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D'ya ever wonder if you could still do the twist and not actually wet yourself in the process?

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shabbs · 20/11/2014 23:33

New thread my friends xxx

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bubby64 · 03/01/2015 00:54

mama- you should have taken precautions, especially after the last time, what were you both thinking!
The fracture is a wedge one and apparently difficult to spot, they took more xrays today from different angles to confirm. As the doctor said, that's why all xrays are double checked by an experienced consultant radiographer.
yes, I am a bit worried about the brace with my burns, as I still have some unhealed spots, so it will have to be well padded

bubby64 · 03/01/2015 00:56

Oh, shabbs (((((hugs)))))

triplets · 03/01/2015 01:04

Enough of all this.......bed for me, listen to Shabbs Mama she is very wise, and speaks the truth. Kale Nits everyone xx

Minisoksmakehardwork · 03/01/2015 05:32

Trips, hopefully it is just her age. It's a difficult time of life, not quite an adult and yet not still a child. Fingers crossed she grows out of it this year. I've no advice as clearly mine are still very young and my 14 year old niece drives my sister just as potty.

Bubby!! Poor, poor you. Hopefully this is the last of your run of bad luck. Id take dh's offer of a padded sumo suit up, just to be on the safe side though.

Mama - you're an absolute idiot. I'm not sorry for saying it. When you said you were expecting fee, I remember saying how much hard work James could be and dh had wanted more children even after the twins had arrived - he doesn't have half the problems you've said Apollo does. But he's come to realise that I was right to look at long term contraception options. My implant is due to come out this year and I'm currently talking to dh about me being sterilised. He's not keen but he understands why. Contraception is one of the first things they talk about when they discharge you from hospital and considering Fee was apparently an accident, I'd've thought you would have heeded advice.

Shabs speaks very wise words.

I've followed the tiny white coffin of friends 4 month old baby girl to her final resting place. I saw the strength her parents showed that day and It broke me. I cannot imagine how her parents still feel 5 years on. I think frequently of what their little girl would be doing now - would she be as into frozen as my kids, would she be tottering round in mummy's high heels and make up like Emily does?

They were not given the choice whether their darling daughter stayed or was taken.

MultipleMama · 03/01/2015 08:39

I am taking in all your words of advice and wisedom. Soks, I am a complete idiot and so is DH, that is true. You are all right to call me out on it. I don't want to think of getting rid of this baby, I've always been pro-life (within reason) and said I would never consider it but all option have to be discussed, we have our DC to think about (totally selfish and bloody stupid of us that we didn't when we forgot protection) and we have only ourselves to blame. We had discussed family planning after Fee was born I was in no state to listen to anyone so we agreed to talk about it after 6 weeks instead, I researched and decided on the implant and see how I get on with that but just haven't got round to booking the appointment, which I'm now regretting. I'm all over the place; no idea what I want. Cannot do anything to change it so we're just gunna have to wait until we see the doctor. If my thoughts and desicions are too upsetting for you, and you don't want to know what's going, please tell me and I won't post about them here. It was never my intention to bring up painful memories for anyone. I only meant to be honest about how I'm feeling and as lovely ladies have never failed to tell me straight and give me advice. You've given me something to think on and consider xxx

Family have left today. A lot of emotions at the airport but excited to see them next year. Fee had a flurry of visitors yesterday, such a loved little boy :) Waiting on dad getting DB2 dressed then DB1 and I are going with them for a walk for some quality time while the 2 males at home look after the DC :)

Yet to take down the Xmas decorations but needs to be done so I have my house back to normal. I have put the stockings and tee decors away though so I'm in the right direction!

Bubs, I wonder if they'll give you something do put over burns so it doesn't irritated or worse due to the brace. Never heard of a wedge fracture but it sure does sound painful and makes me want to wince. Have they said how long you need to wear it? Hopefully it's nothing as long as a cast! Xx

shabbadabbadingdong · 03/01/2015 10:24

Morning girls.

HarrogateMum · 03/01/2015 15:01

Hi Shabs how you doing today?? I've been for a bracing walk with kids as been cooped up inside all Xmas. Now mid way through taking down decs want normality back!!

bubby64 · 03/01/2015 15:41

Afternoon all, I'm on tramadol for pain relief and it's knocking me for 6 here. A wedge fracture is literally as the name suggests, an break going down at an angle to make a wedge type Shap, luckily, because of this its inherently more stable than a straight across break, mind you, Dr's couldn't believe I was managing to walk around with it, even if it was with difficulty, thing is, I have a fairly high pain threshold after everything that has happened and I tried, as usual, to carry on. I have been told to stay in bed until Monday now tho, just in case walking about etc does move it and cause cord problems. l am playing it down big time for the boys tho, don't need them worrying about things like that.
Mama -it is a big decision to make, and you are aware of how irresponsible you have both been. I'm sorry, but you have bought this on yourself and I have no words of wisdom to give you, shabbs and Soks are right.

Minisoksmakehardwork · 03/01/2015 18:49

Evening. If you were a telephone and remote control, where would you hide?

Chopstheduck · 03/01/2015 18:59

I once found one of our remote controls down the drain outside, courtesy of toddler dts...

Usually though, they are wedged down the sofa.

Trips that pie sounded lovely btw. You have my sympathies with your dd too, I know how you feel! xx Esio Trot was brilliant, best telly all xmas.

Bubbs, do take it easy. Hope the tramadol is helping. x

shabs, how are things going with the dog? Has your mum been ok over Xmas?

