Headwreck & Hope. Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

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Original threadtotal headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today

Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

Good luck tomorrow. Hope it goes well. I'll be thinking of you x

How are you feeling this morning? Hope it goes well x

Hope yesterday went well!

I'm back at the hospital for my check up scan this morning. Hope it's all over. Feeling very sad and nervous this morning.

Megan hopefully you get the all clear - at least you will know the worst is over and things will get better. Thinking of you today

Any news allmy? Hope you're ok

Bad news.. Stopped bleeding but it hasn't finished. Booking me in for a d&c today or tomorrow just got to wait for the phone call.

I seem to start feeling better and then get knocked back down again. Not sure how much I can handle emotionally ??

So had first AF after ERPC - came today on Day 41 which is about right for me ! I counted the day of the ERPC as Day 1. It's been more painful than I'm used to but easing a little now. Feel very emotional.

Sending sympathy to you both.

Adventure sorry you're in pain but at least you know where you are and can start trying again. Hoping the worst is over and you are feeling emotionally better tonirrow too. Have you got some support at home? Hopefully I'll see you on the other thread soon x

Oh no Megan Im sorry I was so sure you'd have good news today. have they called back yet? Look after yourself x

They called me to say It wasn't going to be today so I could eat etc as was nil by mouth just incase. I have to call at 8am tomorrow to check for a bed so fingers crossed.

Seems the world is announcing pregnancies on my fb. Hard to see as this around when I should have been having my 12 week scan ??

Hugs megan. Fx they can get you in tomorrow. Babies seem to be everywhere when you feel like this and it hurts. Sorry nothing useful to say but wanted you to know were here. Hope you get some sleep xx

Sorry for late reply ladies, ERPC went as well as could go....very sore though so tucked up in bed with hotwaterbottle and pain killers....just glad it's all over, dragged out for 2months with 6scans, countless blood tests etc. Going to wait for first AF before trying again as womb was scrapped pretty thin. Thanks for asking after me lill .....meg things will be fine and you should feel that a huge weight has been lifted once it's done, just rest for a couple of days after...adventure congrats on arrival of AF, hope you're feeling better. Hugs to everyone xxx

Glad it went ok. I'm still waiting, just phoned and said is it likely to be today because I have been nil by mouth since 8am and I'm thirsty. Now have to wait for a call back after they have spoken to the surgical team. Have a feeling it isn't going to be today after all ??

Hi All - I would like to join the thread. I went for u/s today after finding out last night that my baby had no heartbeat and measures 8 weeks. 2 previous scans with heartbeat and was growing well until yesterday. I did not believe the sonographer and I asked for a second opinion and though that they had it wrong. I read somewhere if you see a heartbeat then risk of m/c goes down to 5% or something.
My boobs are hurting less today and I feel less ill so I know it's ending.

I feel so emotionally attached to this pregnancy I feel that I want to m/c naturally but also have the option of the tablets which I have too. I am worrying about flushing my little bean down the toilet and that feels awful. I know it probably sounds stupid but I want right now to bury her/him. I am having intense feelings of grief and loss right now.

I also want to work out at the gym and do lots of weight training for some reason. Although the EPU has advised not too just incase it causes me to bleed lots.

I Know the hormones are not helping , I keep thinking about the future , I am supposed to be moving away from London in to a bigger home with DH , going self employed, but I can't bare to think of that as it was all baby related.

For people who work full time - how much time did you take off. How easy is it to go through this when working? Am I better off taking the pessaries?

Megan good luck, and let us know how it goes, ull be fine soon I promise.... Wifey sorry for your loss, its not easy, the road can be long and painful, but grief is good as it helps you heal and accept. If you want to mc naturally then you wouldn't need time off work until the cramping started (that's when it starts to happen) if you want medical management then I would take leave from work immediately as it accelerates the mc process and can be very painful for some ladies. I wanted to mc naturally, but after 4 days of severe cramping I went to hospital to get medical management to do at home, it gradually progressed after taking the tables and I passed the pregnancy before the time came to insert the pessaries (36-48 hours after oral tablet). Later found out at the follow up scan that I still had retained products and had to have another round of medical management which failed to move the remaining tissue....ended up with an ERPC Monday morning, and am now feeling better. All women are different and have varied experiences when mc'ing, do what you think is best for you.... I don't want to scare you but do be prepared that you may pass a fair amount of blood and clots, I was quite shocked. For me personally, I'm glad I tried the natural option first, and hated that it was drawn out over the space of a month to completely mc. Just do some research (but don't scare yourself with other peoples stories as yours will be individual to you) the miscarriage association is a good website for information on mc, and posting on here has definitely given me and many ladies outside support. Hope all goes well for you. Take care and stay strong xxx

Well didnt happen yesterday, they have phoned me still waiting on a bed ?? to go nil by mouth again until i hear from them.

To top it off my dd has a sickness bug

Aww, Meg that's awful, how can they keep you waiting so long....they should have just given you a definite appointment date rather than just keep you hanging all the time...hopefully it's soon, let us know how it goes. Hope everyone is doing ok. X x x

Wifey & Adventure ....... How are you? I'm still getting sharp twinges 3 days after my ERPC, getting better day-by-day though I spose

Ginger hows the new pg going? X

Thanks for the advice Allmychildrenhavepaws . After reading about the pessaries Me and DH have decided to m/c naturally. We had a little ceremony last night and I bought an all season indoor plant and placed it by the window and played the special song for Ava Rose ( I feel she was a girl) 'Flowers in the window' by Travis - which has been playing over and over in my head since Tuesday eve ( along with 'ByeBye baby' by Bay city rollers).

