Barking I will write a letter, I said I'd write it after my 2 mmc but of course time goes by and when hormones have settled, my mind settles in to that 'oh one day I'll most probably need my local services again and best not to complain'. My first miscarriage was immediately after a painful TVS at my local EPU. I'd had 2 previous to that not one bit painful and quick, blood hcg were only taken after the first scan (where nothing was visible at 5wks) and they weren't repeated for some reason. At the 3rd scan a tiny empty yolk sac was seen at the top of my uterus. I was sent away and an appointment made to come back in a week. But I walked out the door and started miscarrying on the way home. I alerted EPU to the bleeding but just told if it worsens to go to A&E and I shouldn't bleed after a TVS. Well the next day was Xmas Eve where my symptoms worsened slightly, managed it all day, then Xmas morning started bleeding heavily, NHS 111 made an out of hours appt to see the GP at the hospital. A lady in a 4x4 drove in to dh's car on the way there. GP could do nothing obviously and made an appt for a scan Boxing Day in main Gynae ward. We arrived there waited for ages and ages, enquiries at reception and the lady thought another couple was us and let them be scanned before us. Gynae nurse saw us afterwards and we watched her write our name in the book for a follow up scan New Years. We arrived New Years no trace of our scan appt. Since that first miscarriage I have suffered bleeding after sex close to af, have been to the dr numerous times, not one has battered an eyelid about it even though I kept going on about my progesterone levels. Was told my progesterone 'is fine as you're managing to get pregnant' and then sent away, oh and to try more lubricant lol!!! Bloody useless!! 2nd mmc had really strong pg symptoms up until 7 weeks. Started spotting/bleeding on and off, persistent shoulder blade pain. Talked to my dr on the phone was told I'd be fine, hang on for 12 wk scan. Mentioned to MW, told to tell GP. Took ourselves off the local A&E there for four hours, cannulated, told 'still pregnant and blood tests are all ok' no actual blood numbers given to us, no sonographer available to scan us, sent home. Went to 12 wk scan, but had substantial bleeding two days before, I knew it was all over. Scan confirmed ended at 7 weeks. Shuffled off to a tiny tiny dark cold cupboard with no windows and two chairs, to take in the news and wait for a dr to see us. Some political rubbish conveyed to us about why the EPU head nurse couldn't talk to us. Then half hour later told she now could talk to us. Went home, miscarried in the car 3 days later on the A414 at Hemel Hempstead. Dh drove to the urgent care centre in Hemel where a wonderful nurse (also suffered 3 mc herself) took care of me, got me seen by a lovely dr and took away the fetal sac. I was having contraction like pain, could barely talk, and was slightly out of it, I wish I'd asked for it to be tested. Finally got home at 11pm at night, awoke in shock at 2am, covered in sweat, blood and hyperventilating, called an ambulance and was seen to, they sat with me for a good half hour on the sofa at home until I was alright. ALL of that, potentially, could have been avoided right from the beginning with better monitoring and care, perhaps money wouldn't have had to be wasted by our call to the ambulance service and our trip to A&E too. As the EPU nurse said when I told her I'd manage the mc at home, some women when told the pg has ended, then, their bodies let go and allow them to mc, if I'd known sooner my mind might have allowed my body to let go sooner.
I realise every single one of you on here have your own, most probably worst stories, experiences than mine, but I'm still angry about the mismanagement of early pregnancy. It takes a couple of miscarriages and lots of days spent googling and gaining enough knowledge to go in armed to the Drs to start asking the right questions. Sometimes I wish there was just one 'go to' website that had every thing you ever needed to know about miscarriages.
I'm sorry if I'm ranting on, I'm slap bang in the middle of this slow mc and I realise not everyone will agree with my view point, just thought I'd just tell it from my current perspective. 
