Week 8 - Summer Low Carb Bootcamp - two months almost done ...

[BIWI]

Morning all



Here's the Spreadsheet of Fabulousness once more

So the finish line is almost in sight. I see from the last thread that some of you have been struggling to stay on track - just three more weeks to go, so stay focused.

That 'it's only one piece of bread/one glass of beer' moment really isn't worth it. Been there, got the t-shirt.

If you're bored with the food - there are two things that could help you. Firstly, think back to the last time you were doing a low calorie/low fat diet - how awful was it to have to scavenge the shelves looking for something low calorie enough, and how often were you eating food that didn't actually taste that nice, but delivered only on the basis of being low calorie? Rice cakes that might as well be polystyrene ceiling tiles, for example!

And then go and read the recipe thread for some inspiration, and find something new to cook. There's nothing on there that's difficult to do.

I'd also say that I see a lot of you are trying to recreate things that are high carb - pizza or bread, for example. These things are very unlikely to be the same, or as nice, as the high carb versions. And all the time you're trying to recreate something you're missing, you're just reminding yourself that you're missing something!

So try not to do this, but focus on things that are beautifully low carb and that you can enjoy for their own taste and benefits.

Here's to a successful week for us all.

[Kleptronic]

5lb style bloody hell! Hope the big scales tally.

[ClearEyesFullHearts]

userwithoutaname, it was in the leftovers at Sainsbury's, of all things!

I didn't want to spend much and it's a temporary fix as I don't plan to be on this size much longer. It feels nice, though obviously not "forever" quality. Summer clothes rarely are.

Most of the clothes at Sainsbury's were autumn/winter, by the way, so nonidea what's left in your superstore, if you're near one.

[C4pinkwheels]

Ragz great about the shorts, maybe there should be a giant BC clothes swap at the end of this.

Ilovecherries you're losing, are you measuring as well, if it's not pounds it could be inches you're losing

Craftypuss down is down hit the water bitch

Waawaa I have an image in my head that is so so wrong because you said lying on the bed waiting for the builders to come.

Ada be strong bitch

Kleptronic so happy for you

Asd KOKO but so happy for your DS may his little wings be dusted down by lovely helpers so that he can start to flutter and eventually fly.

Giraffeski wow go girl go girl

I'm going to carton reading and answering you all if I can but the thread moves so fast and I'm still fighting fucking pneumonia as well as fat. Just know that I appreciate you all.

I'm exhausted now need to sleep and stay calm before DH comes home, PA is going to speak to him tonight and try and explain what it's like for me everyday when faced with being blanked by skids.

I'm also going to post yesterday's message.

[styledilemma]

Time They're so cute!

How is your cat with them?

[Duckiesprettycrazy]

I have had a total fuck it day foodwise, cakes and all, but back on the straight and narrow from now on, I promise.

Thanks for the reply C4, we are all here supporting you

[AdalindSchade]

Made egg pancakes with ricotta and spinach instead of cream cheese. Yummy. And also green!

[ClearEyesFullHearts]

Excellent with the green, Adalind.

[AdalindSchade]

I had them with fried mushroom and asparagus and grated cheese. Enough mix left for tomorrow too, may have them for breakfast by themselves

[TimeIhadaNameChange]

Style Thanks! The cat's fine with the rabbits - when she arrived I already had a house rabbit who was bigger than her, so she soon learned that rabbits were not for hunting. And I've had free-ranging ones in the garden since then and she's never tried to go for them (well, not since the time she leaped over the fence to pounce on one of the boys, who didn't stir. She then tried pouncing at him from behind a barrier, so he wouldn't know she was there, but still no reaction. She finally walked off trying to keep her dignaty intact, to realise the rabbit was bouncing after her!!!! Since then she's kept well alone!)

It's taken me a few years to trust her with the Guineas as they're more rat-like but I will now leave them shut in the house with her. Then again, the two I have now are not the most exciting of creatures in her opinion as they barely move!

[ClearEyesFullHearts]

C4 and everyone else who makes it a point to respond to as many posts as possible--I knownthise efforts are appreciated.

As many of us are "fatties" we can become accustomed to being unheard, ignored, inconsequential.

We are not any of those things and the little acknowledgements along the way are meaningful (especially for those who don't post often and don't post attention-seeking photos like I did, ).

[SashaSashays]

Bit of a shock this morning finding I'd put on 5lbs in 2 days! All the weight I'd lost nearly shitting myself has apparently come back with some friends.

I'm hoping as I didn't drink that much yesterday and its that time of the month that its partly water retention. I wasn't carby as such but I ate a bit too much dark chocolate, dairy, nuts and berries at the weekend and I'm out of ketosis so that must be it.

I'm back on it today, including some intermittent fasting and no upping the green tea. So:

B: Fasting
L: Turkey and Leek Salad
S: Protein Shake (made with unsweetened almond milk)
D: Scrambled Eggs with cheese, spinach, spring onion and chilli

I'm thinking about doing the egg fast. Its my birthday 1st week of August and I really want to make as much difference between now and then.

[Veryflummoxed]

Cleareyes both dresses looked lovely. You didn't need the linen shirt to cover up" the trousers top and shirt looked good too if it's a bit cooler.

[Oliversmumsarmy]

As I have tried to post this umpteen times and my phone keeps freezing I am going to post in sections

BIWI you asked to see what I eat

B. Water only 0carbs
L. Blackberries raspberries soya yogurt 14 carbs
D. Quorn peppered steaks, spinach, lidl do these jars of courgettes or peppers in a jar of oil. 5.5carbs for the whole jar. I have a tblespn of each and some mayo 11 carbs

[NamelessEnsign]

Namaste, bitches! Some sadness and difficult times here but you are all KOKO so you are troopers in my view.

