D'y ever wonder how many men have been lost in your ample bosom?

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PMSL

I didn't want to be the one to do it! I promise next time I will sellotape my fingers.

Working on it dingdong

Hi ladies

Morning ladies. I am, yet again, putting off housework. Oh, and I'm supposed to be jobhunting too. Leslie, with the pox, if you stick 8 drops of lavender essential oil into the bath, alongside a liberal shake of bicarb of soda, it eases the itching and inflammation of the spots massively. Do a patch test with the oil first though - just a drop in the crease of the elbow and leave for 24 hours.

dingdong, I wish you mild doses of the pox. When/if it gets bad just remember you'll never have to go through it again. Maybe this is why your DT (I can't remember which one) hasn't been herself. My DT1 was off colour and cranky for over a week before any spots appeared. Good luck to you all.

HM, good for you sweetheart, get packing, hit the sunshine and report back, we're always here

I'm going away for the weekend and I'm not really up for it. I really am an anti-social yak and I'm happiest under a stone. I'm sure I will be ok once away but, needless to say, my knickers are in a twist atm.

you may be right fg, its DT1 who has the spots but DT2 who has been off colour for a couple of weeks - I wonder if she's had it but no spots, or no obvious ones anyway...she's far more her old self now. DT1 is quite tetchy and keeps scratching furiously at her scalp, but other than that isn't suffering too badly yet.

I realise I have been very rude and not said hello to the latest victims of the mars/fg press gang, so hello mama and menagerie

I also need to sort my name out...

I love your name dingdong, just do a cod and change it daily to keep us on our toes

Aqueous Calamine (by Care the brand lots of chemists have) worked a treat for me, smoothe and soothing when massaged in. Fingers crossed for you.

my belated hellos too, to newbies, I lose track myself of who has been press ganged and who just stumbled upon our wee hoose! come in, come in grab a cushion and a glass......

I love your name dingdong, just do a cod and change it daily to keep us on our toes

Aqueous Calamine (by Care the brand lots of chemists have) worked a treat for me, smoothe and soothing when massaged in. Fingers crossed for you.

my belated hellos too, to newbies, I lose track myself of who has been press ganged and who just stumbled upon our wee hoose! come in, come in grab a cushion and a glass......

what about this then, does it suit me?

PMSL, PMSL, PMSL

Ooooo, now that I love, suits you Sir!

but the funny thing is that it doesnt matter what your name is, we will always just call you dingdong!

Right, this will be my last post for over a fortnight, I am away at 11.30 in a taxi to Leeds Bradford and hopefully about 6 hours later I will be arriving at the villa where I will slob out for two weeks.

See you all on my return - dont write too many essays or I wont be able to catch up.

Any news oF LG&T? If you are still waiting, hope its soon! xxx

HM please please please take me with you I really need to run away from here and not look back or I might just combust.

oh pixi what's up? tell us, we might not be able to help but at least we'll be be on your side!

HM have tried to change to dingdong but it is taken besides, current name suits me better

sauvignon blanc anyone?

I am so pissed off, i'M not having a good time at all.
I feel so trapped by my kids, Iwish I could just get out without them, why am I the only person who is capable of looking after all 3.
I NEED A FUCKING DAY OFF.
DD1 is doing my head in, she has decided that she is going to scream bloody murder every time I put her down for a nap for 2 Fucking hours so far tonight, there is nothing wrong with the little cow FFS
DH is going potty, he can't deal with it and i am the one who is stuck trying to hold everthing together.
I haven't slpet for the past week or so as zed has constipation, Dh and I are supposed to take it in turns to sleep next to him to stick his dummy in, but DH starts carrying on like a dickhead swearing and turnign the bloody light s on, so I end up getting pissed of and sleeping next to zed all ngiht just so I don't have to deal with DH's hissy fit.

Now it is Lola's go why the fuck is she crying, well why the hellnot everyone els is, I suppose she is just feeling left out.

I am so ppissed off with people telling me how well this other new twin mum is coping with her 4 kids, like I am not coping with mine, well I'm sorry I am doing my best.
I just feel like giving up everything I have been trying to do for dd1 and the dt's and just doing what I can to have a quite life even if i never get a moment to myself again.
I want them all to stop crying, they haven't got anything to cry about so why the fuck are they all crying all the time.

I am trying my best but I just don't think it is good enough.

Hi,
Wish there was something we could do, it drives you mad nights like that, poor you. I can remember one night here when my husband was at work and al three were screaming, all been fed, clean etc, I just looked at them in their cots, SLAMMED the door, came downstairs and wanted to run, but shut myself in the sitting room and put on very loud music, had a sob, turned the music off and it was all quiet. It won`t always be like this I promise. xxx

kneehigh... call me if you need/want to. I'll listen not lecture. It's bloody hard and it's probably as hard for her as it is for you.

I used to go to school in dark glasses and wearing lipstick. People would tell me how well I was doing/looking etc. They didn't see me walk into the house, lock the door and sob because I was too exhausted to think.

