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To Have Murderous Thoughts About Colleague?

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Mansplanation · 08/08/2018 20:34

I’m leaving my job and my replacement was hired, so I’m handing over.

Today he’s been reviewing my work over the last few months to get familiar with the accounts and when I asked how he was getting on, his reply was ‘it’s all quite good actually! I’m really surprised!’ Hmm

Later in the day, he commented that ‘you’re actually quite good at your job aren’t you?’

Then ‘well done, this looks like you planned it this way’

He also proceeded to explain my job to me in great detail. Over. And over. And over again. All the while, asking very very basic questions and eventually I said ‘yep, that’s very standard, have you not seen that before?’ To call him out on it and he replied ‘yeah I have, I just wanted to see if you knew why it’s done that way’


Somebody PLEASE lend me their willpower because I’m one ‘well done’ away from stapling a gold star to his fucking forehead.

I need to bite my tongue so I can leave and get to my new job but I’m really bloody struggling Sad

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numptynuts · 08/08/2018 20:36


FoxesSitOnBoxes · 08/08/2018 20:37

He sounds awful!! Say something. Poss not call him a shart goblin but absolutely pick him up on that shit.

numptynuts · 08/08/2018 20:37

Shart goblin? 😂 I'm using that

HollowTalk · 08/08/2018 20:37

Oh god, you have to tell him! Explain mansplaining in massive detail.

ProudThrilledHappy · 08/08/2018 20:38

Maybe skip shart goblin, but I’d be tempted to reply “of course I’m good, why do you think I’m being promoted?”

Dljlr · 08/08/2018 20:39

Please call him a shart goblin just once over your shoulder on the way out on your last day. It's too good to waste.

I heard mansplaining described as 'correctile dysfunction' recently. Maybe throw that in too

beeny · 08/08/2018 20:39

Confront him, say how much your senior your next role is because of your competence ! Tell him you can give him tips in the future about how to get ahead !

Disfordarkchocolate · 08/08/2018 20:39

Why not say something? You don't have to be rude just clear, after all one of the reasons you got a job that's better than the one he's about to start is that you're really good at this one!

travailtotravel · 08/08/2018 20:40

Please please call him a shart goblin. Just because I can't and have a colleague this properly applies to.

Mansplanation · 08/08/2018 20:43

I had to catch my tongue earlier because he mansplained how money works. Genuinely.

‘Sometimes the account can overspend so I like to put a budget in the account to stop this from happening’

I VERY NEARLY said ‘that’s literally accounting. You just explained accounting to me. Did you know I’m an accountant?’

(Industry is not accounting but it’s a parallel example)

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Mansplanation · 08/08/2018 20:46

Another incredible example;

‘I find when I’m talking to clients that it works best if you explain what you mean when you talk them through things. It’s a really good way to manage them’

‘Oh! that’s where I’ve been going wrong! See, I’ve been going into client meetings, ranting in tongues for 20 minutes without taking a breath and then explained the whole thing again through the medium of interpretive dance’

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Cruggs · 08/08/2018 20:46

You're leaving. Nothing to lose by calling him on it IMO. Patronising fucker.

HollowTalk · 08/08/2018 20:47

Call him out on it, every single time. You know you want to and you'd be doing every other woman in the world a favour as a result.

Mansplanation · 08/08/2018 20:48

I’m going to have to call him on it tomorrow if he does it again (he absolutely will). I fear for my sanity if i don’t.

I actually think it’s because HE doesn’t understand a lot of the stuff in the accounts and he’s pointing out the obvious because he thinks his understanding is revolutionary, when it’s actually completely basic.

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CSIblonde · 08/08/2018 20:48

You've made him feel inadequate by being so good at your job. So nows he's overcompensating by playing 'explainer'. Be glad it didn't get nasty:. My replacement who'd been simmering with resentment despite my taking her to lunch, introducing her round, going thru the fab handover notes I'd been given by my predecessor etc, asking if she'd prefer to do stuff alone or have me come with etc, on my last day, had a public shouting fit at me because she forgot we'd agreed to a last chat. My bosses were aghast.

IceCreamFace · 08/08/2018 20:50

Oh my god I'm so embarrassed for him what a tool!

Mansplanation · 08/08/2018 20:50

I wouldn’t mind, but I spent the last 3 weeks gettzing everything ship shape and Bristol fashion so that when he came in it would be a super quick handover and an easy first few weeks for him.. wish I hadn’t bothered!

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FiestaThenSiesta · 08/08/2018 20:51

Call him out on it. Why are you very badly explaining basic concepts to me instead of listening and asking relevant questions?

You do realise others will begin to doubt your capabilities if you continue to talk at them like this?

DontTouchTheMoustache · 08/08/2018 20:51

Every time he does it call him out on it.

"Why are you surprised that i am goodat my job? What is the basis of you not expecting me to be good?"

"Why are you explaining this to me? What makes you think i wouldnt understand?"

He sounds like a twat

travailtotravel · 08/08/2018 20:52

Oooh. Coorectile dysfunction. That. Is. Fabulous.

MadamBatty · 08/08/2018 20:53

You need to call him out on it.

You’ve explained accountancy, well done you. That’s very useful as I’m a qualified accountant. I also have x years experience & moving to a senior role. You see I’m a very good accountant SG. A very good accountant indeed.

Maybe steeple your hands for better effect. Now what else would you like to ask me?

I’d call him SG, ignore him when he asks you what you mean.

Mansplanation · 08/08/2018 20:54

I ended up putting my headphones on today just to block the fucker out.

I’ve spent the last 3 months skilling up the rest of the team, so if he actually doesn’t know his shit it will be very obvious to them very quickly.

What’s even worse is I know he’s being paid slightly more than I was for that role Angry

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MyLifeInTheSunshine · 08/08/2018 20:56

Personally, I’d throw in a big fat ‘I’m considerably more senior than YOOOOW’ put-down every time he comes out with this shit.

‘Yes, that’s interesting, but of course now Im going to be in a SO much more senior role I won’t need to worry about such insignificant, entry level details’ etc

Sometimes you have to whip out your much bigger dick with this type of idiot.

Mansplanation · 08/08/2018 20:58

I did slip earlier and when he said ‘you’re actually good at this aren’t you?’ (Attempt at a cheeky, winning smile that made him look like a paedophilic garden gnome)

I replied ‘yes, that will be on account of my training, experience, expertise and industry knowledge’.

He made a knowing ‘aaaahh’ sound , made a clicky sound with his tongue and WINKED at me. He’s lucky I wasn’t holding anything sharp.

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Theweasleytwins · 08/08/2018 20:59

You sound fun op😊shart goblin 😂

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