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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 26 - tests, treatment and trying again

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bythesea82 · 17/06/2015 14:40

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
Previous thread here

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Minnie74 · 25/06/2015 23:22

mrsC sorry you're having a scare. hoping it's nothing at all to worry about. Handholding and hugs x

bootles · 25/06/2015 23:23

pop, your words bring tears to my eyes. Thinking of you and your family now and tomorrow. Enormous hugs and much love x

mrsconfusion so sorry you have had some bleeding, it's absolutely NOT necessarily no.4. Can you be seen tomorrow? Huge hugs x

march four months isn"t so long. I know exactly what you mean though - I find it impossible to take a break from TTC. Pragmatic is a great approach, but it's definitely OK to be gutted/furious/bloody sad, too x

brummie, I am right there with you. Willing us both on x

boozle massive congratulations! That is fantastic news! I'm so so pleased for you! x

Loads to say, too tired, dammit look at the time...

bythesea82 · 25/06/2015 23:25

pop sending your family lots of love for tomorrow Flowers
mrsC sorry you've had a scare, hope no more bleeding.
brummie think you have a scan tomorrow. Good luck.
flen hope the testing shows a nice strong line tomorrow
Sorry not to mention more, nearly asleep......

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barkingtreefrog · 25/06/2015 23:52

Thinking about you tomorrow Pop. Thanks

MrsC I am hoping your fears are not confirmed and everything is still OK. Thanks

oneday it shouldn't have happened to you like that, an already devastating event was made far worse than it needed to be.
I'm the same, I always want to do/say something if I think it might stop someone else going through the same thing. We rented a holiday cottage last year, 6 of us, three couples. I'd only just got over the last mc and it was going to be a nice weekend away. We arrived first, and had a look round. One couple had already bagged the room with the ensuite plus jacuzzi, the other had said they'd take the twin room, so we found the other. It had a cot, all made up, at the end of the bed. I didn't react well. I found a spare blanket in a cupboard and threw it over but I just couldn't face it still. Ended up swapping with the couple who were in the twin room. The thought of sleeping in a room with DH with an empty cot at the end of the bed... Still fills me up now thinking about it.
When we got back I sent an email to the owner, saying there had been nothing on the cottage information about a cot in any of the rooms and to come across that without warning and to have it in the room could potentially be very upsetting for anyone who had suffered infertility, mc or child loss. I put it nicely, saying I understood that most people wouldn't even think about it and I assumed it was just made up for convenience so they didn't have to put it up and take it down according to who had rented it. But I had an email back saying they would reconsider their policy of leaving it available, so I felt better for having said something.

Flen · 26/06/2015 06:11

A strong line this morning at 11 DPO, will be calling the EPU Monday to book in for a 5 week scan (as long as line is still there, obv...) And deep breaths...

MrsC how is it this morning? Can you be seen?

MrsConfusion · 26/06/2015 06:50

flen great news. Keep breathing.

seb think today is scan day? Hand holding if so.

brummie thinking of you

As for me, no more big bleeds overnight but still proper red when I wipe and now feeling crampy so not hopeful. I'll phone hospital when they open.

Brummiegirl15 · 26/06/2015 06:55

exciting Flen!! Fingers crossed.

Bythesea my scan is next Friday. Normally it would've been today but in my head I needed to have a bit longer between scans

BumbleBee0 · 26/06/2015 06:57

Flen yey! Hope you get booked in ok for your scan. So pleased for you Smile

Good luck Brummie and Sebs for your scans today.

mrsC sorry you're bleeding. I hope it isn't what you fear it is but we're here whatever the outcome. Thinking of you x

BumbleBee0 · 26/06/2015 06:58

good luck for next Friday Brummie* Wink

Marchgirl · 26/06/2015 07:01

Hope today passes peacefully pop and that you have time to remember your dd

Oh mrsc, so sorry to hear you've had some bleeding. Hand holding for today. I hope it's not what you fear x

Marchgirl · 26/06/2015 07:02

Great news on the stronger line flen

Good luck for your scan sebs. Hand holding x

bythesea82 · 26/06/2015 07:16

flen glad that line is nice & strong Smile
sebs good luck today

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Minnie74 · 26/06/2015 07:19

flen yay for strong lines!

sebs good luck for today

mrsC really hoping it's not what you fear. Hope you can get in for a scan x

SashaKerr · 26/06/2015 07:31

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Marchgirl · 26/06/2015 08:36

Sorry it's a bfn sasha. Hope the come down isn't too bad for you. Fingers crossed for next month

bootles · 26/06/2015 08:39

Good progress flen

Hand holding sebs

Hugs Sasha

onestep and barking* sorry for the difficult experiences, hugs.

mrsconfusion hugs, hope you get seen today

MrsConfusion · 26/06/2015 08:48

Hey ho, off up to hospital - spoke to favourite EPU nurse who would like to at least get bloods done. Can't believe I'm off to spend another day in that waiting room Sad. Can't believe I can't just get pregnant, stay pregnant, have baby.

