Fil reluctant to serve niether myself nor dh nice champagne?

[KnittedJimmychoos]

Fudged details in case the eye of sauron gets hold...

But Mil and fil had been entertaining their friends, say Peter and Jane... Dh and I came in after their meal... And fil opened a really nice bottle of champagne.. Dh and I sat down chatting and fil served his friend but not me?
I made eyes at dh so he got a glass and went to serve me a glass, dh was driving and also doesn't like it.. Fil suddenly looked panicked and asked who was driving, and as dh poured he tried to make sure it was a half glass even though dh said he was ie empty excuse ? Meanwhile he then took the bottle and topped up his fiend chatting happily!
Dh then took bottle to fill me up and again fil seemed panicky!!
I did say I only fancied one glass.. And he sort of sucked in his breath and looked at me like a five year old and said "this is a really good bottle".

For context there is no way on earth my df would ever serve one person like this and not another!
Maybe he got out this bottle and hadn't reckoned on us coming back but isn't this the height of rudeness?? The mother of his only grandchildren??

Pils live in house worth a few million, not London, are very well off.. Have a wine cupboard.. They also treat dh like this.. On other stuff... Ie this wasn't a treasured special bottle saved for anniversary they can't replace..
I'm not keen anyway but I felt this was so unpleasant! Your not good enough for me to give nice champagne too!
Can't say the make because its fudged details.

Or.. Is it understandable to only want to serve this to his pal who it was intended for? I often feel like we are treated like second class citizens!!

Is a vodka lime and lemonade ok?

[quote MiddleClassProblem]@CandyLeBonBon Pom bears is an MN swingers reference. Pom bears and pampas grass.[/quote]
Yes. I know!

This thread has been hilarious.

Who invites themselves to an event they clearly aren't invited to and instead of reading the room and the obvious cues that they weren't invited start eyeing up the bubbly, then getting annoyed?

It sounds like PIL were gracious enough to entertain a quick hello when OP and her DH showed up uninvited and didn't anticipate them crashing the evening. At least the in laws know in future to say 'no, we're busy' at the door.

@SusieQ5604

Maybe it's bc I'm from the Southern US but we think nothing of dropping by without calling. If there's an event going on, we'd excuse ourselves

However my philosophy (and most of my friends and family agree) is 'the more, the merrier' so I would welcome whoever dropped by. However, I also live in Louisiana where we never need an excuse for a party.

OTOH, I understand the in-laws' point of view.

I'm from Ireland and we are the exact same. And I totally agree with you - though I would never be made to feel unwelcome, if my in laws had friends in I wouldn't take any of their wine, I would just say I'm just passing through and not staying, ask everyone how they are, exchange a few pleasantries and be on my way because I wouldn't want to intrude. It's not a crime to want to spend time with friends. As for the sister being there, well we really don't the full story or the family dynamic as to why she was there and OP and her husband were not invited.

My cast member suggestions:
@Hopeisnotastrategy

“FIL - Peter Bowles in a smoking jacket
MIL - Joanna Lumley or Alison Steadman
Peter - Peter Beale or Larry Lamb
Jane - Penelope Wilton or Jane Asher
OP's DH - Nicholas Lyndhurst
OP - Is a tough one”

She may be fictional, but I’d have OP down as Tracy Horrobin.

@LolaSmiles

This thread has been hilarious.

Who invites themselves to an event they clearly aren't invited to and instead of reading the room and the obvious cues that they weren't invited start eyeing up the bubbly, then getting annoyed?

It sounds like PIL were gracious enough to entertain a quick hello when OP and her DH showed up uninvited and didn't anticipate them crashing the evening. At least the in laws know in future to say 'no, we're busy' at the door.

It's the 'why weren't we invited ' that cracks me up

@MiddleClassProblem

Maybe MIL had popped the cork using her vaginal muscles so she was just taking a moment. And that’s why they were in a state of horror over OP having a glass.

😭😭😭😭😭

Daffodil can we have Ruth Jones in full Nessa mode as the OP?

Perhaps the friends have a better relationship with sil and her dh.

I strongly expect most people do.

I agree this has been a fantastic thread. Better than the penis beaker or Centre Parcs anal sex. OP please keep us updated with future developments.

Especially paternity test results, Peter's overseas business deals, evil uncle John, Jane & MIL's unexplained absence.

Right I'm off for a bucket of KFC and a very large....

Vodka & Coke.

Even though its my thread and dealing with actually, a painful topic at time to for for me and esp dh is it etticute to ask this to go in classics?
Or is this not mn etticute, am I not reading the room and being bullish?

@Fieldoftheclothofgold

Perhaps the friends have a better relationship with sil and her dh.

I strongly expect most people do.

Ha you’re really going for it

Well, it’s p.40 - got to!

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. I hate champagne.

I would expect any functioning adult to understand that if they are not offered a drink on turning up uninvited, that is the cue to leave. They do not help themselves, all the more so if the drink is clearly a special occasion drink. OP you are unbelievably rude and entitled.

he sounds like a tightarse, but you sound like you maybe were having some trouble "reading the room" and understanding that he's a tightarse.

I can't imagine ever having family/friends/acquaintances in my house and not offering them a sup of whatever was going round.

It's the 'why weren't we invited ' that cracks me up
Same here.
People with no manners wonder why they aren't invited to a social gathering.

I can’t imagine not welcoming my child to see old friends. I can’t imagine being so rude as to not offer my son and his wife whatever we were drinking. I’d be embarrassed to have my friends see me being cheap. I’d be uncomfortable watching a host act like this if I were the friends.

But I think your IL’s might look at their son in not the nicest way.

I think there's a reason you and your husband weren't invited... and it's nothing to do with him.

See, I’m Irish too but I don’t think this is an Oh the English are so unfriendly situation as has been implied by some posters. Not every event in Ireland is a “come-all-ye” 🙄 despite the impression some like to give. We do actually sometimes invite specific people at a specific time for a specific meal! And so do people in the US, Eastern Europe, Australia etc.

Can we stop pretending that anything other than a casual, show up when you feel like it, everyone squeeze in, mountain of food on the table social occasion is weird or (negatively) English because it’s really not.

You will never get op that you are the problem here.

Is there a thread two yet? We’re running out of space!

The fact you want the thread to go in the classic just shows how self centred you are. Your behaviour is nothing to be proud of your very rude and entitled.

@hannayeah

I can’t imagine not welcoming my child to see old friends. I can’t imagine being so rude as to not offer my son and his wife whatever we were drinking. I’d be embarrassed to have my friends see me being cheap. I’d be uncomfortable watching a host act like this if I were the friends.

But I think your IL’s might look at their son in not the nicest way.

Really? You can’t imagine, even when you use your full imagination, a situation when your DIL is a bit of a lush who gets pissed and says awkward things, or dominates the conversation, or a son who makes inappropriate jokes and makes people feel awkward?

You can’t imagine a situation where those good friends asked if they could have a catch up with just the 4 of you because they had to break some bad news, or share some confidential news, or just because they wanted a catch up with old friends without their kids butting into conversation?