Headwreck & Hope. Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

[mrsb0710]

Original threadtotal headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today

Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

Scan as expected. Been told there is a waiting list/delay for OP but no other information. Have to wait for a call, potentially up to a weeks wait

Oh Mini, sorry to read this

MrsB my DH found my MC very hard too. He looked at the screen when we went to the EPU and saw the heartbeat on there, whereas I tried not to look at the screen, I think I was already steeling myself against what was going to happen.

We were meant to be at 9 weeks but the baby only measured for 5 weeks so even though there was a heartbeat, we were told there was not much hope. He said afterwards, I wish they hadn't said 'there's your baby's heartbeat' because at that moment he began to hope it would all be ok, only to have our hopes dashed the next minute when the sonographer said 'but the baby is much too small for the dates you've given us'.

Hope you can both support each other and be kind to yourselves! I remember after it all happened I desperately wanted a break, we had been planning a spring break but DH had to take so much time off work to look after me & our older DD during the MC that became his 'holiday', not much of a holiday really.

We did have a weekend away a month or so later and that did really help, just getting away from home was good.

My dh is finding it hard too, he is also struggling with not being able to do anything about any of it. He doesn't realise though that him showing he is upset does help me feel less alone.

We are also planning a weekend away; currently living with in-laws as our house purchase fell through, and I've been hiding in our room!

mini I had to wait from Xmas eve to NYs eve for my erpc. I'm so.sorry they couldn't push it any quicker to help you start healing. If you feel unwell at all, get a temp, bleed lots, go straight to a&e.

My DH is my rock, all my family live o/s and we don't have any family or friends nearby. Partners definitely need support also.

Evening all.

suz, glad the erpc went OK. atat, sorry for your loss.

I've had a tough day. Call today at school - ofsted tomorrow/thurs. I'm just not in the place to cope with this. My boss actually asked me if I could postpone my appointment on Thurs to Friday. I couldn't believe it. He knows what my appointment is for and is usually a very caring person. He's made me feel guilty for booking Thursday off...

Everywhere I look there are newborns and scan pictures. It's driving me potty. A friend has just put a scan of no. 3 on FB - no. 3 and she's younger than me!!!

Ibeka - I would go to the gp and get signed off if you can. Work cannot discriminate against you for anything pregnancy/mc related. I know it all seems tough right now, but you are number one.

I started off being meek and mild with my boss and it got me nowhere. You don't have to be rude, but be definite about what you need.

Its not just the physical side that needs attention and time to heal.

Thought I was doing OK today, then two things set me off. The first was getting upset about having a glass of wine. The second was someone announcing their pregnancy on FB.

Also worried that the scan showed that I haven't passed everything but the bleeding has slowed down today.... I presum that if stuff remains then my hormone levels won't drop as quickly so the blood tests will pick it up? Just having a stress that things will remain and i won't be rescanned.

Sorry to hear about all the tough times. Kep, it could be that what remains will just come through slowly. When I mc in the autumn I did not go through any heavy bleeding, it was all slow and gradual. I had only twin empty sacs and they slowly shrank away, as shown in the scan. At the last scan the doctor said there wasn't much left. I had stopped bleeding completely by that point. Doctor said the rest would come out in my next period, which is what happened. That was a heavy, clotty period which lasted two weeks. Not painful though. So, unless you show signs of infection (temp, bad discharge) then don't worry, hopefully your body will reset soon.

Thinking of you and your scan this morning Ginger.

thanks fromwest will report back later.

Thinking of you Kep and Ginger
I've had a rough night. DH managed to make me laugh last night by joking around, and I felt guilty about how it made me forget and feel like normal.

Bad pains in the night and this morning. My bleeding felt like it was stopping yesterday, but seems to be heavy again this morning.
We are off to hospital soon for another round of tests to see what's happening..

thinking of you atat - sounds similar to me - bad pains this morning and heavy bleeding again. Feeling very sorry for myself this morning. Not got bloods until tomorrow first thing, so feel a bit in limbo until then, well until the results at lunchtime.

ginger I hope all goes well today for you.

thank you so much. scan done baby is perfect measuring exactly 9 weeks. looks very baby ish ha! amazing. thank you

Thinking of everyone who's having a rough time. I'm feeling worse today if that's possible - thought I'd be getting better each day but still feel full of anaesthetic and dizzy. Lots of pains too which I didn't have yesterday or the day before. My mum was here yesterday but not today and I'm worrying about going to pick up my boy at the end of the day - it's only a short walk so thought I'd be fine, but we do have to cross a road and it's alongside a river, so possibly dangerous if I'm still woozy! Trying to arrange MIL to come rescue me. Perhaps she'll bring snacks.

I'm feeling sensitive to baby and pregnancy announcements too Kep, there seem to have been a lot on Facebook lately. I didn't put my last pregnancy on Facebook at all and now I'm glad as it is hard seeing it when you're going through this, if I'm lucky enough to get pregnant again the next one will be kept off Facebook too.

DH driving me mad, just wouldn't get up this morning so I was wide awake by 6.30 - all he had to do was take toddler and keep him in living room, but he kept coming back to bed so the boy kept coming in too. Then when they finally left, the living room, bathroom and bedroom floors were just covered in clothes, toys and breakfast. Argh! I am full of rage but too achey and dizzy to do anything about it.

Congratulations ginger really happy for you

Congratulations ginger!

thank you soooo much am still on cloud 9!

Excellent news Ginger!
Had you been wondering whether or not to get an earlier scan for reassurance before this scare? Wondering how you'd get through the wait all the way to 12 weeks?
Looks like you got your early reassurance scan even if it didn't happen in the way you would have planned..

Back from the hospital. Had more bloods taken, and should have had the results within 15 minutes. 40 minutes later, they came out to say there's a problem with the machine, and they are sending us home to await a phone call. So just waiting now.

no id decided i definitely didnt want an early scan as i would rather not know if something bad had happened after all the waiting last time. so odd i ended up with one really, i was petrified after last time and dp didnt come as he was so scared.

Ginger I'm so glad it's good news, I've been thinking about you loads, glad I can uncross everything

Machine is still broken, so they've said they'll call as soon as they know. Getting a bit jittery now. Although I feel like I know the result, I need to know for certain so I can just move on

thank you wonky how r u coming along? r u planning on an early scan?

at sorry to hear that is there anywhere else u could go?

ginger yay!!

Not really. I just need to be a bit more patient I suppose.