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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 27 - Tests, Treatments and Trying Again

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BumbleBee0 · 03/07/2015 07:26

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
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mrsdiddlydoo · 18/07/2015 23:40

Great news cloud! Very happy for you. Smile

flen sorry you are struggling with the nausea and sickness. I've always found ginger doesn't help me. And as some others have said being hungry or having an empty stomach makes me worse. Just eat what you can and what you fancy. Crackers esp salty ones and haribo tangtastic have been sustaining my pregnancy for quite some time. I can't do dairy without vomiting, but plain things like potatoes and pasta usually work. Little and often. Flat fizzy drinks. And ice lollies when everything else fails. I was off work for 7 weeks with ds and 5 weeks this time. Even with my unsuccessful pregnancies I was unwell so never believe it means everything is OK. Hope you find a way to get through it that works for you. My gp has always been very supportive.

loopy hope you are OK and hanging on in there

brummie will be thinking of you on Monday

emerald glad you're having a good weekend. You've made me want dippy eggs!

thorn hope you're feeling OK and there's been no more spotting

belle I love your positive posts. They help boost my hopefulness

Big waves to everyone I've missed.

Went to a birthday BBQ this evening and more people found out we're expecting. It's so difficult listening to their baby yayness and assumptions and lack of naivety. They don't know about our mcs and it wasn't the right time to say anything but I just wanted to scream out loud that this is our 4th baby not second. We talked about it in the car on the way home and dh totally got it and was really good. Could happily hide away from the world, preferably under a duvet, for the next 5 months.

mrsdiddlydoo · 18/07/2015 23:41

Duh... Naivety not lack of naivety...

Marchgirl · 19/07/2015 07:26

mrsd, well done on getting through the party. It's hard to deal with those kinds of reactions when people don't know what you've been through. Hopefully as time goes on you will be able to believe it a bit more and also maybe you can let a few more people know about what you've been through if the time is right.

loopy and allthereis, been thinking of you both x

emerald, sounds like a lovely weekend and exactly what you need at the moment.

thorn, how are you doing?

bootles · 19/07/2015 07:54

I really feel for those of you who have continued to have bad sickness after mc diagnosed - that must be hellish. For me the symptoms have always tallied with the health of the pg so I can take them a bit more positively (except the tfmr where I felt ill up until the day).
mrsd I have taken the odd day off work but am now thinking about just saying sod it and taking 1-2 weeks off - I'm always either highly nauseated, exhausted or highly anxious. I can still mostly function (sounds like some of you have been totally debilitated by it) but its a struggle at times. Sorry I don't mean to complain.

mrsd I know what you mean - the inability to feel straightforward baby yayness is hard. Our situation is such that I have to plan for what will happen if it works out otherwise we will be in a dire financial situation. At the same time I feel silly, guilty, and jinxy by planning..

I do know others are in a worse place and I really am sorry if it sounds like I am complaining - its just the fear is never ending.

mrsb i hope you had a better night last night

Sorry on phone on bus cant scroll back...will do proper catch up after work..

bootles · 19/07/2015 07:57

Also thinking of loopy and allthereis

march none of my losses have been very early, and I have had bad cramping in tbe early weeks with all of them. Always scary though. How is the line?

Marchgirl · 19/07/2015 08:16

bootles, Please don't apologise on here for your pg progressing or for a bit of a moan about sickness. I am in awe of you for carrying on despite your last loss, which must have been so hard to continue when it failed on treatment. It gives me hope. Have been thinking about how i would continue if the treatment failed this time and tge thought scares the shit out off me.

The lines are progressing well for me (or as well as they can on the ic) and i have reached the stage where i have to eat first thing, so i think that it progress (early for me to be starting that, obv my mind is running away with itself and thinking twins!). Feeling surprisingly calm. Don't know if it's because it feels different this time, or because i feel like i can't change the inevitable if it's going to happen, but have decided to just go with it. Looking forward to seeing my acu lady next week (she was on hols this week) and getting some holding points in, plus seeing if she can help with the nausea. Suppose i should chase up the scan date too Confused

BumbleBee0 · 19/07/2015 09:29

Thinking of you loopy and allthereis xFlowersx

Meant to say spam, I'm so sorry the hospital have been so crap during and after you losing your son Jack. I hope you get an apology and they put procedures in place to ensure this doesn't happen again to other parents.

girlie well done on changing the hospitals policy. That's a great achievement which you should be very proud of and no doubt will help so many women during such a difficult time.

barking good to hear your dad is improving. Hope he can go home soon and continue to get support.

flen and March sorry your sickness is so bad. I hope the pred takes the edge off for you March (don't think you're on it flen) and hope you can both keep eating.

