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Fil reluctant to serve niether myself nor dh nice champagne?

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KnittedJimmychoos · 24/04/2021 22:07

Fudged details in case the eye of sauron gets hold...

But Mil and fil had been entertaining their friends, say Peter and Jane... Dh and I came in after their meal... And fil opened a really nice bottle of champagne.. Dh and I sat down chatting and fil served his friend but not me?
I made eyes at dh so he got a glass and went to serve me a glass, dh was driving and also doesn't like it.. Fil suddenly looked panicked and asked who was driving, and as dh poured he tried to make sure it was a half glass even though dh said he was ie empty excuse ? Meanwhile he then took the bottle and topped up his fiend chatting happily!
Dh then took bottle to fill me up and again fil seemed panicky!!
I did say I only fancied one glass.. And he sort of sucked in his breath and looked at me like a five year old and said "this is a really good bottle".

For context there is no way on earth my df would ever serve one person like this and not another!
Maybe he got out this bottle and hadn't reckoned on us coming back but isn't this the height of rudeness?? The mother of his only grandchildren??

Pils live in house worth a few million, not London, are very well off.. Have a wine cupboard.. They also treat dh like this.. On other stuff... Ie this wasn't a treasured special bottle saved for anniversary they can't replace..
I'm not keen anyway but I felt this was so unpleasant! Your not good enough for me to give nice champagne too!
Can't say the make because its fudged details.

Or.. Is it understandable to only want to serve this to his pal who it was intended for? I often feel like we are treated like second class citizens!!

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MissKeithsNeice · 24/04/2021 22:11

I think yab a bit unreasonable. Presumably their friends really enjoy good champagne, they'd been waiting to share it with them, weren't expecting you...

And as for the The mother of his only grandchildren?? comment

FizzyApricot · 24/04/2021 22:12

Do you live with them or did you gatecrash their party?

HepLaurenceLB · 24/04/2021 22:12

Maybe he had spiked the bottle with poison and was trying to kill his friend. If that was the case then your FIL saved your life which was very sweet.

FizzyApricot · 24/04/2021 22:13

Had you already been drinking? Do you not appreciate fine wine but rather down it in one?

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KnittedJimmychoos · 24/04/2021 22:13

Ok, fair enough..

As I said there is no way my parents would have done this to dh! It would all be equal... And my dp have far far less!

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daisypond · 24/04/2021 22:14

Were they expecting you to visit?

UhtredRagnarson · 24/04/2021 22:15

How incredibly rude of him! Regardless of whether he likes you/doesn’t like you/wants to give you his good champagne a good host would never make it known they didn’t want you to have it. Urgh. He doesn’t respect you OP.

BeenAsFarAsMercyAndGrand · 24/04/2021 22:15

Were you invited for this gathering? It's not clear from the post and makes a big difference.

LemonRoses · 24/04/2021 22:15

You popped in and expected to guzzle the bottle he was sharing with friends?

GappyValley · 24/04/2021 22:15

Firstly, the covid thread police are going to come for you any second..!

Secondly, yes, it just sounds like he has made a judgment that you and DH don’t really appreciate good wine, so you’re not worth wasting the good stuff on.

Maybe he just sees you both as children in his eyes, maybe you don’t appreciate good wine?
Maybe that bottle was opened to celebrate something specific with the friend and you gatecrashed and took their wine and therefore lessened the celebration?

There is something quite ritualistic to a lot of people about jointly celebrating with champagne and for you to just pitch up and take a few glasses would be seen as gatecrashing

It’s probably not worth falling out over.
Maybe make a joke of it and tell him that you’re doing a wine tasting course so you are worthy of the good wine, maybe just leave him to drinks with his mates in the future

doodleygirl · 24/04/2021 22:15

What a weird man, of course it was rude.

GreenSlide · 24/04/2021 22:15

So they'd been saving a nice bottle to share with friends and you decided to come along and get involved? How annoying for FIL lol.

BeenAsFarAsMercyAndGrand · 24/04/2021 22:16

It sounds a lot like your PILs had planned an evening drinking with friends, and you walked in and demanded a glass. If so, YABVU

AdoraBell · 24/04/2021 22:16

I would have said - I’m so sorry, I didn’t realise you always give family cheap rubbish.

I’ve never experienced this, my ILs always buy cheapest food and drink. Everyone gets the same.

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KnittedJimmychoos · 24/04/2021 22:16

Dh and his family used to live over seas.
This friend Peter and Jane did as well but they all live in the UK now.
However they had not seen these friends for a long time, Mil did a meal for them sil and her dh were invited but it was made clear ish we were not welcome.
Ie lots of hints about us being busy with the dc etc But dh really wanted to also see this family friend so we dropped in later..

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MoiraNotRuby · 24/04/2021 22:17

You sound like a cheeky gatecrasher. How generous are you and your DH to your PIL? It comes across like you expect one set of parents or other to treat you, but what about you ever treating them?

Bluntness100 · 24/04/2021 22:17

Were you invited to join them? You’re not very clear. If you were invited and part of the evening then he behaved horribly, if you just fronted up then you were a bit rude,

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KnittedJimmychoos · 24/04/2021 22:18

I didn't demand a glass... Fil happily served friend and I caught dh eye and "made eyes" to the bottle as no moves had been made to get me or indeed dh a drink...

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Bluntness100 · 24/04/2021 22:18

Sorry cross posted, you gate crashed when you were not invited then wanted them to supply you with drink!

Who fronts up like this? That’s so rude.

BeenAsFarAsMercyAndGrand · 24/04/2021 22:18

@KnittedJimmychoos

Dh and his family used to live over seas. This friend Peter and Jane did as well but they all live in the UK now. However they had not seen these friends for a long time, Mil did a meal for them sil and her dh were invited but it was made clear ish we were not welcome. Ie lots of hints about us being busy with the dc etc But dh really wanted to also see this family friend so we dropped in later..

So you weren't invited. But popped by and expected champagne. Fucking hell.

Frankly, you're lucky they didn't tell you outright to sod off.

Bluntness100 · 24/04/2021 22:19

@KnittedJimmychoos

I didn't demand a glass... Fil happily served friend and I caught dh eye and "made eyes" to the bottle as no moves had been made to get me or indeed dh a drink...

Well of course not, the pair of you crashed their evening.

Skyliner001 · 24/04/2021 22:19

@KnittedJimmychoos

I didn't demand a glass... Fil happily served friend and I caught dh eye and "made eyes" to the bottle as no moves had been made to get me or indeed dh a drink...

You sound properly grabby.

Pebbledashery · 24/04/2021 22:20

I think it's a hard one. However unwelcoming he comes across.. You sort of gate crashed his evening...

FizzyApricot · 24/04/2021 22:20

So they made clear you weren't invited but turned up and put them on the spot and insisted on drinking their fancy champagne? So embarrassing.

BeenAsFarAsMercyAndGrand · 24/04/2021 22:20

@KnittedJimmychoos

I didn't demand a glass... Fil happily served friend and I caught dh eye and "made eyes" to the bottle as no moves had been made to get me or indeed dh a drink...

Why the fuck should they scurry around getting drinks for people they haven't invited?

If your DH doesn't get invited, it may be at least partly down to your rudeness. You 'made eyes' at him so he'd give you some of their bottle? No one can be this thick skinned, surely?

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