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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 27 - Tests, Treatments and Trying Again

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BumbleBee0 · 03/07/2015 07:26

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
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Flen · 13/07/2015 14:34

Snap march! I think spotting would have worried me less, but it was quite a bleed, albeit over in an hour or so. Now it's more like brown spotting. This is how mc2 started so I'm not hopeful.

mrsb0710 · 13/07/2015 14:34

Will catch up later. Just wanted to say thank you for thinking of me.
I'm home with DH looking after me. The erpc went ok, I'm just uncomfortable now. The nursing staff were wonderful and stayed until I was out to hold my hand.
They said they'll do tests on the fetus, so with that and the amnio we might get answers.
Now time to recuperate and heal and then think about the future.

OneStep2015 · 13/07/2015 14:38

Mrsb glad to hear you are ok and are receiving good care.
Recovery time now, give yourself time and space and pamper yourself.
Big hugs xxxx

Marchgirl · 13/07/2015 14:39

Glad it went ok today mrsb, i hope you feel like you can start to heal a bit now, emotionally and physically, that limbo before is the worst bit. I hope the testing and/or amnio bring you some answers. Rest up and keep chatting on here (as long as you find it helps) xx

MrsConfusion · 13/07/2015 14:46

Hugs MrsB, curl up with some films and good good to let your body heal. Head and heart will catch up in their own time.

Flen, March sending a tight squeezy handhold to you both. I know exactly that feeling of shock and dread but so many people have bleeds in successful pregnancies. Flen it stinks that EPU won't scan given you're presenting for different reason Angry. Are they at least doing bloods to check Hcg rise? That's what my EPU did when I went in super early with a bleed. march is it worth ringing to check about bloods for you too? Thinking of you both v much.

barkingtreefrog · 13/07/2015 14:48

Thanks oneday Smile

girlie Dh is still a teacher. It used to be both of us going away every summer for 5 weeks, but I quit teaching last year as I couldn't face juggling more fertility treatment with the classroom and I was hoping leaving a stressful job would give me a miracle bfp I don't feel it's fair that he should have to quit travelling just because I left the profession, but his trip was planned and booked last Christmas when we didn't think we'd still be on this roundabout...
I'm going to recruit different friends to keep me busy at key points, but I'm feeling quite emotional about it at the moment, so haven't started talking about it yet.

loopy Surely it's the strongest, most determined sperm that are still hanging around?! Grin

bythesea there's a meeting about dad tomorrow with the medical team and physios etc. Should know what the plan is about trying to get him home or if it will be possible. I didn't manage to visit him this weekend as I was still ill and didn't want to take my germs into the hospital - the man in the bed next to him on this new ward now has c-difficle....
Now go and enjoy being pg! Grin Grin

twilight sorry it's a bfn but it might have been late implantation, you're not out yet!

spammit grrrrrr. How frustrating Angry. Thanks, I think I'll be ranting plenty when the scans start to ramp up, and then in the 2ww!!!

March and Flen everything crossed for you, it's so bloody stressful Thanks Thanks.

barkingtreefrog · 13/07/2015 14:49

xpost Mrsb - glad they treated you well. Look after yourself Thanks Thanks.

sebsmummy1 · 13/07/2015 14:53

mrsB sorry for your loss, I'm glad they are testing the feotus as part of your RMC care. My results were a trisomy and even though I was really shocked at the time, it helped me as I realised my body did nothing wrong. I healed whilst watching Game of Thrones back to back. The gorier the better as I was in such a foul mood I wanted the world to suffer with me and GOT provided me with that satisfaction lol (awful I know).

Spamminit · 13/07/2015 14:57

Onestep I will definitely have to look into that and try and get something in place.

Flen March Big hugs to you both, fingers crossed here that all is well xx

MrsB I am glad that it went ok today, hope you start to feel better soon. Take it easy Thanks

girliesaints · 13/07/2015 16:36

Quick check in as between meetings, so will catch up properly later.

March/ Flen, ditto what Sebs said that I remember Cloud had spotting on and off in the early weeks so don't give up home. Fingers crossed for both of you x

Emerald72 · 13/07/2015 17:37

Mrsb*thinking of you today and hope you get some results back that can give you some answers. I hope you start to heal now both physically and emotionally but it will take time. Be kind to yourself and rest lots, big hugs x

Spam that's terrible, I understand how you feel and also feel completely let down by NHS support and aftercare.

Thinking of you March and FlenI hope it's not what you fear, lots people have bleeding in successful pg so there's still hope yet.

barking sorry you've got to go through all this without DH, hope all your friends rally round and you always have us all here.

Just spoke to Coventry and definitely having af now. Bit worried about when next af will come and then the timing of ovulation if it happens, as we are away end August till mid sept so might miss the 7-10 day window. Really don't want to wait another month for it as holding of Ttc till after results back....,,

Thornfield38 · 13/07/2015 18:02

Big hugs and handholding march and flen. Hope that the spotting resolves itself very soon. Wish we could all get through this without all the worry.

mrsb glad you're home and that you were well looked after at the hospital. Look after yourself over the next few days.

Thanks mrsd and bythesea, I'm ok, just holding out till the scan tomorrow. Definitely started to feel a bit sick over last couple of days, not sure if it is anxiety or possibly a bit of morning sickness kicking in.

