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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 23 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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bythesea82 · 11/05/2015 16:28

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

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bakingtins · 20/05/2015 07:07

Good luck girlie and confused

barking so sorry about your Dad. Flowers

Minnie74 · 20/05/2015 07:16

Good luck with the scans girlie and confused

Minnie74 · 20/05/2015 07:18

And hugs barking too. Such a tough decision Flowers

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Justonemoretime · 20/05/2015 07:41

Barking, that's a tough one. Best wishes to you and your family as you decide what to do.

Got to phone neonatal in a minute for an update on Scott. Off to spend the day with him again today. He's actively resisting the bottle (clamps his mouth shut in protest), but was interested in me yesterday, so well give him another go with breast feeding today and hope he goes for it.

mrsdiddlydoo · 20/05/2015 08:43

jady yes to the condom on dildo cam!

Think of you today girlie and confused.

Got another scan at lunchtime. Bricking it already. Bloody scanxiety.

barking its a tough call about your dad, but you guys deserve a break. I'm sorry he's so unwell you have to consider all this.

Hope you have a good day with Scott today just

Marchgirl · 20/05/2015 09:06

Ah. Of course, you were the other one with a scan today diddly. I knew I'd missed someone. Good luck to all three of you xx

barking, so sorry to hear your dad is so unwell. Completely understand you saying you don't want him to suffer too long. My step father had a very long illness which ended in his death and it was torture to see him suffering and see my mum trying to look after him. It sounds awful but I think it was such a relief all round when he died as he was no longer suffering. Such a hard choice for you x

Good luck on the bfps!

freckle, absolutely no need to feel bad about your words about dh. I totally needed and appreciated the solidarity, and always find your posts hilarious Grin. Think these last few days have taught me that i need to be strong about saying what I want/need, and also that i need to be better at explaining that to dh.

Af finally arrived and temp drop this morning. 2 days late. Feeling relieved.

bakingtins · 20/05/2015 09:13

Good luck mrsd

Brummiegirl15 · 20/05/2015 09:15

Good luck from here too MrsD xx

Bubblybubbles80 · 20/05/2015 09:22

Good luck with the scans girlie and confused and mrs d hope its good news:)

i had a good sleep DH had to go work today an dropped me of at mums. I'm feeling better and feel very positive for the future even after 3 m/c

barking, so sorry to hear your dad is so unwell. i hope you can work out what you going to do.

Floweroct · 20/05/2015 09:27

Good luck to those with scans today

march glad af finally appeared

barking sorry to hear about your dad too it must be so difficult

cat nearly there! Can understand the anxiety though but not long!
brummie good luck with testing on Friday!

Bfn for me today at 12dpo -gutted! Hate the way the progesterone gives you symptoms :( Really not sure when to call it a day, it's four years now and don't know how much longer I can cope but don't know how you make that call! We've got Ivf the cycle after next so we'll do that and see what happens. We will go down the adoption route but the thought of not ever giving birth, breast feeding, choosing names does make my heart break!

Sorry this is very self indulgent post, feel better getting it down though :)

Floweroct · 20/05/2015 09:31

Sorry also meant to say just hope today goes well and you get a step closer to taking him home x

Marchgirl · 20/05/2015 09:33

Sorry about bfn flower, that's utterly shit. Hope the progesterone come down isn't too bad. Really glad that you have an ivf cycle add a back up plan but still keeping fingers crossed for you before then x

Justonemoretime · 20/05/2015 09:34

Thanks Flower, sorry for the bfn. Soul destroying, I know.

Mrsdiddlydoo, hand holding today for you. x

longestlurkerever · 20/05/2015 09:39

Oh ffs, third attempt at a long post here I go:

Barking - hugest of hugs. I empathise with your dilemma. My df died of cancer when I was 24. His illness resurfaced when I was living in Paris, which was fine, because df loved Paris and I have lots of happy memories of him visiting me there. I did hesitate to go further afield, but dsis was on her gap yah in South America and it meant a lot to my df that she was out making the most of the world and he relished her updates and made her promise to go back when her trip was cut short. He was fucking lovely, my df, and it still cuts me up that he never got to meet his dgcs. If it was rmc that robbed him of that, I would hate it even more than I do already. Hugest of huge hugs to you and your family. I know what you mean about not wanting to prolong things. In our case 12 months turned into 3 weeks and though it was a huge shock, in retrospect it might have been easier on my df. Shit either way really though. Sometimes life just sucks and you have been through enough already without this. Angry at the world on your behalf!

Brummie - I said yesterday on another thread that some people on this site seem to have snarky as their default setting and interpret any difference in preferences as a personal attack on their own choices. I started an innocuous thread in primary education asking for advice and opinions on something I was considering and ended up getting quite upset at some of the responses.

girlie, mrsd, confu3ed - I will be thinking of you all today and willing there to be good news for you all.

just I hope the bfing goes well today.

bubbly glad all went well. Hope it's the beginning of the healing process for you.

flower so sorry. BFNs are horrible. Hugs.

