To Kick These People Out #2

[FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse]

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Summary anyone? :)

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Angela's right, you've got a load of friends here, and I suspect you've got more in RL than you realise right now too.

Angela :) I do.

Sorry, I wasn't going to let the self pity overspill onto here . This is the cheerful bit.

Mistle I'll do just that.

Betty, I do, they're just not local. I have lots of nice acquaintances I just haven't been here long enough to forge more. I need the energy to do that.

I sometimes forget you've got PND as you're so often really funny and cheerful and upbeat on here. But if you have a quick look back at the very beginning of your two threads, you could give yourself a huge pat on the back for what you've already achieved.

Have to go out now, will drop back in later. Bye xx

The black skies and heavy rain here in North Cornwall are pulling my mood down too, so don't be hard on yourself.

With the lights on and the radio blaring out the place starts to feel more alive but nothing beats getting outside, I'm sure better weather is on it's way.

Wow, just read whole two threads - well done you!
And wanted to put my name down for FuckYouFest. DH will bring ukelele and I will bring lots of cakes and some seeds for the wildflower pasture (as well as DD and DS)

Oh Chris I've not suffered from PND so I don't know what you're going through but January's rain is enough to bring anyone down without everything else you've had to go through - and from what you've said on here, the horse situation is just one thing you're dealing with at the moment as well as PND.

We are all here for you, virtually giving you tea and I work from home in a little village that I've only lived in for 3 years (moved from London to the NW) and I feel like I have a lack of true friends here too. Lots of nice people to say hi to on the school run and 'we must have a coffee one day' but no best pals I can call on for a real heartfelt chat (not in the village anyway).

There are more of us on here than you'd think. I see 'I have no friends' threads crop up with sad regularity.

chin up chris you're doing brilliantly, and everyone has ups and downs - PND is a path with obstacles along the way, bastard thing.
I so know what you mean about friends; I dont have local ones either. hang on to your besties, the ones you dont see for ages and then its like you've never been apart. those are the best ones to have, the rest are just nice enough along the way xx

If you haven't lived there long and it's rural and you have a young baby all those things will make your new situation a bit lonely. You are clearly marvellous and funny and once you're out the other side I'm sure all your lovely new village friends will be waiting to be regalled with horse extraction tales.

I am in N Shropshire very near the Welsh Border :) I'll come and help if you need me.

Oh Chris even without PND, I am often self-pitying about my lack of close friends (in the immediate vicinity), so know that lots of us feel that way. Also I'm sure that you have more than you know.

We didn't inherit anything with this house except when clearing out the weeds we found one demonic looking gnome next to its headless partner.

Chris, you have so many friends on mumsnet, what do you need with rl friends?! We are always available 24/7, always tell you you are right, and give you and by the bucket load. Plus you have been a real inspiration to so many of us the way you have stood your ground.

I don't have experience of PND but I have had depression for many years, and something like this would have completely knocked me down I can tell you, you are much stronger than you realise or give yourself credit for.

Also, I have found that depression isolates you when you don't need to be. I am sure there are people in your village who would be glad of a friend like you, especially as you spin a great yarn and have the best gossip in the village just now! Would you feel strong enough to reach out to someone you like the look of with an offer of a coffee and cake at yours, knowing that if you do get rebuffed unlikely you can scurry back here and we will all rip them to shreds and do a thorough character assassination for you?

I have always found "a friend in need is a friend indeed" to be true although it takes some courage to make the first move, which you have in bucketloads.

Now for fuck you fest I can offer various badly played toddler instruments, a very stubborn 3 year old with a rage to rival satan when riled and I can sing a bit being welsh (it's a national trait). Can I come??

I feel similar FYC, my close friends are all too far away to pop in for coffee and the same for family. DP does v long hours atm so I feel quite isolated and lonely at times. I don't think I have PND, but this miserable weather really isnt helping my motivation for getting out to baby groups and things. Roll on spring!

It sounds like you're doing really well. You didn't let Mad Unreasonable Horse Lady beat you for a start! You're allowed to have the odd wobbly day, try not to be hard on yourself. Small steps :)

FYC, I've been where you are (PND, not squatting horses) and I have just come out the otherside. I have been off my anti depressants for 2 months now and I'm coping. And if I can cope in deepest darkest Scotland where the sun hasn't shone for the last fortnight, I know I'm going to be ok. And you will to. I'm not going to pretend out situations are the same, as it sound like you have much more on your plate than this right now.

What I do know is Take each day as it comes, you don't know what is coming, but if you face it head on, it's much easier than pretending it doesn't exist. Which is exactly what you've done with your field situation.

And if you ever need a buddy, you know where to find me.

As pumpkin says a friend in need is a friend indeed, but a friend with cake is better

Glaikit aren't those the lyrics of a 90s song... Can't quite remember who sang it... Not Menswear or Suede?

Oh no - Placebo and it goes "A friend in need is a friend indeed, a friend with weed is better".

I prefer cake!

I've turned into a lurker on my own thread.

I'm reading. I'm very grateful. You're all lovely .

It does take time but you - will- make friends where you are!

Funny, kind, with a definite backbone (once you believe in it) and a sense of humour that can't be topped :)

for the self-lurker!

God, what kind of loser gets stood up by their own counsellor? :(

Sorry, that was particularly self pitying. To put it in context I wrote it on the way back to the car, in the pouring rain and dark, after my counsellor failed to show, just before she replied to my message saying she'd put my apt in for next week accidentally.

Stupid voice is really kicking me today.

I'm going to read all your lovely messages again to try and drown it out.

Someone tell me a joke.

Oh love, I have PND and know things like this can just tip you back onto the wrong side of coping.

I'm doing CBT at the moment and they have suggested looking up laughter yoga. I haven't got around to it yet but hey it might give you a smile

Q. What's brown and sticky?
A. A stick!

Sorry - rubbish joke, but the only one I can remember. It's better than the surrealist efforts of the DC which are usually Knock Knock jokes that make absolutely no sense.

Ida, I've always loved that joke :)

Fly, I'll check that out. I like to laugh. A lot.

I don't know any decent jokes, but I will tell about my most memorable counselling session to cheer you up. I was on my way to a counselling session my pencil skirt split on my way out of work, aaaallll the way up the back so my (even before child) large bottom was on show albeit with a pair of knickers and tights to save my shame and all the colleagues on my floor had seen me walking past on my way out, so no chance of them having missed it. So off I toddle on the bus with my coat tied round my waist, thinking, it's only a 2 minute walk to the office once I'm off the bus, and it wasn't too cold considering it was November in Scotland and I'm a southerner. After my appointment I had to wait for my DP to pick me up on the corner. It is by now dark and FREEZING. Twenty minutes go by and he's still not there. I am so cold now I think bugger it I am putting my coat on and standing back to the wall. Another twenty minutes and I'm fuming, he's not answering phone and I realise I have to get the bus. I have to make the decision to either show my ass to the whole busy street, bus stop and passing cars or freeze....Yes dear reader, I thrust my shoulders back, chin out and strutted to that bus stop like I owned it nice and warm in my coat (apart from the breeze on my buttocks). Turns out DP was playing computer games and had forgotten he was meant to pick me up, he bought me a take-away to say sorry though so my shame was worth it!