Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 6. ALL welcome!

[Sunbird24]

If you’re going through this, you’re not alone. I’ll post some links to support organisations shortly, but feel free to post, or just read, whatever you need.

@ChloeN I'm doing okay thank you❤️. Passed some more tissue I think it was, and had a bit of red, the clots seem to come mainly when I have a bowel movement and not really when I wee. Cramps are starting to feel a bit more constant now too xxx

Thinking of you @Brokenpancreas94 hopefully not too much longer xx

Thank you @tulipsunday 💖I hope so too, cramps have settled a little bit now xxx

Did any one feel unwell while waiting for their MMC to pass naturally? I feel generally groggy and very nauseous - but no vomiting or fever etc.

@icb2022 the day that I was told, I ended up vomiting but not sure if that was down to crying so much and shock. I was feeling a bit groggy last night after passing some of the tissue xx

@ChloeN @tulipsunday the red bleeding when I wipe has begun now after only light brown when I wipe all day! Xx

@Brokenpancreas94 you still in lots of pain or is not too bad? Xx

@ChloeN it's not too bad atm, like very mild period cramps. The bleeding is heavier this morning although my pads are still clear it's only when I wipe xx

@Brokenpancreas94 mine was like that, only when I wiped for a lot of it! I wasn’t sure if it was a different type of blood if you know what I mean, it was thicker than a period 🤣

@ChloeN yes that makes sense! Feel like I'm wasting all these pads as well as they're 'clean' as I keep putting one on just incase! Xxx

I miscarried a twin pregnancy in April and October 20th is their due date. For those that have already had their due date of their angel baby pass, what did you do on that day? I’m so undecided if I want to take it off work or what to do on it

@Essexgalhere i’ve managed to be off work for all my due dates, but not for subsequent ‘birthdays’. Not really done anything special with the time off, just needed to not be around people and pretending it was just another ordinary day. Whatever you do I wish you peace.

@Essexgalhere I planned a big work event for the day purely to keep myself busy - a charity event raising money for Ukraine, so that I would feel like I was doing some good for people who had it far worse - and then I ended up finding out I was having yet another miscarriage that day. It was truly unbearable. Next due date (Jan 2nd) I'm going to be hibernating 😭

@ChloeN I called EPU just now to find out how many weeks I was measuring it was 8 weeks 5 days 😢 xxx

@Brokenpancreas94 😔😔 at least you know now. How’s it been going? Xxx

@Brokenpancreas94 I'm so sorry 💔 Hopefully knowing might bring some closure.

Glad you managed to find out but so sorry @Brokenpancreas94 how are you doing? @ChloeN how is this month going for you?

Sorry to read about people having the sadness of having to get through the due date. That must be so tough. Take care @Essexgalhere x

@tulipsunday I had a chemical pregnancy this cycle (I think anyway! 6 faint positives in a row then started bleeding🙄) but positive to know I ovulated! I’m on CD4 now, going to give the clear blue fertility monitor a go this month, although it seems falling pregnant might not be an issue, but staying pregnant is! Think I’m going to try some new vitamins also! How are you? Xxx

@tulipsunday @B1993 thank you both, I had a cry when I found out as it feels like I was 8 weeks so long ago! 😢 xxx

@ChloeN I'm doing okay well as okay as I can be, I think I passed it yesterday but then again I'm not even sure, but had the most bleeding yesterday and it was red! I guess I just have to wait now, and test in a couple of weeks. I spoke to my GP yesterday who was really lovely and has started me back on my antidepressants again. She even sat and researched into the antidepressant that I'm on and if it would affect baby if I were to try again, it was nice having a GP that took the time and genuinely felt like she cared you know? Hope you are doing okay, although have just seen that you think you could be having a chemical, sorry to hear that 😢. Xxxx

How do you guys remember your babies? Do you go by the due date? The date you were told there was no heartbeat or the date baby stopped growing? (If can roughly work out when that was) xx

@Brokenpancreas94 so glad you had a nice GP makes such a difference when you feel the people who are talking to you actually care.

I guess it is different for everyone in terms of how they remember their babies. The date of what would have been was 12wk scan felt significant. Pregnancy ended at 8wks 2 and little one's due date wasn't till April so feels a while off don't know how I will feel then. Hope up are ok xx

@ChloeN sorry last cycle wasn't meant to meant to be but good as you say to know you are ovulating. I am CD7 so we are close. Going to do some ovulation tests this time and have to see what happens.. xx

@tulipsunday my due date would have been early April too, but because of my diabetes it probably would have been March.
Bleeding had picked up again now, and just had a large like stringy thing come out, presuming it's tissue? Xxx

Hope your night was ok @Brokenpancreas94

@Brokenpancreas94 that’s positive that you’ve had a nice GP really helps! I don’t feel to bad about the chemical, I didn’t really get my hopes up with the tests just in case xx

@tulipsunday hope this is the month for us!! I’d be due start of July which would be nice☺️ I guess you’d be the same? Xx

@tulipsunday @ChloeN the pain was very bad about 11pm, and passed quite a few clots, and another big one about half an hour ago, hoping it's near the end now. Feeling drained. 😢

I'm the worst for getting my hopes up! Xxx

@Brokenpancreas94 how longs the bleeding been going on for now? But definitely sounds like it must nearly all out by now xxx