Fil reluctant to serve niether myself nor dh nice champagne?

[KnittedJimmychoos]

Fudged details in case the eye of sauron gets hold...

But Mil and fil had been entertaining their friends, say Peter and Jane... Dh and I came in after their meal... And fil opened a really nice bottle of champagne.. Dh and I sat down chatting and fil served his friend but not me?
I made eyes at dh so he got a glass and went to serve me a glass, dh was driving and also doesn't like it.. Fil suddenly looked panicked and asked who was driving, and as dh poured he tried to make sure it was a half glass even though dh said he was ie empty excuse ? Meanwhile he then took the bottle and topped up his fiend chatting happily!
Dh then took bottle to fill me up and again fil seemed panicky!!
I did say I only fancied one glass.. And he sort of sucked in his breath and looked at me like a five year old and said "this is a really good bottle".

For context there is no way on earth my df would ever serve one person like this and not another!
Maybe he got out this bottle and hadn't reckoned on us coming back but isn't this the height of rudeness?? The mother of his only grandchildren??

Pils live in house worth a few million, not London, are very well off.. Have a wine cupboard.. They also treat dh like this.. On other stuff... Ie this wasn't a treasured special bottle saved for anniversary they can't replace..
I'm not keen anyway but I felt this was so unpleasant! Your not good enough for me to give nice champagne too!
Can't say the make because its fudged details.

Or.. Is it understandable to only want to serve this to his pal who it was intended for? I often feel like we are treated like second class citizens!!

Finally Here- you are totally scripting the awesome murder mystery.

@CaraherEIL

It’s like Cluedo, it was Professor Tightwad in the study with the champagne bottle. Someone missing... Jane...gone to bed Missing couple seen earlier at dinner SIL of the immaculate fanny. We forgot John....who the hell is JOHN? The plot thickens

😂😂😂

@KnittedJimmychoos

Dh and his family used to live over seas. This friend Peter and Jane did as well but they all live in the UK now. However they had not seen these friends for a long time, Mil did a meal for them sil and her dh were invited but it was made clear ish we were not welcome. Ie lots of hints about us being busy with the dc etc But dh really wanted to also see this family friend so we dropped in later..

A long winded way of saying you turned up to something you weren't invited to.

Perhaps worth thinking about why you weren't invited.

@FinallyHere I was reading all that in the voice of Hercules Poirrot!

My money's on the swinging angle!

Maybe fil and Peter came out as a couple to mil and Jane and are toasting each with the champagne hence why Jane is gone to bed and mil has disappeared. A real life Grace and Frankie!

[quote CandyLeBonBon]@FinallyHere I was reading all that in the voice of Hercules Poirrot!

My money's on the swinging angle! [/quote]
I’ll be honest, I’m disappointed that I’m seemingly a lone voice in that regard, given that it seems so obvious 🤷‍♀️

Isn’t it a bit mean that you’re so I welcome but sil and Dh are invited?

Champagne aside that sounds quite harsh.

But yes I suppose he was looking forward to the champagne with friends and didn’t expect you. But still

Unwelcome that is

@FinallyHere

Another voice saying you can't judge the situation about the son not being invited.

Notice that the son only found out by accident that the 'old friend' was coming.

Then the son was clearly not invited to the dinner.

And turns up with his DW anyway , and having seen her signals, pours his wife a glass from the bottle they had not been offered.

It could be DF is just horrible, but we are being given the DiL's version of events, from which we glean that there was a reason they were not invited snd turn up anyway and there seems to be a pattern of at least tackless if not CF behaviour.

Possible reasons, all equally plausible as swingers just getting going. Imagine if the old friend is visiting to share something to the detriment of the son? Shady business dealing, or even worse. Maybe just wanting to change his will or otherwise get some confidential advice

The event is dressed up as a family party, DD is primed and clears out early as agreed. Visitors wife decided to 'go up early' leaving the way clear for DF and old friend to have that confidential talk.

Who turns up, the son and DiL saying they just wanted to pop in and say hello. Hello is said. No drinks or other hospitality are offered, which as any full knows means 'it's time to go home'

DiL makes eyes at son, he pours her a glass (or half glass and top up - it's not clear ) and the painful silence stretches on.

Old Friend has limited opportunity for this private and confidential talk. He wonders why the privacy he was promised in the invitation has not materialised ? DF waits for son and DiL to take the hint.

It's not good is it?

Exactly, the confirmed paternity test results. The briefcase of foreign cash. The overseas bank account, the overdue shipment. Jane goes to bed early, to leave the big boys to talk, but then (Oh No!) Miranda Hart and DH arrive unannounced and start drinking all the Verve!!

I'm coming in late here but I think it's sad you and DH weren't invited, was it a case of after a drink at home there was a 'fuck it why should we be left out!' moment. Then you go round there? Then not being offered a drink was FiLs 'we never invited you' I would have felt upset to not be invited but it's very ballsy to turn up like that. I wonder what the guest thought of it all

I feel like there was a bowl of Pom bears on the table...

@MiddleClassProblem

I feel like there was a bowl of Pom bears on the table...

No. Just a bowl of keys!

@CaraherEIL 😃

@CandyLeBonBon you mean the 'old friend's' was handcuffed to the bed upstairs wondering g what was keeping them? Oooh errr

@BadMotherLover

Big fan of Miranda, this is absolutely spot on for her material but [earnest voice on] absolutely not for her. I [earnestly] think she portrays people doing this and wouldn't be able to see the cringe factor so clearly if she did it herself.

As OP seems not to do.

Far from it. But I’m not surprised you asked

Sorry? Surely if you are saying ‘all bets are off’ it means you think you can do as you like?

Isn’t it a bit mean that you’re so I welcome but sil and Dh are invited?

It might be mean. It doesn’t give them a right to invite themselves.

What’s stopping OP and her husband inviting Peter and Jane round to theirs if they want to catch up? It’s all very bizarre

I'd like to change my vote to youbvu, if you hadn;t been invited why did you go!?

@Fieldoftheclothofgold

Isn’t it a bit mean that you’re so I welcome but sil and Dh are invited?

It might be mean. It doesn’t give them a right to invite themselves.

Probably not but I couldn’t imagine doing this.

@CandyLeBonBon Pom bears is an MN swingers reference. Pom bears and pampas grass.

Maybe MIL had popped the cork using her vaginal muscles so she was just taking a moment. And that’s why they were in a state of horror over OP having a glass.

Probably not but I couldn’t imagine doing this.

I probably wouldn’t, but it’s not unimaginable. Maybe they don’t like her.

To be fair, I don't much like people who are so thick skinned that even when I let they know they are not invited, you can depend on their turning up anyway and helping themselves to drinks.

Would we class vodka and coke as an aperitif?

@Fieldoftheclothofgold

Probably not but I couldn’t imagine doing this.

I probably wouldn’t, but it’s not unimaginable. Maybe they don’t like her.

Maybe but it’s their son too ;

Perhaps the friends have a better relationship with sil and her dh.