Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 3. ALL welcome!

[AMS19]

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Sorry if I've missed anyone, MN wasn't showing me everyone who had posted xx

@AMS19
Thanks for the new thread.

Do you have the link for the Ubiquinol you get please?

@Applecrumble24 sure this is the one I use that seems to be the best value for £43

www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0716Q35T1/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_fabc_90ZPTVG0KAM7PFA5P1ZW?psc=1&_encoding=UTF8&tag=mumsnetforu03-21

@AMS19
Thank you 😊

A new thread! Amazing ❤️❤️ absolutely love the support of our little thread. Sorry I’ve been a bit AWOL this week but I have been keeping up with everyone. I’m having a bit of a bad day to be honest guys and cried a lot this evening. Still waiting for my period will be 5 weeks post ERPC tomorrow and just feeling a bit down that it’s taking so long to get back to normal. I’ve been temping a week and doing OPKS and my temps are low and I haven’t had anything on the OPKS which makes me think I haven’t even ovulated yet and urghhhh just so OVER waiting. Everything is a waiting game and I’m so fed up with it.

I’m taking agnus castus and folic acid but may start on the B6 and B complex too. Just so desperate for a new cycle and to start fresh. I know they said 4-6 weeks for my period to return but jeez man, come on. I know I need to be patient and wait but it’s so hard when NOTHING seems to be happening.

I feel like getting my period will be the end of that chapter and the start of a new one and I’m so ready. We have been DTD but with condoms which I HATE as feels so counter productive but I also know it is best to wait for my period. But urghhhhhhhh.

Hope everyone else is doing okay, sorry to moan girls I’m just struggling a bit today :( hope all you ladies who are in your first proper cycle are doing okay, and ladies still waiting for your period I feel ya. Love to you all and hope everyone was able to have a nice V Day yesterday xxxx

@TheHotelCalifornia hi lovely. I'm so sorry you're feeling down. I totally get how you feel. When I saw the FRER still had a line 5 weeks post MVA I was gutted. But now, only 10 days later, I've got a negative FRER and confirmed ovulation. So I promise you it can all turn positive really quickly. I know this time feels like a waste, and the condoms are annoying, but you're working towards the baby in other ways! You're getting your body and mind ready. It's going to happen, and it won't be long now. You're so close ❤❤❤ every day that goes by is a day closer to your rainbow baby xx

Oh @AMS19 you always write the sweetest messages you made me cry again haha!! But in a nice way! Thank you so so much. I actually feel better already. You’re absolutely right. I’m working so hard to get ready, I’m working out regularly, trying to stay positive etc, and this time is not being wasted. I need to focus on that and just accept that I need to wait and I have no control over it. Maybe I should do a FRER tomorrow as the one I took at 3 weeks had a vvvvvvvvvv faint line. I think surely it will be negative now but may be best to check.

Ahh so do you think your bleed wasn’t a period? Or it was a period and now you’ve ovulated early?? Sorry, just trying to work out where you are!! If the latter, how are you feeling about this cycle? Sending you so much love and positivity as you always send us xxxxx

@TheHotelCalifornia awww ❤ working out is great well done you!!! That will really help you with the next pregnancy! You are going to be a mummy, just a matter of when. Worth waiting for the perfect egg 🥚

I'm in a new cycle 😊 CD15, ovulated super early on CD11! You might find the same, ovulation is super quick when you get into your first cycle. Honestly 2 weeks ago yesterday I was getting positives on tests and in limbo. I'm now I'm in my TWW!! So I promise exciting times and positivity is right around the corner xxxx

@thehotelcalifornia hopefully it won't be long. I got zero warning to mine usually I would get tender boobs and bloating but got nothing it just appeared.
Hopefully it won't be long.

We are all here for the tough days. Some days I feel like I'm improving then something will trigger and it's like being back at square one!

@TheHotelCalifornia so sorry you’ve had a crap day, it sounds like you’re doing loads of really positive things though - I’m really impressed!

I’m crossing everything that your period comes soon. I’m four and a half weeks post-med management and also feeling impatient but my last two periods were six and three months apart respectively so I think I might be waiting a while longer 😂🤦‍♀️

Never thought I’d be wishing a period to arrive on anybody! Ditto negative pregnancy tests!!

It’s so exciting to see that people are already waiting to find out if this will be the cycle - you’re right @AMS19, good times are around the corner, I like that a lot 😁 x

Ooh a new thread, thanks for adding me!

Awww @TheHotelCalifornia I randomly cried this evening whilst walking the dog!! Just came over me all of a sudden.

My period arrived at the weekend. How long were your cycles before? Mine were quite long around 33 days. I realised my period came 33 days after surgery! Hopefully yours will come soon I know how annoying and frustrating it is waiting. I was really worried mine would take forever.

I feel like I need to look into vitamins / supplements etc! I’m only taking folic acid and have been drinking POM on @AMS19 advice. What are the must haves?! I don’t want to spend a fortune on loads so what do we think the essentials are?

xxxx

@Mellous I'm sorry you've felt down too. I think crying is definitely best though, get it all out! This is all part of the healing.

For me, I'm taking pregnacare before conception and 400mg Ubiquinol. Everything else I'm trying to get from food not supplements. For me, in the research I did and book I read, Ubiquinol/CoQ10 seemed to be the most important for egg quality in older ladies hence chose that one x

Wishes for negative pregnancy tests and periods all round 😂

Just popping back on as I realise in the last thread I was saying I got a negative HCG and then got my period and week or so later...