Minisoksmakehardwork · 03/01/2015 20:15

'Twas inside the sofa lining. Along with a lot of other toys and bit of. Plus a jammy dodger! (I'll blame that on Jen). I keep banning the kids from eating on the sofa. Perhaps now dh will back me up, or at least comply when I'm not in the room.

bubby64 · 03/01/2015 22:51

Just watched esio trot, I agree, it was a really good bit of telly. I am getting the chance to catch up with some missed christmas telly on the pad. DH has made me up a bed downstairs as he is "missing me" even tho we usually are sat beside each other in silence, its mutually companionship silence is swim. So lovely of him, as it means I can have a change of scenery.

triplets · 03/01/2015 23:29

Evening ladies.......still coughing and spluttering, it will all clear up by Monday youll see........so all the Christmas hols were spoilt:( Just bad luck I guess. Hate to see our thread and friendships fraying esp at the start of a New Year. Mama without being unkind maybe you could have a separate thread for your current problems. When you have lost a child as Shabs and I have I guess we are more sensitive because life, esp a childs life that is lost is the very worst experience you could ever suffer. You have been fortunate so far with Apollo and Fe that the medical teams have miraculously saved them, and I know Fe has someway to go. Even though we dont know you in real life some of your posts have shocked and upset, I know we all try to support each other but I dont know what any one of us could say to you now to help you. I think I would seriously be seeking professional help not ours. I hope everyone else doesnt think I am speaking out of turn, I feel Mama you need to look for help elsewhere, and I do say that kindly. If you are upset with me I am sorry, but I feel very protective of Shabs, I have lost one son, she has lost two.......if God forbid it ever happened to me again I do not know how I would survive, or want to. I survived because I had help, professional help if you like, other bereaved parents who knew every painful step I was trying to make.
If you are upset with me I understand.
Now please can we all resume normality?

triplets · 04/01/2015 00:23

Another lovely film I saw the other night was directed and produced by Dustin Hoffman, Quartet. Fab cast and very funny! Billy Connolly is hysterical in it, they must have had such fun making it.

bubby64 · 04/01/2015 00:25

Well said Trips- I would have loved to have the opportunity to have kept my girls, as both trips and especially shabbs desperately wanted not to lose their sons. Talk about making a decision like this when its your own stupidity and, tbh, selfishness, that has made this situation come about is more than we can cope with at the moment, I'm sorry mama if we upset you,, but that's all I can add for now.

triplets · 04/01/2015 00:31

Oh Bubbs.........your precious girls.....xxxx

shabbadabbadingdong · 04/01/2015 01:47

Have helped my brother to empty our parents house of 40 years today (Saturday). I was almost 19 when my family moved into the house....we had always lived on a council estate and then my parents saved and saved and bought their own house. I hated it!!!!!!!!!!!!! Had been brought up on a rough and ready council estate and suddenly we had no estate just posh houses LOL. Within 6 months me and my future DH had moved darn Sarf and started to learn the pub trade. There began a life time of hard work. Today we have fillled two giant skips of stuff. Miss you Dad....love you Mam xxxx

So now the private pension, the house and their savings will keep my Mam in the nursing home............bloody disgusting that after a lifetime of hard graft my parents are paying for mums care.

What kind of world do we live in that the hard working pensioners have to pay for their care?

shabbadabbadingdong · 04/01/2015 08:08

Morning girls xx

Chopstheduck · 04/01/2015 09:02

Morning girls xx

Very well said, Trips, and Bubby xx

I hope you can find some real support elsewhere, mama.

Shabs, it is all wrong :(

Last day today before dh goes back to work tomorrow! We're off for a family bike ride with some friends. Then the big two go back tomorrow and the dts go back on Tues.

triplets · 04/01/2015 16:02

Good afternoon ladies, my sympathies Shabs it is truly such a heart breaking job, I remember sitting in Mums all alone, sorting things to keep, things for charity shop and things for the tip. How many things were hugged and held and cried over before they each went into their piles Like me I know you too will have found things belonging to your boys, that is the worst thing, the young handwriting..."To Grandma love from Matthew", its awful. But..........it is therapeutic once its done, they are only "things" the rest will always be in your heart and in your head. xx
Walked down to two of my brothers this morning to get some air, one has just had an op and poor thing is very sore and possibly now had a dvt in his leg! Just got dinner on the go and stripped the decs from the hall and dining room the rest can wait until tomorrow .Tomorrow dk has his first appt with the Parkinson nurse, should be interesting when we get round to alcohol units per week? Hmm.......

triplets · 04/01/2015 16:06

Forgot to say Shabs my brother and sil were in the same position as you when sil`s mum went into a home, £700 a week! What they did was rent the house, and that went towards the cost of the home. When she died 3 years later, the house was sold, fetched a higher price, they then paid the balance they owed to the home which I believe was around £25,000 and they then inherited the rest .

Minisoksmakehardwork · 04/01/2015 22:01

Evening :)

Naughty Soks has pinched some of Joshua's antib meds (unused, got before xmas when he had a suspect ear infection) for a majorly sore throat. All white and pussy looking. Figured it'd save a trip to gp.

triplets · 04/01/2015 23:14

Now where were we? Evening girls, how very nice to be back to normal :)

shabbadabbadingdong · 05/01/2015 01:20

Many moons ago my parents bought the house for £8,000.........brother, who has power of attourney even though he is not the eldest kid had to sell it for the figure the courts decided....it sold for £130,000. So a massive profit but a massive bargain for the family moving in. I am not even asking what the new nursing home charges....I am not interested....I hate money and the problems it causes. All I want is for Mam to be OK, looked after well, fed and watered.

I feel exhausted - totally exhausted. I need to go to bed but I am not tired - even though I am exhausted. xxxx

triplets · 05/01/2015 08:46

Gosh Shabs that seems an unfair way. Have you been able to get to see her? Two boys just gone to school, dd back tomorrow, I am still in bed need to get the decs down but feeling lazy!