Oh crumbs I didn't say CONGRATULATIONS boozle, utterly delighted for you and such a very beautiful name. Well done you and welcome to the world Mhairi. X

mrsdiddlydoo · 26/06/2015 08:59

mrsC this isn't fair. I'm praying it's nothing and hope they see you quickly. Keep us all posted xx

We're going away after work tonight camping for a few days so will be having a break from technology. Will be thinking of everyone whilst absent. Great news about the line flen.

Hope mhairi is being good boozle and you're enjoying cuddles

longestlurkerever · 26/06/2015 09:29

Mrsc huge hugs and a hand to hold. I know you know it isn't always bad news. I also know nothing will shake that thought except a positive scan so huge hugs and hope epu are helpful.

pop another one with tears in my eyes. You loved and carried her, you will always be her mum. Xxxxxxxx

brummie here, have my other hand to hold. It sounds so positive. I really, really hope this is your time. Do you feel different? I think i did with Beth but didn't dare let myself believe it. The symptoms came and went but they were there in the background whereas with my mmcs they had basically faded away to almost nothing.

freckle tbh I find the diagnosis of pcos very confusing. Apparently you can have the cysts without the syndrome and vice versa. Mr Rai said I "probably had polycystic ovaries" when i asked about my long cycle. Then a later scan showed multiple follicles but the sonographer said that was consistent with that point in my cycle anyway. But then at later scans in early pregnancy they said definitely polycystic and it's now written all over my notes. But no one ever said anything at any of my scans to confirm mcs or when pregnant with dd1.

I then developed gestational diabetes in my last pregnancy which is linked as one effect is a resistance to insulin, which is worse if you're carrying extra weight. My bmi was about 27-28 before this pregnancy so I did have weight to lose but Mr Rai shrugged and said my weight wasn't too bad. He didn't prescribe metformin as my fasting glucose levels were fine but even when I had gd my fasting levels were always fine but I had blood sugar spikes after meals so I think metformin or a low gi diet like I had to follow for gd could have helped.

Pcos also messes up your progesterone levels and since no one would prescribe progesterone for me I took agnus castus (with mr rai' s consent) and did notice a difference.

As for other symptoms, the classic ones are irregular periods (though mine are regular, just long cycles), excess body hair (I don't know if I have this - most of me is not very hairy but my bikini line is a bit mad and I have a line if hair on my belly (tmi!). I noticed my leg hair got thinner on the gd diet but that could just have been pregnancy, and acne, which I don't have.

Oh one final one is positive opks at random points in your cycle. I don't generally use opks but I did once get a positive right before AF arrived. Others on this thread have experienced similar though so not sure on that one.

Sorry for essay, it's a bit confusing. There is a ttc with pcos thread on here - might be worth posting over there for a broader perspective.

Flen · 26/06/2015 09:55

Emailed Prof B this morning who said to start the progesterone straight away, so that was useful. And as ever, he's amazingly quick at repsonding! I have also been to see my GP who has put me on amended hours for the last three weeks of term. Part of me feels like I'm doing all this way too early, but part of me is like GET ON IT!

Thinking of you today mrsC

And thinking of you too pop

Handholding sebs

mrsdiddly have a wonderful weekend away!

sasha that SUCKS. Keeping everything crossed for you in July.

girliesaints · 26/06/2015 09:59

Good luck Sebs x

Big hugs MrsC. Glad to hear the EPU nurse has got you in quick and you don't have to wait too long.

March, been meaning to say, as a very strong lady I suspect you fighting some of the angry you've been feeling over the past few days. In someways it may be better to give in to it, so it all comes out and then move on. In the meantime you know we're here for you x

Off on holibobs for a week today, with limited wtf access (small panic) will check in if I can but hope it's quiet on here (in a good way) whilst I'm away. Looking forward to going but also another reminder of last mc as booked it as soon I was home after eprc last month. Currently awaiting AF which Sod's law will arrive tomorrow and mean I can't go swimming for the entire time- ggrh!

Kazz2112 · 26/06/2015 11:37

Oh God. Feeling terrible. me and DH suspected his best mates wife was pregnant and I'll be absolutely honest I felt gutted / Envy even suspecting it.

Just found out we were right burt sadly she found out she'd had a mmc at 12weeks.

Now feel like the most horrible person ever for being jealous and slightly hoping our suspicions we're wrong! Confused Confused Confused Confused Confused Confused

BunnyMad · 26/06/2015 12:09

Kazz, its a horrible felling being jealous of an other pregnant person especially a friend but totally understandable. There is nothing you could have done to prevent this happening but you can be a support to her if she needs you. Does she know what you have went through? If not perhaps now would be a good time to share and take some comfort from each other. Hugs xx

Frecklefire · 26/06/2015 12:09

Longest - thankyou sooo much for the information, really

Marchgirl · 26/06/2015 12:18

Have a great holiday girlie. Hope you come back all refreshed.

Anyone heard from monten recently? Been thinking of you if you're reading!

Oh kazz, how sad. You might have hoped she wasn't pg but you would never have wished she mc. Don't feel bad. It's totally normal to feel a bit Envy. We all do at times. I think your support is the best thing you can offer. I'm sure she'll appreciate it