Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 28 - Tests, Treatments, Trying again, Trying to stay sane and most of all TREMENDOUS support!

[Kazz2112]

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!

Previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2416801-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Support-Thread-27-Tests-Treatments-and-Trying-Again?

Good luck later flen

Good luck for your scan today flen and for your app emerald x

Good luck Flen and Emerald.

Barking, just seen your message re book. Had already PM, so have sent another one. If you don't get it this time let me know and I'll try the computer rather than the app (bye thanks for the book)

good luck flen and emerald at scans and appointment.

March let us know how you get on with regards to arranging scan. hope you get sorted xx

Hey girls, I am stick in Snowdonia with sporadic signal so trying to keep up with the thread but struggling.

Was having terrible nausea till yesterday and then felt much much better. Obviously now I think the pregnancy has ended and I'm scared. The baby from my last pregnancy died on my birthday in February and it's DPs birthday today and I feel as though it's ended again. I know that's ridiculous but that's how my life seems to go . I should be around 12 weeks tomorrow, god I'm so scared about my next scan I have palpitations thinking about it. They also made and then cancelled my booking appnt but I might just leave it till after the scan as it will probably be deemed unnecessary.

Flen hope you have a good scan today. I am sure you are terrified but you have all of our love and good wishes behind you xxx

flen good luck again

emerald good luck with your appointment. Sorry, I hadn't read that last page properly and your more recent post before posting last night. What a sad story about your dh's brother. I hope they are able to answer your questions about T15, and downs, and as you say, offer karyotyping of you and dh.

march I am steering well clear of any ante-natal threads, I think I would just feel like I am from another planet!

sebs when is your scan? We attach such importance to the order and timing of events, making links where there are none. So much talk of magpies and jinxing on here...from me as much as anyone else, but none of it makes a blind bit of difference to the outcome. And symptoms do come and go, which of course you know. Hang in there.

Oh sebs, sorry the lack of symptoms is worrying you, but this is the time when (most) people's symptoms go away, so it really doesn't mean anything bad. Perhaps the fact that you're somewhere else doing different things had just made you notice it less? It's so hard when the symptoms are helping to assure you that things are ok. I'm finding it really hard to believe that this one is different as well, but i really believe for you that it is. Hope it's not too long til your scan? Hand holding until then x

Good luck flen and emerald. Emerald I hope getting results gives you more confidence to move forward.

I am feeling at a loss today. Not sure if posting here is appropriate but need an outlet. A friend who has been missing for the last week has died. Don't know the details yet but assuming suicide. I am so shocked. I just cuddled Cissy pretty much all night. I have been feeling so blessed and lucky, the sharp contrast with someone who was likely in huge pain and feeling hopeless is really hard. He wasn't a close friend, (his brother is a part of my urban family), but the loss of someone so young is just shocking. Not sure what to do with myself.

Oh gosh belle, what a shock that must have been and how utterly tragic. I think any kind of death makes you think about how precious and fragile life is, and to think that someone might have been going through something awful, completely alone is heartbreaking. Makes me very glad to have this thread as a conduit for my grief. I wish there was more support for men out there. There really aren't many places they can open up like this and it's costing lives.

belleende so sorry, so tragic and sad. hope you and your family are okay it really makes you think and take stock of what you have x

Thanks everyone will let you know how it goes.

Belle so sorry to hear of your friend what a shock and how awful and sad. Puts a lot in perspective doesn't it? We are lucky we have this forum for our outlet.

Sebs. don't worry too much about symptoms going, I think they do about now don't they? I'm sure you'll be fine big hug

belle So sorry to hear about your friend. News like this are always a huge shock, give yourself time. Is there anyone you can talk to? Would it help to reach out to his brother at all, or other friends that knew him? A very close friend of my DH also went missing a few years ago and was then found dead, and my DH found a lot of comfort through keeping in touch with his friend's family and the circle of friends they both belonged to. Hope you're OK.

Waves to everyone! I'm struggling to keep up with you all, but am still reading!
I'm 17+5 today, all going well. Heard the heartbeat at the midwife check last week and 'came out' to everyone at work on Monday. Now cr*ing myself that I have jinxed it all - will I ever be able to relax?!? 20-week scan in 3 weeks, so need to hold out until then. Sigh.

So. I'm now getting my scan tomorrow at 945. Eek. They had a note on the system that said the consultant wanted a scan booked for Friday but it seems nobody had done anything about it. Friday was fully booked so i suggested tomorrow and that's what's happening! Still waiting for a call back about the appt with the consultant which needs to happen during her clinic on Friday, but it's the scan i was most concerned about. Very nervous now.

excellent news about scan March, even better than Friday. at least you haven't got long to wait now. I know your scanxiety will be mega right now but it will be fine and you 'll feel more reassured this time tomorrow xx

Good news on getting your scan booked march. Good it's first thing too. Just go with your gut feeling that it will be ok xxx

So sorry to read about your friend belle. It's awful and so sad.

Yay march - well done for sticking to your guns and getting it sorted. And an early one too so you don't have to sit there worrying all day beforehand. Have a good feeling for you tomorrow lovely and will have everything crossed.

oh belle - what sad news about your friend. Hugs hun. x

Very good news on the scan March**, well done girl!

Belle** how awful, such things make us all so scared of the world and the the darkness inside it. Hugs to you and your friendship group. I second someone else who raised the issue that our culture and society doesn't seem equiped to support men, infact, mental health in general. It is a travisty, how can we be a civilised society when people are still slipping down the cracks in this way?! I think boys need to be helped in schools across the levels to think about and articulate feelings and relationships. I wonder how the uk fares on rates of suicide compared to cultures where seeing a therapist is not considered taboo? Between the ages of 15-25 i knew 5 young people who died, in various circumstances, illness, accident - 2 were suicide.

What time is your scan flen?

Hi all, scan was fine - heartbeat still there and measuring 8 weeks. Consultant was superspeedy and more or less chucked us out once he'd seen it was ok... Then had a delightful vomiting incident on the road outside the hospital - totally embarrassing not to mention tricky with it being so windy...! Next scan will be next Thursday.

march well done for getting a scan scheduled, I know it's terrifying and we are all here for you whatever happens.

belle I'm so sorry to hear about your friend, that's just indescribably sad. Many hugs to you.

belle so sad and sorry for your friend's death.
March glad you're having the scan
flen good luck sweety with the scan today
Thanks girls for the continuous support and wishes

Great news about your scan Flen

Yay yay yay! So pleased for you flen. You're my lucky charm!

great news on scan flen x

Great news flen x