Marchgirl · 13/07/2015 18:06

Hand holding for tomorrow thorn. Really hoping it's good news x

OneStep2015 · 13/07/2015 18:12

thorn thinking of you, wishing you good luck for your scan tomorrow. Xx

Brummiegirl15 · 13/07/2015 18:13

Flen March Loopy and. Thorne got absolutely everything crossed for you

Loopy don't forget I was convinced I hadn't caught because DP's last successful attempt was days before I ovulated and then of course he couldn't finish.

I was shocked when I got a positive test!

Just done some hoovering and got a real twinge in my lower left side - why does the fear never leave you???

Spam that is so annoying I'm Angry for you!

Teach3 · 13/07/2015 18:20

I am sorry to hear that Flen and March, I hope the spotting resolves itself soon xx

Minnie74 · 13/07/2015 18:23

march and flen hoping with all my heart that your bleeds/spotting are nothing to worry about. It's so unfair that it can't just all be easy. And flen I'm so Angry at your Epu policy-surely that should be put to the side in certain circumstances. Squeezy hand holds here too.

loopy congrats and hope this is the one!

mrsb I'm glad your home. Take all the time you need to recover. Watching crap telly and chunking on half a stone of chocolate weight seemed to help me turn a corner eventually. Hope you've got people to run around and look after you xx

thorn good luck with the scan tomorrow x

bythesea lovely to hear from you. 28 weeks!

spam so sorry you're no closer to any answers. So bloody infuriatingly frustrating!

barking just hugs lovely. You must have so much on your mind at the moment. X

emerald I found the wait for Coventry frustrating too but I'm glad I waited to go. At least I can cross that off the list! Hopefully all your dates will fall where you need them to.

IFinishedTheBiscuits · 13/07/2015 18:49

Flen and March, all of my miscarriages started with bleeding - so I was surprised that so many ladies on this thread have bleeding and still go on to have babies. It seems to be really common, maybe even more so in RMC cohort, so don't give up hope yet.
Loopy, older eggs needing new sperm is an interesting theory... It sounds like something I would absolutely convince myself of but hearing it from someone else it's easier to be a bit more objective!

Emerald72 · 13/07/2015 19:10

Thanks Minnie good to hear it was worth the wait, I hope I can catch it right next month.

Thorn best of luck for your scan tomorrow.

girliesaints · 13/07/2015 20:25

Mrs B, glad to hear it went as well as it could be expected. Hope you're getting of Ttc from Mr B x

Marchgirl · 13/07/2015 20:33

How is the bleeding flen? Hope it has calmed down x

mrsb0710 · 13/07/2015 20:46

Sending out my good thoughts for those ladies who are having bleeding/spotting at the moment. I am hand holding and hoping it's just things settling in/stretching etc. Not knowing, and being in limbo is the worst part.

I didn't ring work today, but I will tomorrow. I just think the way I was treated after my mc in my last job has put the fear into me of 'being in trouble' or having someone not understand. I know they're not the same, but its daunting.
Silly me thought I might go in Friday, but that's probably going to be the start of my hormonal crash. We're away next week in Devon, so I'll take these two weeks and try not to stress about the money.

MrB has been amazing, keeping me supplied with tea, toast, chocolate and cheesecake. Also dvds. Just watching and eating rubbish really.

Need to ring my mum, I've messaged her, but not called today as I know I'll breakdown on the phone and that's hard for her as she is in Australia. Much much too far away when I need a mum hug.

Ok, sorry, just rambling now.

I see you ladies who are and have been on this same shitty rollercoaster journey and that makes me stronger. We can get there. When I'm ready and know more I have lots of questions. For now, painkillers and rest Flowers

Frecklefire · 13/07/2015 20:57

Reading your ttc of last month Brummie** makes me feel a bit more hopeful - very similar story here, dtd a few days bf but dh couldn't finish when it counted (too hot, too tired, too late). I'm trying not to test b4 the end of term as i'll be so gutted, at least come friday the holidays will be a consilation, but i have the clear blue ready and have read the instructions three times...

OneStep2015 · 13/07/2015 20:59

Mrsb I also know that feeling when you call your mum. When I've been in the middle of my miscarriages I have lost count how many times I've broken down on the phone, it hurt so much to make those calls and discuss it with my mum and my mum only lives 30 miles away! Emotionally it took so much out of me.

This last miscarriage I just couldn't do it to myself anymore, I didn't speak to anybody except my sister during the miscarriage, it definitely did help as I wasn't sending myself on that extra emotional roller coaster, also I think this thread was amazing in helping me to cope and come to terms with what I was going through!!
I've had a miscarriage, a missed miscarriage, a chemical and now an ectopic/pregnancy in unknown location. Every miscarriage has been a different experience.

Minnie74 · 13/07/2015 21:06

freckle I'm going to hold out till the end of term too (although I'm almost sure af will be here by then anyway as exact same symptoms as last month, so I'm thinking two days of spotting will start tomorrow) obviously I'm also thinking every symptom might just be a bfp symptom if I'm really really lucky - and I almost broke and tested today! I hate the fking tww!

mrsb it must be so hard having your mum so far away. It sounds like Dh is doing a great job though. Lovely that you have a holiday booked for next week too.