Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 28 - Tests, Treatments, Trying again, Trying to stay sane and most of all TREMENDOUS support!

[Kazz2112]

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!

Previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2416801-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Support-Thread-27-Tests-Treatments-and-Trying-Again?

I teach medical ethics including ivf and abortion, and the right to a child, up to A level

I once taught the euthanasia module first due to the timing, as it provided 'light relief' in comparison to the abortion module...

Oh God kazz** :-(! I'm English (yep, with all my typos/sp's on here!) i was going insane teaching a play called Corum Boy - babies burried alive, War Horse - foal separated from mother, Winters tale - Heavily pregnant character. Was impossible to avoid, but then, i think i saw it in everything too...

eeeekkkk. Definitely a good idea. I had to delivered that reproduction module to three classes. thankfully my work mates are ace and swapped around for me!

Freckke I think we do! Hubby said last night. 'So many people seem to get pregnant when we're tryknh'. I pointed out that it's probably not more people. We're just more conscious of it

Oh, and the ethics of where the NHS ought to spend its money, though the eyes of teens... to be fair, one boy did say he'd sacrifice cancer treatment in favour of me having ivf once, which was sweet. I didn't tell them everything, but I'd been in hospital and it became clear though discussion that I had some personal experience; they asked my outright if I'd had ivf (I hadn't), but it opened up a 'caring and sharing' discussion. They were a level...

Wow just**, i know those modules must be vile in our situation - but what interesting subjects! Very jucy. Purpletreefrog is philosophy too i think. Minnie is primary...lots of us on here.

Gosh. I admire teachers so much. Must be so hard to stand in front of a class and discuss these things with pupils who might not always get the concept of tact and compassion (although perhaps sometimes it's refreshing to have honest/naïve chat? I don't know how much i could take though)

Thinking of you today lost hope it goes ok x

hope today goes as well as it can lost and you have plenty of support.

I'm tying to keep up with you ladies but it's really difficult. I'm reading posts though.

kazz dont be disheartened plenty of time yet.

were all at different stages and its so sad were all here but its so nice to have each other and people really dont understand.

as for sisters.....my twin fell pregnant the same week I fell with mc no 2, it was so difficult when I mc, I definitely kept a little distance pregnancy wise, we see each other loads so couldn't exactly avoid her. she talked about her pregnancy non stop and it was really difficult, just think if you haven't had mc you don't have any idea how hard it is xx

Thinking of you today lost hope it goes ok and you can recover quick

Just thanks for the explanation on cognitive therapy that sounds really interesting and something I think I should look into. Definitely think there's something in all of that. Interesting too about your cat dreams. Poor you losing him after a MC I think if I'd lost my cat then it would've tipped me over the edge, my cat has really helped me in terms of comfort.

So many teachers on here, I admire you all especially teaching some of those subjects! .just no wonder you are so knowledgeable about a lot of it.

Claire this thread moves like lightning!! I have a job keeping up, can't get anything else done!
Sorry to hear about your twin that must've been very tough to deal with. People really don't get it unless they've been there x

Hello everyone
I have been reading but sorry, fallen behind with replying. Will try and remember everyone but sorry if I miss someone. Am thinking of you and willing you all on even if absent for a week here and there on the posting front.

Welcome to the new faces, sorry you are here but hope you find some support and information.

barking I am so happy to hear you have some local support while DH is away. As everyone has said, you will have the many positive thoughts bombarding you from all parts of the country from here as well
Still thinking a lot of your dad, I hope the physio is helping him with his mobility a little.

mrsB glad it was ok to go back to work although sorry your assis manager was an idiot.

bootles glad you had a good scan

kazz good luck for the testing in the next few days, hoping today was just too early.

freckle love your turn of phrase, the image of people texting whilst dismounting each other made me laugh!

emerald would normally have loved a southern meet up but I guess committing to bluewater which is scary at the best of times a few days before due date is a bad idea! I will join you in spirit though!

mrsC I had the panic of fading symptoms in this pregnancy and it was fine, I think things do change around the 9 week mark. I felt at my worst about 11-14 weeks so you may have that joy to come
I know that's no reassurance now, I think you just have to plod on a day at a time and try and stay positive....

lost thinking of you today

march and flen thinking of you both and hoping that all the spotting and bleeding stays away. march def think it's worth just checking with the GP when you see them to put your mind at rest.

Interesting hearing what you all teach for those who are teachers. I would be the worst teacher in the world, patience not being a virtue which I was born with This journey over the last few years has made me very happy to be working from home all on my lonesome even if there were days where I may have nearly gone insane, not dealing with colleagues, or a commute has been an amazing thing.

to all xxx

Good God! went to the gym and it's taken me 15 minutes to read up where I left off!

