshen it up. But I increasingly think it might be.

I hate our throwaway culture but here we are - most buyers will be thinking that 20 year old bathroom, kitchen, flooring etc is ancient.

Lily re conveyancing, I keep a status sheet in the file, but the conveyancing is fixed fee.

i asked my solicitor repeat questions because it's like I can't register the info in front of me. My brain does seem to be working better after the long weekend.

forgot to log on and book parents evening. thankfully so did a lot of other parents and I have managed to get appointments wiht all the teachers.

and now can't sleep

Hopefully you're asleep now.

I don't have kids but my feeling is that school stuff is now full of nightmare log ins etc.

welllllll... I went ot bed turned the light out. looked at my phone and then a fucking spider ran over my hand and off down the duvet.... so not a lot of sleep was had. I slept with the light on. today I have to wash the spider guts out of the duvet.

Oh dear
i woke up so many times, I feel like I haven't slept. I hate that.

I am due to workout after work. Getting back into it slowly. It really helps with focus.