Cloud fantastic news on your scan! Grin

brummie have everything crossed for you tomorrow, feeling positive for you though!

Sickness is a big thing for me as it disappeared with mmc1 and I just stopped 'feeling' pg, so feeling icky and tired helps reassure me. (But saying that I've never had really bad Ms so never had to cope with that and probably wouldn't wish it on myself if it was so bad ifyswim) However with mc2 my boobs were still tingley and I kept getting the 'let down' feeling and urge to bf a couple of weeks after which was horrid.

Had a bit of a panic the last couple of days as I felt a bit better and not as tired but think it's the anxiety about next weeks scan that takes over. bootles I think you said your symptoms go just before a scan? Do you also find the pred masks symptoms too? Was back to feeling rough yesterday though so still 'feel' pg.

We told my parents yesterday and it was good to tell someone in RL and made it feel more real. Dont think we'll tell anyone else for a while yet though.

OP posts:
girliesaints · 19/07/2015 09:38

Great news Cloud. How many week are you now?

March, glad to hear the line's progressing x

Feeling slightly hungover last night after having a bbq yesterday for our close friends. Had to endure one of Dh's friends wife's going on how hard it's being 16wks pregnant. Very annoyed as she know about the mcs. Anyway once she went my friends, sil and sister decided she was out of order I my behalf, which was a relief as I wondered if it was me being over sensitive!

Marchgirl · 19/07/2015 09:42

Lots of people have mentioned disappearing symptoms before a scan. I'm sure there is some psychological explanation but it's worrying nonetheless bumble. Glad you have got some symptoms back. How lovely that you have told your parents. I told my dsis yesterday. I know it's ridiculously early but I'm so over the 'can't tell anyone in case something goes wrong' thing, and decided the support was more important.

Marchgirl · 19/07/2015 09:44

Glad the others realised how hard that was for you girlie. I think someone pg people get so caught up in their own story they forget about everyone around them.

sebsmummy1 · 19/07/2015 10:04

Girls do we need a new thread?

Marchgirl · 19/07/2015 10:05

We do. Do you want to make a new one sebs? I can paste in the stats and link to the info sheet

sebsmummy1 · 19/07/2015 10:58

Normally it's one of the TTC as it's considered lucky, anyone want to jump in with a crazy new title? Grin

Brummiegirl15 · 19/07/2015 11:57

Well I started a thread and got a BFP that thread so defo someone who is TTC needs to start!!!

Kazz2112 · 19/07/2015 12:16

I'll do it! smiley this morning..how do i do it? wi get my laptop going!

Kazz2112 · 19/07/2015 12:17

I'm on it!

sebsmummy1 · 19/07/2015 12:21

Pmsl Kazz, I love your enthusiasm Wink

Just start a new thread in the same section with a similar title and we can copy and paste the stats.

sebsmummy1 · 19/07/2015 12:22

Oh and post the new link to the new thread on here so we can find it!

Kazz2112 · 19/07/2015 12:27

New thread ladies:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2429002-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Support-Thread-28-Tests-Treatments-Trying-again-Trying-to-stay-sane-and-most-of-all-TREMENDOUS-support

Please can someone add the stats as i;ve lost track of what has changed since the last thread was created!

Now... fingers crossed creating this brings me luck!

Kazz2112 · 19/07/2015 12:38

Could someone also maybe post the link to the spreadsheet at the top of the new thread so its easier to find for everyone?

Marchgirl · 19/07/2015 14:04

All done. Thanks for the new thread kaz, hope it brings you luck! See you on the other side everyone

Marchgirl · 19/07/2015 14:05

Finishing thread, see link above

Marchgirl · 19/07/2015 14:05

Finishing thread, see link above

Marchgirl · 19/07/2015 14:05

Finishing thread, see link above

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