Neurodiversity support thread for women with suspected, diagnosed or self-diagnosed autism, ADHD and other NDs #18

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As usual, latest support thread.

Welcome

Haha Bubbles that really made me chuckle! I was rubbing my eye while waiting for DD to finish on the loo at about 5:45 early this morning and I was like WTF how did I forget one contact lens.

Glad you're feeling good. It's good to know it is possible if I just get off my bum and go to bed!

I took DS2 to the park this morning. Where he fell asleep on the swing.

Then we went to my mums and ate ice pops.

Home now to chill for a bit before heading to college tonight.

Had a phone call before, my work have booked me onto a first aid course tomorrow and Thursday. The owner of the nursery is going to pick me up and take me.
I'm.a bit "arrrggghhh what if she decides she doesn't like me after all?!"
Then hopefully my DBS will be through and I can start either Friday or Monday

I wanted to get up for the sunrise this morning, but forgot the solstice was today. Plus I only had about five hours sleep as it is, never mind getting up at five!

I'm going to buck the trend and be a lark. I still seem to have the internal clock of a young child and always wake up early, even when I go to sleep late. Like now for example, I've been going to sleep at 1-2 am every night for about 5 weeks now (normally it would be about 23.00) and getting up at 7 on weekdays and even in the weekends I've only once slept past 8.00.

Good luck with the nursery HRF

Hope you enjoy the first aid course today HRF!

Rivier let us know how the lark thing goes I do not believe I will ever be one.... I'm not sure I'd even want to be

I'm sort of being productive today.... although I haven't yet washed and got dressed properly... so I feel like a slob....

Does anyone think a just turned 12 year old girl like might like a pair of funky slobby yoga pant type things? Or do you have an idea for a 12 year old. I forgot my niece's birthday a month ago

I was still awake at sunrise 😒 Sleep all kinds of fucked ATM.

My sleep is awful. I stay up too late and can't get up early.

hrf Hope the course goes well. You've totally got this. They offered you the job on the spot and are already paying out for first aid and dbs. They are investing money and time into you already because they know
You can do this.

I'm slowly getting used to people being in my office. It's not as scary as I thought. Yesterday I even did "boss" things. I wonder what they think of us. Our office is far from traditional. Yesterday we bought an air on unit and it was broken. We took it back and came back with a fridge We are now living with fans instead of air con but we have cold Coke...

In good news DD has made massive progress. She's walked home a
Couple of times on her own and let herself in with her own key. This morning she walked to school on her own. It's about a 25 minute walk. She's done really well.

I texted a friend who has a kid around that age MrsNutella, as I have no idea and my go to present would be lego and she said that sounded good or a voucher (because she said buying for them at that age is a pain in the arse )

I'm trying to get over my fear of failure today, I can so many projects and ideas because I'm always scared they will fail/won't be as good as I imagine in my head. So I'm working on my food blog idea I mentioned on the last thread (or possibly this one, my scale of time is )

oh no autisticrat! Are you embracing it or trying to get back to the normal? I'm still on schedule atm, I got up at 7am... I give it a week before its messed up again!

I'm a bit low at the moment so I'm just being apathetic and self-hating about it.

Well done for setting a new pattern! Remember it's really hard to stick with it, but a lot easier than fixing it again.

Good luck HRF! I'm sure you'll be great

DD is being very trying. Sleep refusal and vile behaviour at night. Tired and grumpy in day! Consequently so are DH and myself.

Fatih I hope your day hasn't been too bad. I hate how shit a parent I feel when I am tired I feel awful.

Actually, recently bedtimes had become a bit of shouting match with DS doing lots of fidgeting and generally pushing my buttons. I suddenly figured it out.... he is too tired to listen to stories. Instead of three stories in bed I tried one more active book on his rug and one story book in bed and then cuddle. Way more relaxed!

DS spends most of his day outside at kindergarten he is getting a wicked tan playing in water so of course he is shattered.

I have had an odd day.... sort of productive. I have put in about four different internet orders suddenly because we are going on holiday and I only own one pair of shorts I have been meaning to do them for months a while...

Tomorrow I have a pedicure booked. I'm really looking forward to it!

