Headwreck & Hope. Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

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Original threadtotal headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today

Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

bronze

I've just had a pregnant lady basically following me round a toddler party telling me about how pregnant she is. Was hoping one of the kids might up chuck cake down her.

I think it's probably ok to let ourselves feel mad/sad/bad in these situations!

So sad for your booking in today, no wonder you feel down. I hope tomorrow is better for you.

Thanks for sharing work...

Anyone else finding the New royal baby news difficult? Urgh! Hate myself for allowing it to get to me. I find big birth announcements difficult in general because we never got to do that because my child was born in very traumatic early circumstances and it wasn't a case of mother and baby both doing well. They ate very lucky but I am afraid the green eyed monster has got me tonight.

Bronze-- just noticed you've posted something similar. Xxx

Hello, can I join, I've posted a few messages on this board already to help me deal with a MMC. Ive become a bit addicted to this board and have just read this rather long thread! Sorry everyone for your losses.

I also feel a bit all over the place, I was feeling jealous of Kate last night! Heading back to the GEU this morning for my fifth visit in the last few weeks. I'm getting a scan to check for "retained products".

Seal pup, this website is useful.... www.pregnancyloss.info/waiting foray.htm

Bronze and Autumn I felt a bit funny about yesterday too. My original EDD for my first MC was 5th May. I've been trying to ignore the Kate pregnancy news following as it was just too constant a reminder. I'm feeling so much better about it all but my stomach flipped over yesterday when I heard that she'd gone in to labour and I got goosebumps when I heard that she'd had her baby girl.
Our time will come, we'll look back and say to ourselves 'If we hadn't been through such tough times, we wouldn't have had this beautiful baby now'. Time heals and good things are waiting.
I wouldn't ever want to swap my life for one in a constant media spot light, especially being hospitalised with HG twice. I wish the new royals all the very best.

Seal mine came a week later (had convinced myself I was ov a few days before ) but I had failed medical management two weeks before my ERPC so it was a little while all together. It's such a frustrating time. Make sure you too up in iron and enjoy a few glasses of wine whilst you can. X

Having a crap day. Was doing well but worried about DH as he is falling apart a bit. Been trying to be supportive and doing ok but had an argument today and I've gone downhill. Lacking energy for everything and feeling so down. Poor DD has been lovely but I feel so bad she is in the middle of this. She keeps asking Mummy why you sad? Where daddy? Why daddy sad? I don't know what to do.

Sorry to hear that you're having such a rubbish day Lilliana. How about all snuggling up under blankets to watch a Disney film?
My DH seemed to get more grumpy than sad. Men can be difficult creatures and he's probably feeling quite protective over you too. Take care x

May I join? We lost our baby on Saturday morning at 11+3.we're devestated and trying to process what has happened. Am letting nature take its course but am struggling with pain and can't get decent pain relief on a bank holiday So back to the hospital for an emergency appointment. So sorry that there are so many of us going through this. It should have been our 12 week scan on Wednesday. I just feel so numb.

So sorry ninja. What a tough time for it to happen - hope you aren't waiting long at hospital.

It's normal to feel numb I think - I struggled to believe it for days (had no bleeding).

Be kind to yourself x

So sorry that you are going through this Ninja. It's rediculous that everywhere shuts down on bank holidays so you can't get any decent pain relief. I really hope that you can get some help. Take care xx

Thanks ladies. Just back from the hospital and dosed up on codeine and antibiotics. Can't wait for them to kick in. Just going to take everything very gently today. Head is spinning with what to do about work tomorrow but I'm just going to try and put it out of my head. sending healing vibes to everyone.

Sorry you're here ninja

Are you any better today Lilli?

Still waiting for things to get going after trip to a&e on Sat night. Feel like such a wuss but have never known pain like it! Even the morphine barely took the edge off. Had considered myself quite tough with this sort of thing but clearly not The resulting bleeding was only a little heavier than before though....then the pain went away. Feel like my body was trying to pass something and then gave up. So now sitting here terrified of it starting up again. This whole process is relentless. Just want it over.

Thought I was mentally coping better today. Then dh gets a phone call from his business partner his wife is pregnant! Their 6 child...

Megan it's so tough but your time will be here very soon.
megaro you most certainly are not a wuss. It will be over soon, then you will have time to heal. Curl up with a hot water bottle and a crappy film, your body is so clever and will work it out. Take care, sending lots of love xx

how are you today mega? Hope you're not in too much pain.

Hi ninja sorry you're joining us. Just take each day as it comes as you'll feel different each day. Did you go to work today? It might help if you have someone at work you can tell so you have some support.

Im doing ok. Last time I posted I was sitting on the floor crying while my DD emptied my purse under the table and refused to come out and DH was in bed not talking to me - things are better now but Ive realised it's going to take me longer to get over this than I first thought and the impact on DH has been huge too. We will get there.

Hope everyone is having as good as day as you can!

I went to work today first day since it's happened, left at lunchtime. Still getting pains and feeling completely wiped ??
Just want to wake up and feel normal soon!
I think when I physically start feeling better I will get there emotionally. X

What are you up to now megan? Hope it includes a duvet, good film and lots of cups of tea. Take care

Have been thankfully pain-free bar standard aches and niggles since Saturday night, thanks Lilli and Fifi. Went to docs and got tramadol today - feeling a bit less anxious about it starting back up now I've got more opiates in my arsenal! Was getting so stressed out about the physical side I'd completely blocked out anything emotional. Hoping that will start to come now so I can begin to deal with it. Signed off work for the rest of the week, which I thought would feel crap but actually feels like a relief.

Megan I hope you're feeling ok about your first day in spite of leaving early - small steps but it must feel like everything is really dragging on now. Each day is a step closer to normality, even if it feels like you're nowhere near! Hope you managed to get some good rest in this afternoon.

Lilli have you spoken much more to your DH? Does he have anyone else he can or would speak to?

Ninja I'm so sorry. How has today been? I hope you didn't have to go in to work.

megan take it easy - glad you feel better about being signed off. It shows its the right thing for you. You will get there both physically and mentally.

Lilli sending much love - it takes a while doesn't it. Are you able to talk to DH?

I'm having a little down hump. After 2 weeks I'm still bleeding slightly and haven't registered a BFN so I have to go back to EPU for another scan. I just want this to be over now so we can start again.

bronze as a first timer I'm amazed how long this process takes. Sorry it's continuing for you and still no magic BFN. When will you get your scan? Fx you don't have to wait too long.

I was told once the heavy bleeding is done, I have to wait two weeks then poas to check it's negative. I don't want to sound crazy, but the idea of using a pee test without hoping for a positive is just something I can't make myself do.

Well pains got worse yesterday so I phoned epu who sent me down to a&e! Finally got seen by an amazing doctor who did a full examination and he told me the miscarriage is over physically. The pain is my body going back to normal and me over doing it. I need to rest so that I shall do!

Now just to deal with it emotionally. Any tips?!

Megan I'm so glad you've had a medical professional tell you to rest! You sound so relieved! I'm glad it's all clear for you too...now just time for the heart to heal. I have no tips as still waiting for the emotions to hit. I'm at home having a quiet day today...might go to the garden centre to buy a nice winter flowering plant to remember baby by.

I had my mva yesterday for my mmc. I'll post again with details about it went maybe in the practical tips thread as that seems the most suitable place. Glad there is no more waiting now