Headwreck & Hope. Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

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Original threadtotal headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today

Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

bump that's awful, hope you are ok now and resting.
Today has been the worse morning for pain and cramps. My stomach and lower back were in so much pain. Feeling a bit better now with pain killers and a hot water bottle. I'm assuming this is normal? DH has just brought me breakfast in bed. I'm going to try and do some jobs round the house today. If I'm going back to work on Monday, I need to make sure I can actually do things.

Hoping to get out the house today for a lunch out with dh later today. Hope everyone else is coping ok today.

Sorry to hear you're both feeling awful bump and AtAt, I hope you're feeling better soon. I'm slightly different as I've had my ERPC, but am getting terrible cramps on and off. Some of it seems to be trapped wind though (tmi), it's a bit better today after some peppermint tea! But yes yes to painkillers and hot water bottle, I've also got some of those heat patches you stick on your vest, those are working beautifully. Also hoping to get out of the house, just a quick walk up the road to town and back. I'm in an upstairs flat so no garden, I haven't been outside at all since Monday and I'm starting to long for a bit of fresh air!

Juat had to google erpc, as nurses haven't mentioned it to me. Do you have to have that done? I assume as they've not mentioned it, that I may not need one?

No, you don't have to have it, I opted for it. In fact, at my hospital they try to push for it to resolve itself naturally so I had to state that I'd like to have it. I wanted the ERPC done because it had already been so long and I didn't want an indefinite wait, I wanted to be able to move on - I was already 13 weeks when I found out, 15 weeks when it was confirmed, and only a little bit of bleeding so no sign that I'd miscarry naturally soon. I felt like it was hanging over me, knowing it would happen but not knowing when. I also (stupidly I know) could feel the potential age gap with my DS stretching longer and longer and wanted to TTC again as soon as I'm ready. It was the right decision for me as I feel I can move on now and I'm feeling quite positive about the future, but it's not for everyone.

Also in my case, it wasn't happening naturally and the sac was still intact etc, if it's already happening for you there's probably no need.

Had my bloods back, hcg was 486 on Tuesday, now 206, so more than halved so go back next Thursday to see what thye are then. They monitor until less than 25, which at this rate will be next week. I will carry on using my ics to test out.

suz i totally understand - i just want to ttc again asap, so i am pleased in a weird way tha the levels are dropping quickly.

bump hope you are taking it easy.

atat my cramps get worse and then ease off but a hot water helps as do painkillers. I also had a g&t last night whoch helped me to relax. Felt very odd and sad drinking again though.

I need to dose myself up on spatone as i look and feel weak and feeble and the nurse said, due to my levels, that I can expect the bleeding/clots to carry on for a little while longer. Going to also carry on taking the pregnacare until i've finished the pack, then go back onto my ttc vits that are not the size of horse tablets

I'm still taking the pregnancy vitamins too Kep, and have just bought a new pack! I hated Pregnacare but got on really well with the much smaller Centrum version so will continue to chow down on those in the hope that it keeps me feeling as healthy as possible.

I cannot swallow tablets so have to chew them, have been surprised that the pregnacare max ones don't taste worse! Cannot cope with the omega oil though - barf. I've never eaten so healthy than since i found put i was pregnant, my craving has been fruit and obvs no So going to try and keep it up but no chance of cutting out wine completely

Hello all, I posted this query a minute ago but can't see it so here goes again.

I'm due to go in for my EPRC tomorrow. I've started getting a dark brown pre-period type mucus which I assume is the miscarriage starting? I've rung to ask but no-one answered but do I still go in tomorrow?

Ok, I got through. They said to keep the appointment even if it gets heavier.

Hope it goes as well as it can do tomorrow mini

Hi mini glad you got an answer, even though it's started it could take a while so I would definitely still go tomorrow. Hope it all goes ok xx

Thinking of you all.
mini you're in my thoughts for tomorrow. Is someone going with you?

I got spectacularly baby bombed today. Saw a girl I used to work with and she'd just been for an 8 week scan. Lovely girl, young, and doing it all alone. Happy for her, but sad and a bit envious too.
She knows my story, so she was tasteful about it and said hope we can baby stuff shop together soon.
Still rattled me a bit

Got a flashy smiley on my opk this morning, so dtd-athon has begun.

I need to do a post here when I have the energy to talk in length, i had a MMC picked up four weeks ago and had it managed a couple of days later, got the all clear last week. I'm struggling with depressive episodes, like I can be okish or a bit depressed but then the depression gets me and I feel trapped in a hole I will never get out of. The thoughts are very dark in those moments. It's different to the waves of grief when I cry about the baby, I can handle those, they feel normal.

Love to all xx

Good luck tomorrow mini, hope it goes ok.

stoat sorry to hear this.

I'm so sorry stoatystoat, completely natural to feel like that I burst into tears in Asda on Tuesday after we had it confirmed when my DH asked if I wanted to buy some wine .. The realisation I could drink again was horrible.

Thank you, DH is coming with me tomorrow and a friend is having our 3 year old for the day. X

mini I hope tomorrow goes ok for you. I cried over being able to drink again too

stoat big hugs hun

Kep and mini - if you feel like you don't want to drink, don't! I felt like 'cheering myself up' by having a drink was a poor substitute for being pregnant, and I knew I wanted to TTC again soon, so I kept not drinking and kept taking the pregnancy vitamins. And 12 months (and one more pregnancy) on, I've barely drunk a drop since. I am not quite sure if I'm completely officially teetotal, but I'm as good as.it might not be for everyone , but it certainly helped me feel in control of the situation.

Stoat, I think you realise that the depressive episodes you described are not the same as the normal sadness of grief that you also feel. If you continue to get those very dark feelings I think you should go to your GP and explain it the way you explained it here. You might need some help.

Just a very quick check in, I'll catch up on the thread properly later.

I had my second (third) scan yesterday where as expected they confirmed no change. I was then sent away with a handful of leaflets explaining my options to manage the miscarriage. I aw told to ring in the morning with my decision.

I had pretty much made my mind up that I wanted the surgical option so phoned starlight away. They were fab and got me booked in this morning.

I'm now sat on the hospital ward waiting to be seen by the doctor and then taken in!
Glad it's finally all being sorted!

Good luck If, hope it's quick and simple!

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Was feeling a bit better today, then got a text telling me my scan is booked. I'm guessing my drs etc will be told I've miscarried, and to stop making appointments for me? I'd rather not keep receiving reminders for the coming months.

Sorry to hear that AtAt, I'd guess it'll take a couple of days for the doctors to receive your notes and this was probably just bad timing. I had a random phone call this week from the doctor I saw when I had spotting a couple of days before my scan, he'd just had my notes through from the hospital, remembered me and called to check how I was. This would have been a couple of days after my erpc and about two weeks after the original scan, I guess they kept the notes until I wasn't under their care any more and then sent them back over. Hope this hasn't upset you too much.