We're as here as we can be darling!

Here here Marslady, you are up late? I am off to bed, back aching, nighty night xx

oh kneehigh, much love, I know exactly how you feel.
It's been so long since I posted properly I feel like a newbie again. I've been lurking but just felt too down to post, I hate unloading.
I have DS1 who's recently taken to soiling his pants. I'm really no good at dealing with bad smells (super sensitive sense of smell) so alternate between being gentle understanding mummy and loosing my temper with him. Off to see the GP next week as all the fibre in the world is doing no good.
DT1 has spent the last two days whinging and puking all over (reflux not tummy bug) so everything is filthy. And I can barely bring myself to pick her up as I'm just so fed up of being puked on.
I feel I never have time for anyone and I'm at the bottom of the list. Seem to spend so little time with the twins as I'm always cleaning/cooking/washing/running back and forth from nursery etc and I'm so sick to absolute death of people telling me how hard it must be. Yes it's f-ing hard but saying it doesn't help me so shut the hell up.
DH recently crossed the line when he had a moan at me for not washing the dishes in the daytime and doing my "Women's work" I went nuts. He has since appologised but things still aren't right and he's only ever had to look after all four when I go grocery shopping (he won't do it) he barely ever takes one out let alone two.
I feel so unhappy with myself but seem to have no time to do anything about it. There's hardly any photos of me and the twins because I can't bare to see what I look like. And my mum who usually is the pillar of all my support and the only person I have to unload to is really swamped now the hospital have discharged my crippled brother with a "here's your drugs, here's your zimmer frame (he's 34) nothing more we can do, thankyou and goodbye". Social services told her to take time off work to look after him. She's also scheduled to have a knee operation next month so I can't turn to her and there's no one else.
I feel even worse for moaning as I love them all so much and I am so grateful and lucky to have them but things seem to be slowly falling apart and have spent the past few days (and nights) crying.

Oh good lord, poor you pixi and Kneehigh. It is hellish, you just have to do whatever it takes to get you through. Stop cleaning up and doing the dishes, get out every day. It was the only way i stayed sane, i joined every toddler group there was and went religiously. It usually meant i came home to the breakfast dishes in the sink at tea time but it was worth it. My exp was useless too and like you if he did do something the ensuing hissy fit just made it not worth it.

Can you both go out alone and just say thats it, i need a break? Wish i lived closer to you both.

DD is having gromits in and adenoids out today. She has gone with her dad and his girlfriend I feel terrible, i just didnt want to promise to be there and have to vanish to have the baby. She will be fighting the doc's off as she hates anyone touching her, i couldnt hold her at the moment. I would also be crying alot and that is not what a 6 year old needs, a bawling emotional mummy. The guilt is tremendous.

KHIN; the dts are 3 months tomorrow and ds1 is 2 years and 3 months 3 days after and by the way I DON'T COPE!!!! I am only surviving because ds1 goes to nursery 3 days a week, (I love to walk and pick him up but most often a neigbour comes with me to help (!)and dh does it if I'm on my own and too tired), dh is fantastic with ds1 so when he is around I only have to deal with the twins, who are in fact very easy contented babies (although ds1 is extremely hard work), (sadly my relationship with ds1 is becoming more distant but I guess in time it will get better again), I have a cleaner 3 hours a week, I've had my sisters, mum and aunt staying one after the other and if I am going ot be on my own with all 3 I either meet up with a friend with less children and a friend for for ds1 to play with or dh works a half day and I have managed to do some nice outings with my best friend and our 5 children all under 3. I'm bloody lucky I know and I just don't believe that any multiple mum (particularly if there are other children) cope without help, how dare anyone tell you any different. Its strange because I feel inadequate and like a failure because I don't feel that I can cope with them all at the moment on my own. I am in awe of anyone who seems to be coping without help, and I think I am pretty tough.

Piximon, its always the way that when things are tough something else just comes along to make it worse. I don't know the history of your brother but am shocked that they have discharged him and your mum doesn't get any help with him. Is there a charity that can offer help?

afternoon ladies, so sorry to hear about the crappy time you are having knee high and piximon - I remember the days you describe so clearly, the washing up piling up along with washing, ironing, cleaning etc... There were time when DH came in and I just handed the DTs over, before he even had chance to say hello but we did get through it, amazingly enough, though we couldn't see an end to it at the time. Getting out of the house kept me sane and sod the housework, you and your DTs are far more important x

Hi I came to have a look

hi josie

I have to go tidy up in a bit as my parents are coming to look after my pox ridden DTs wihlst I'm at work Mon-Weds, so am sat here thinking of all the things I should be doing...

DH is not impressed with me today, I got a puncture on the way back from the gym this morning, but didn't notice so he's gone off to sort that out - men's work IMO

Don't just look Josie.... tell us all about yourself....lightweight with a mere 4 children

If you have a decade or two you should check out the original d'ya ever threads. Go back a while (poss a couple of years). Some joyous stories there for you. lol

Make yourself at home. Weekends are normally the quietest... but someone will always come along.