While that's true, I thought it also important to add that I ovulated whilst still getting positives! Only just thought about it/realised. Here's my tests around my Ovulation and whilst they're vvvfl, they're definitely there! (Though they come up as negative on Femometer).

Just in case this helps anyone feel like they've got a chance of ovulating even if they've got faint positives ❤️

@AMS19 how are you feeling in your TWW?

@AMS19 thanks for the new thread.

@Mellous @TheHotelCalifornia - it’s really hard ladies. Some days are just hard. I’m still off work after 4 weeks. Literally I’m only holding it together by having no stress and taking it easy every day.

I’m cd29 here. Feel like AF is coming. PMS is off the scale. GP told me today it’s normally to have heightened hormones etc for a few months !!! MONTHS! I just want my body and my emotions back to normal now please urghhhh

Also @TheHotelCalifornia watch out using Angus cactus. Before I had my little one it tried it and it delayed my O something terrible.

Thanks for the new thread @AMS19.

I'm just waiting to see if next AF comes. If yes, I'll go in for testing. Not 1000% sure I ovulated but FF thinks maybe.

@ams19 thanks for the tag.

I've finally had my positive smiley face on OPK which feels like a relief...returning to TWW again is a bit bizarre. Trying to keep an open mind and just see what happens 🤞

Love our little thread. Thanks for adding me @AMS19

Also going to try the seed cycling this cycle! Pancakes with flax seed tomorrow anyone? 😁

Thanks for the add.

Well 25 days after MC and I think AF has is on the way, started spotting today, headache is unreal and vomiting with the pain. I'm never early but my body is unpredictable and still healing i suppose.
If I'm honest I'm glad its arrived so I can finally start of on a fresh new cycle but also dreading what the next few days will bring.
Everywhere I look now all I see is baby stuff or maybe I'm just noticing it more now.

Hope everyone is doing well xx

@AMS19 thank you for starting the new thread, It’s so healing to have this incredible support and chat with you ladies xx and yay 2ww, fingers crossed for you!!!

@KJLM my heart goes out to you, wishing only the absolute happiness for you as you continue your journey xx

I’ve not heard of seed cycling, I was just having pumpkin seeds, sunflower seeds and chia seeds everyday with my granola.. but I’m going to try this thank you!! I also tried maca tea for a few months last year and we got a positive 3 months later. Argh its hard to know what to do. But ill try the seed cycling once I get my first period back, I’ve only just stopped spotting from MC.

@TheHotelCalifornia sending you strength to get through the day, it’s extremely challenging to face the day sometimes, like you I am doing small craft things which keeps my mind busy, I’m also going to a drawing class tonight which Im looking forward to.

@Mellous I hear ya, sometimes it just hits and you need to cry, your so lucky to have a dog xx give him loads of cuddles, we have 2 cats but they are currently with my sis in law, so really missing animal healing right now.

Love to you all xx

Did I just made that up about doing crafts to keep your mind busy, I cant find who wrote they were too 🤷‍♀️

@LauraT94 how was the first period? Mine was so light I was disappointed! Had hoped for a good clear out, but guess mva did that.
I think I'm just feeling relieved to being having such a clear temp cycle. It is so much cleaner than last time which is bringing me lots of pleasure. I'm not feeling hopeful about falling again so quickly, but think I'm okay with that. Don't get me wrong, I'll still feel gutted and am literally dreaming about coming on my period, but just focusing on the positives of my body getting back to normal which should hopefully make it easier going forward.

For the ladies new to temping, I thought I would share my chart from this cycle so far, as it's amazingly pretty textbook so shows how the temping should work very clearly. Worth noting my chart from last cycle (where I fell pregnant) was no where near as clear! So this has no correlation to the outcome, but just shows how temping clearly confirmed ovulation for me.

Praying this is a lucky thread for us all xx

@AMS19 thanks for adding me and starting a new thread, I’m just catching up on posts. Whilst I catch up, have you had your bloods results back and what times your scan today? Xxx

I’ve just been reading all your posts. All this temperature tracking sounds really interesting and also interesting what you say about ovulating earlier in your first cycle as I think I did as well but I’m only basing that on the egg white discharge and that I felt a bit horny. I never got on with ovulation sticks before so may start tracking my temperature and scoffing seeds.

@KJLM I read your post. I can’t begin to imagine what you’ve been through and my heart was aching reading your journey.

I hope being part of this group helps you in some way as we all find support from everyone’s thoughts, feelings and experiences xxx

Hi all, may I join? It's been really soothing reading everyone's posts. What a girl gang! Hi@AMS19
I had a mmc early December, had an ERCP ten weeks ago but had retained products so also had medical management six weeks ago. I've had one period since and think I'm now having a chemical. Period was due yesterday. I've been testing positive but the lines aren't darkening. Hopefully EPU will shed some light on it all on Thursday. Happy pancake day!

@DMT1982 hi lovely. I actually decided to postpone my EPU. Getting the negative FRER Saturday and clearly ovulating I thought I might see how I go and wait for the bloods first. Still haven't got them back, sure my GP will just be sat on them! Work is crazy, I'm an accountant so it's a super busy time, but will be MUCH calmer in a week or so, so depending on the outcome or this cycle, can pop back then as I have the open referral. I really ideally want to avoid the place, too many sad memories

@dippyegg32 yay welcome. So glad you've decided to come join us. It's such a great bunch and most of us have been talking since December so from the start! Xx