Sometimes I find it refreshing to have really frank discussions with naive teenagers. I am quite good at putting on a brave front and have only ever had a meltdown down once at work a couple of months ago when things were very high pressure (Think 18 back to back lessons with year 10 prior to their gcse exam and my temporary HOD having completely f*ed up the rooming sending me all over school at the same time as being 1 day from AF, finding out the trial deadline of october and my permanent HOD snapping at me in frustration of the situation!) Luckily I held it together until it was just me and my technicians and they were the only ones who saw me cry!

Anyway... I digress... Sometimes it's refreshing to have those conversations as long as you remember the questions they ask aren't asked to upset. They don't know our situation and most kids (and a lot of mine are from a really rough background) would be mortified of they realised how close to the bone some of the questions they inadvertently ask us are. Sometimes wish I was still so naive!

Lost thinking of you and handholding. Speedy recovery. XX

Ffs... now having to deal with my 'mates' posting 'funny stories' about having baby's to the whats app group following yesterday's baby bomb.

Kazz I'd be leaving the conversation pronto.

Lost thinking of you - I really hope today goes ok.

Barking how are you holding up ahead of this weekend. Really have got everything crossed for you

Have dropped down to 200 mg cyclogest once a day. Hate the idea of coming off it, but can't stay on it forever!!!!

lost hope it's all going smoothly today

I am LITERALLY DYING of nausea and sickness. This is my fourth lot of hideous morning sickness. I think for those who have actual babies, the sickness fades into the tapestry of the past and the story of how the baby came to be. I wish with all my heart that that is what happens with this pregnancy. Facing a fifth or even sixth/seventh morning sickness makes me feel like never trying again.

kazz I ended up muting my sister's whatsapp of baby pics and baby stories, so at least the notifications weren't pinging up and I felt a bit more in control of when I looked at it...

Thanks bythesea I hadn't realised your due date was so near! Totally understandable re meeting up then. I suggested Bluewater as only place could think of between here and Kent but yes can be a scary place! Any other takers for southern meet up??

Kazz oh no you've got to say something, ask them to set up a baby what's app as you're struggling at moment! for you, what is it with insensitive friends?!

Yes Flen! Awesome idea! I've actually just messaged one of my close friendship groups little (25) sisters. She had a mc in between her 2 dcs and although it's only the 1 she can relate to how I feel and has been so supportive. I just messaged her and poured my heart out cos she knows the girls and their likely reactions and she suggested the same thing but also to maybe message my pregnant mate and explain. Less sure about that.

Not sure whether to say yay or boo for the morning sickness! It'll be worth it thus tome. it will it will it will

flen is it worth seeing the gp about something for your Ms? Sounds dreadful...

There's no way I can remember exactly who has said what so bear with me here you chatty lot...

Welcome newbies. I'm sorry you've found yourself here but it is the bees knees and we will support you through everything xx

lost how are you getting on today? Thinking of you. Hope you have some real life support as well as us lot x

mrsC hope you are surviving your fretting. Fading symptoms sucks in so many ways but can also be a good sign that things are progressing as they should be and the placenta is taking over. Would it be worth having another scan this week to out your mind at rest?

loopy are you ok? Haven't notice anything recent from you (forgive me if I've justed missed your post) thinking of you

I'm going to get confused by having 2 brummie!!

Great scan news bootles and.... Oh my God... Here it is... Should be keeping notes... brummiemum sorry if I've missed anyone.

brummiegirl it was horrible giving up the progesterone at the time and took me a good 3 weeks to stop but I can honestly say I don't miss the bum bullets at all. Have you stopped the clexane as well now?

barking can only echo what others have said and we'll all be here for you on Friday night and at the weekend

I can honestly say I'd be a crap teacher but I love you lot for being so passionate about it and doing what you do. I'm always thinking gawd... The teachers will not like my typos!! Or lack of grammar!!

Right well my brain has failed me - big wave to everyone else. I'm sorry for not name checking you all.

Shitting myself about my scan on Thursday. Can't sleep. Can't think straight. Just failing to be a person really. It's ridiculous.

flen, i know exactly where you are with the sickness. It sounds like yours could be hyperemesis and i would second the suggestion of seeing if the gp could give you something. After my first mc i needed a few months off to recover, and most of that was to recover from the sickness rather than the mc. It takes so much out of you. I really believe this will be the one for you though and you won't have to do it again (unless you choose to of course!). It's incredibly hard when you're in the thick of it though. I remember there were times with dd where i thought i couldn't cope and wondered if I'd made a big mistake. But you will get through it. I hope you are someone who gets rid of it relatively early. Once mine had fully stopped i felt great for the rest of the pg (actually if i think about it, i still didn't have an easy time with reflux, hip pain, swelling etc, but it seemed like nothing compared to hg hell!)

MrsD nope been told clexane for the whole way through!!!

When you say it was horrible giving up progesterone was it horrible physically or just hard work mentally?