I spent yesterday grieving and crying yesterday, and as soon as we decided to have a natural m/c I feel so much happier in myself. I feel that I need to do this out of respect and to process my loss ( although I understand that everyone and every pregnancy is different) . I feel my body understands what to do so I am going to listen to my body and let nature take it's course. ( I have the urge to do some weight lifting and squat thrusts. I assume this would be a good way to induce labour/ miscarriage.) Weirdly, I also feel psychologically lighter and less ill than I have felt since I became pregnant. I don't know if this is the hormones or the shock. Or that there was always something wrong with the pregnancy and my body knew it. It's weird.

I have no bleeding yet so maybe my baby ( I am calling her that) needs to shrink ( which I have read about sorry if this is TMI) and become smaller first to make the passage easier? I actually don't feel sad that my baby is dead inside me, and I am ok waiting now that I have my plant which is always going to be growing. I am planning to bury my baby in the plant so she becomes a part of it forever. Yesterday I felt awful about the possibility of flushing her down the toilet.

I wish I could write a blog about the experience I am about to have, just so others know how it feels. Emotionally I feel this is going to be the right way for me. Physically I am expecting it will be like labour.

Do you happen to know How soon after the cramping starts will I need to get home from work? Will I be able to travel on the tube or will I need to get a cab? Will the contractions will be intense at the beginning? How long will I need off of work?

Hi Wifey sorry you're feeling so low, its such a horrible time. I'm afraid that I (nor any other women on here) could tell you exactly what is going to happen....everyone's body goes through the process in it's own way and pace. Some women may (even when mc'ing naturally) have the cramps and bleeding start very suddenly, whereas others may gradually increase over a period of days. I personally can't compare the pain to labor as the baby we just lost was our first, but the pain was intense for me (even before I resorted to medical management). My body tried to do it naturally which started as light bleeding and cramps/contractions, that got worse over a period of 5 days, then went to hospital as the pain got intense and I wanted to speed things up as I had been in so much prolonged pain both physically and emotionally (mmc took 2 months to confirm and happen) They packed me off home with medical management and pain killers and it all happened at home the next night, the blood loss wasn't too heavy for me other than the night/few hours I actually miscarried. ......some ladies don't have much pain or bleeding at all, while others do.... So I'm afraid other than sharing my experience, I can't assure you or guarantee what will happen, I think you will know though when the time comes, I would personally get a cab home if it starts while you're at work, as you don't know how quickly the process may happen for you. Hopefully you will get your natural mc, I had no choice and worked my way up from natural, to medical management twice, and ended with an ERPC. Some women do not fully miscarry and may need either medical management, and/or ERPC. just stay calm, you sound that you are coming to terms with it, and you will go through many stages of grief, denial (what it's), anger, sorrow, acceptance etc etc....just as I thought I was coming to terms with it all, it would just all of a sudden hit me in the stomach like a tonn of bricks! I wish you well. Big hugs, keep posting if it helps, I may not always be on here to reply many ladies will, you will never be alone on here. Xxx

Hi .. I'm all new to this , I had a ivf attempt 2 weeks ago . I had 3 positive pregnancy results , tested a few days later & they all came back negative .. The clinic said I've had a pregnancy and will result in misscarry.. It's been 3 days and had no pains , cramps or bleeding .. Please can somebody tell me when I will start to bleed ... The more days that pass the harder it is to accept and I'm stupidly still thinking I'm pregnant ..

Hi .. I'm all new to this , I had a ivf attempt 2 weeks ago . I had 3 positive pregnancy results , tested a few days later & they all came back negative .. The clinic said I've had a pregnancy and will result in misscarry.. It's been 3 days and had no pains , cramps or bleeding .. Please can somebody tell me when I will start to bleed ... The more days that pass the harder it is to accept and I'm stupidly still thinking I'm pregnant ..

Thankyou paws for sharing, and advice -I am very sorry for your loss.
It's comforting knowing that I am not alone and people understand.

I feel I will be using this thread quite a bit in the next few weeks.

Hi shaz sorry to hear your news. I couldn't believe it at first that my baby was not alive, so I asked for a second opinion on a scan and still thought they made a mistake, but unfortunately they hadn't it was all very hard to accept. It's particularly hard when you still have symptoms.

Apparently , it can take a while to pass, anything from a day up to a few weeks naturally . I have heard everyone's journey is different. I am waiting to miscarry too. I have found solace posting here though.

Happy wifey .. Thank you for your kind words .. I'm sorry for your loss too .. This is the most unimaginable pain I think I've ever been through .. It's like somebody has played a cruel joke on me ..
I can't conceive naturally so ivf is our only option but I don't qualify for NHS so we have to pay private .. If I had the money then we would try again but it's too expensive... My heart was filled with so much happiness a week ago and no it's filled with so much pain and sadness ... Thank you again for your kind comment x

Happy wifey .. Thank you for your kind words .. I'm sorry for your loss too .. This is the most unimaginable pain I think I've ever been through .. It's like somebody has played a cruel joke on me ..
I can't conceive naturally so ivf is our only option but I don't qualify for NHS so we have to pay private .. If I had the money then we would try again but it's too expensive... My heart was filled with so much happiness a week ago and no it's filled with so much pain and sadness ... Thank you again for your kind comment x