I'm sorry for incoming rant but I need to do it somewhere. How the fuck do you deal when your families tragedy is played out in the fucking gutter press. A few of you may make the link if you see it because I talked about it when it happened a couple of months ago. Right now my grieving family is being blamed and trolled online at a time when they are grieving and struggling. Being blamed for something they had no control over. This is outing as fuck to anyone that knows me but I don't even care. A public inquest has meant everything played out in the press. Fuck the fuck off bastard gutter press and your trolls and leave my family the fuck alone.

I never read the trash press but it's come up on my Fb as a young member of my family is posting desperately trying to stick up for her family as they are being blamed for everything. It's heartbreaking.

Rant away Weaver I cannot imagine what the intrusion feels like for all of you. It's horrible how stories are twisted and edited. And online trolls are just mindless scum.
All I can wish for you is that they are all quickly distracted by something shiny and piss of and leave you all alone.

Slight topic change...

Can anyone help me with what I'm supposed to be doing today? I'm a bit lost... not really sure why.

Ahhhhh yes! Just found the prescription for a new nebuliser machine thing that I could of find anywhere yesterday. So pleased! I was driving myself as looking for it. Phew!

MrsN what you needing to do today apart from grab your prescription?

Hmmmm I've cleaned the bathrooms. Other than that... I could go and buy coffee and sit in the cafe for a bit the change of scenery would probably be good.... but it's going to be really hot today and I have to drive the old crappy car with no air con.

Other things on my list are mostly crafty bits:
Leggings for DD
Shorts for DS
Next part of my bag so I can think about handles.....
Etc
Etc
Etc
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Hmmm. A change of scenery might be a good thing.

Weaver

DS2 has an autism diagnosis!! They were so nice and very on the ball and wanted me to be on a parent panel thing at the children's development centre because I'm so obsessed knowledgeable when it comes to autism.

Woohoo!

BDH congratulations on your knowledge I think and for DS2! How old is he? I hope the diagnosis is useful for him and you too.

Wouldn't it be good if they did have autistic people on parent panels? I'm sure there will be more roles in the future that want an autistic person for a particular approach.... I did read about a tech company wanting more autistic people.....they wanted creative thinkers IIRC. Just thinking there must have always been people who looked at stuff differently through the ages and brought something to it.
That would be nice rather than an instant "ok, how do we deal with this problem" mindset I suppose.

I'm not sure I've worded that well but you get what I mean.

I did go for a nice coffee in the end this morning. Then my foot job and then it was lovely and windy and it has cooled down immensely.

My plan is to craft tomorrow morning. Which feels good, as a kind of plan.

My DH keeps saying he'd love to employ some autistic people but he wants to make sure I can cope with the office first. Logically it should be easy for us to adjust because I've already adjusted to myself so it should just be odd other sensory things.

I'm a bit calmer now than I was last night. Luckily the stories haven't gone as far as I feared. There are trolls and grief but this morning I've seen a local press story that's been beautifully and sensitively written. The comments are really thoughtful and it's raised some awareness for an event my family are doing in her memory to raise funds for the hospital that treated her.

My prayer is that some good can come from
It all and her situation can help others. It's hard for me as I was in a very similar situation when I was her age but thankfully my situation had a brighter ending.

bdh fantastic news. It shouldn't matter having that piece of paper but it really does. Hope you can get his adjustments sorted without hassle.

Excellent news BDH

My DH keeps saying he'd love to employ some autistic people

polishes cv

Haha well if you live in the north west near Manchester/Liverpool and are able to do sales, marketing, design or programming seriously do hit me up in pm.

The two young lads we took on we employed based purely on their portfolios. The youngest one just finished his a levels. We don't even know his grades but the work he's produced is amazing. We figure you can teach stuff like work flow, procedures etc but you can't teach raw talent.

Loads of companies want experience but that doesn't bother us. They are producing awesome work with no commercial experience. They may take longer to do things or need to ask more questions but it really doesn't matter. We are just throwing things at them ATM to see where there strengths lie. If I ever become an employer that doesn't have time to answer a question or help someone out then I don't want to do this anymore.

Was a web developer, but much too far away for that commute jealous of people who live near though as reason I had to give it up is because most employers are the direct opposite of you and its far too stressful to deal with their nonsense