I am pretty much ready I think, thank you (there wasn't so much to sort this time) but still have a stinking cold and want to get shot of it so I don't pass it on to the baby. Was supposed to be having a sweep today but think I'll ask for it to be postponed.

Sorry to anyone I have missed (oh bootles - cheering you on here!) but I think I'd better post before I manage to delete everything again!

Marchgirl · 20/05/2015 09:43

Meant to say just, glad to hear Scott was showing some interest in you yesterday. Hope he continues to get the hang of it today. Sounds like those k cups need a bit of help from him!

Marchgirl · 20/05/2015 09:47

Exciting times longest! By the time we start the next thread you'll hopefully be adding to the thread babies section (although as this thread moves like lightening maybe that's a bit ambitious!)

Justonemoretime · 20/05/2015 09:49

Longest, hope that cold goes soon. Awaiting news.... glad you're all set up at home.

Bootles, how are you doing? How's that line?

March, lol, I'd be terrified if I were him, they're bigger than his head!! Blush Shock

Minnie74 · 20/05/2015 10:27

Sorry mrsd handholding for your scan too.

just hope the bfing goes well.

longest hope the cold does one and looking forward to hearing about little longest (shudders at memory of sweep!) So sorry about your dad too. He sounds lovely x

flower bugger on the bfn- it's shit. Keeping fingers crossed that it happens for you next time x

Brummiegirl15 · 20/05/2015 10:40

I have to admit I am worried if it's the progesterone giving me symptoms.

If you get a bfn do you stop the progesterone straight away?

Marchgirl · 20/05/2015 10:56

You're supposed to take it for 7 days, test, then if bfn stop it, but i knew i was out by 12dpo so didn't take it from then. I had no symptoms at all on it, so not necessarily that causing symptoms brummie Grin

Floweroct · 20/05/2015 11:10

brummie I didn't have any symptoms on it last month which is why I got my hopes up so hopefully it'll be better news for you! I'm still going to carry on taking them today and tomorrow and test again on Friday when I'll be 14dpo although not expecting it to change!

Flen · 20/05/2015 12:13

brummie I stopped taking 13dpo after a very clear negative. I did get some side effects on progesterone, the painful boobs was the one that was confusing.

barking that sounds like an incredibly difficult decision. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad, I don't know what I'd do if I was in a similar position. Hugs.

flower sorry about the BFN, they are just horrible. Hugs to you, and glad to hear you have some back-up plans.

girlie, mrsd, confused hope it goes well today.

bubbly hope you're doing ok.

longest, exciting! Almost here!

I got positive OPK on Monday and temp rise today, so entering the tww. AGAIN. I feel positive today, like, yay maybe this could be our month, but I am aware this is my general pattern and the positivity declines into AGH pretty quickly as the time passes...

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bythesea82 · 20/05/2015 12:16

Good luck with the scans today mrsD, Girlie and confused. Hope that's everyone! Have to say, I am finding scanxiety is kicking right back in for 20 week scan on 1st June, got that good old feeling of time slowing down Sad

barking I am sorry to hear about your Dad, you really aren't having an easy roll of the dice at the moment. I think longest is right, I am sure it would mean a lot to him to know you were out there living your life and trying new things even if you saw him less often. I don't know, it's so hard though. My DF died a few years ago, 12 months turned into 8 days and in some ways, that was so short that there was no time to think about anything or make any decisions. Anyway, my thoughts are with you, I hope you can find a way to make the call about moving. Flowers

just hope feeding goes well today. Oh and I laughed about the bra. I am a little terrified that my boobs might soon take over the world, I dread to think what will happen to them by the end of pregnancy.

longest you are so close! Hope your cold clears up soon so you feel a bit more ready!

flower hope you're ok Flowers, BFN are so hard and always make for a day of thinking back over the whole horrible RMC journey.

brummie I can't believe you haven't given in and tested!! I am away from tomorrow for the bank holiday weekend in Spain, really hope I have some signal, feel like I am going to be leaving on a cliff hanger if you're not testing until tomorrow evening! Wink

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girliesaints · 20/05/2015 13:20

Back from scan and still inconclusive, although it's looking more likely that it's not going to be viable. There has been some growth and now they can see a sack but it's still very small and no hb seen. Ooh and both pregnancy sacks were at seen again so technically it's twins...

Got to go back a week Friday for hopefully a scan to confirm one way or another. I'm also booked in for surgery the same day.

Of course disappointed if it's not viable but at the stage now where want to move on.

Hope the others having scans today have better luck than me.