I am not sure if it's fair to share here with everything that is going on. I am struggling with stress and anxiety that has left me hysterically sobbing my heart out in the middle of the night. We are 4 months into a horrendous run of bad sleep with DC2 (almost two) and it is causing some serious marital discord; neither of us is coping and we are both exhausted. I have a couple of times ended up in panic induced asthma attacks which are terrifying. I'm having insomnia because I am so stressed about the sleep I'm not getting, which is nuts, I'm having intrusive thoughts, I'm half-absent as a parent, distracted at work, and all around on the edge of hysteria.

All of this is bringing back some ED behaviour from my teen years; I keep thinking that maybe it would be easier if I just didn't eat. I'm having dizziness when I stand up, getting my eating all wrong, and generally being shit to be around.

I know I haven't earned any comments here - I am in a selfish place and am not doing well with having time or headspace with others. But it feels good to let it out. There is literally no one I can talk to about this in my daily life.

[Oliversmumsarmy]

Or I have

B.coffee, soya milk, 2 tspns xyletol 9carbs
L as above 14 carb
D. Instead of the Quorn I have boiled eggs so 2eggs

I am starving. I was ok when I had the cream and cheese but my ezema was awful and my skin was red and sore and dry and stiff.all over my face neck ears and back. It is just starting to clear up

[Oliversmumsarmy]

Oh and I have a glass of diet lemonade at night.
if that effects anything

[DudeHatesHisCarryOut]

Oliver I'm no expert but I'd say you need to eat more. I'd be starving having as little as you are eating.

[Veryflummoxed]

nameless I don't think you have to earn comments. The thread is about support. Lack of sleep is bloody awful. I hope things improve soon.

[ClearEyesFullHearts]

Nameless I don't think we have to "earn" comments. I think it's simply a matter of various posts being done at different times or maybe not so frequent. You deserve as much attention as we all do.

Your situation sounds incredibly difficult, and I'm reminded of the "terrible twos". They were ridiculously hard. You're juggling so many things. Be kind to yourself and respect yourself, remember your goals, make time for yourself (I know it seems impossible).

ASK FOR HELP!

Ask. For. Help.

Be kind to yourself.

Be kind to yourself.

[C4pinkwheels]

Here is the deleted post from yesterday with the rule breaking bit removed.

Thanks everyone, warning this is very long,

skids are all in their 20's it's a long complicated story but here goes.
They have a mum but she is bizarre, got disabled just after I did with a mysterious illness, scans, X-rays, tests, cameras up and down every orifice and no diagnosis. Had to stop work due to illness and skids had to take it in turns to stay overnight in case she died. This has been going on for seven years, I was suicidally depressed following my second spinal cord injury, couldn't work anymore and felt utterly destroyed by what happened to me. I made no demands of any of the kids, mine or his I just didn't want to live I needed care and suffered ongoing respiratory problems, often ending with ICU. Numerous suicide attempts.
Skids decided that DH should divorce me because I'd ruined his life, we had no social life, I barely left the bedroom and slept for 18 out of 24 hours.
It is the only time he has ever not done what the skids wanted or demanded but neither did he tell them their behaviour was unacceptable. I said I would rather divorce than see DH torn between me and skids but he was adamant that things would improve.
Skids started to give me the silent treatment, would move things out of my reach - like the kettle or the aids I needed to get into the kitchen as there are two steps. I didn't complain because I didn't care. Four years ago I was diagnosed with extensive muscle weakness in my chest and began to have Volume Recruitment to support my lungs, I woke up, no longer slept all the time because my body was no longer overwhelmed with carbon dioxide. I started having therapy and gradually started to live again - that's when what the skids were doing started to really hurt me deeply. They ramped up a gear and basically treated me with no respect at all. I had therapy to deal with everything, neglected childhood, sexual abuse, violent first DH, psychological abuse from second DH, becoming disabled, relationship and skids.
I got well enough to take a really difficult step and joined a new social group that was starting in the village, six weeks later the skids BM joined the same group despite the fact that she doesn't live in the village. I left went somewhere else and guess what, she takes up same hobby again. Very difficult for me as I had no self esteem, I hadn't left the house for years.
Two years ago things got so bad that I decided to end the misery and took steps to do just that.
My youngest daughter tried to phone me, my five DC took it in turns throughout the day to check on me, despite living 300 miles away she somehow persuaded the emergency services to send an ambulance to my home. I was desperately ill, on life support but survived. I left DH when I was discharged from hospital and went to daughters apartment. What I was unaware of was that eldest DD had got on a plane from NZ with husband and 2 DGD. DH wanted me home, I went back to sort out medication, referral to different consultant etc.
Car pulls up on the drive and my DGD's got out of the car and ran into my arms. That evening I sat on the decking with my five DC and they sobbed, begging me not to kill myself. They didn't care how broken I was, they needed me.
Eldest DD is a force to be reckoned with, she read the riot act to DH and skids, told DH to arrange couples counselling that week or leave. She tackled skids in front of DH. She also started to tell people in the village what they had done to me and told DH it wasn't a secret anymore and she would make sure everyone knew.
DH took his DC away for a week and they told him that I had been abusing them, psychologically for 15 years but the examples they gave were things like nagging them to put PE kit in the wash, cleaning their rooms etc etc. All discussed with counsellor and DH began to see things with fresh eyes but still didn't demand that the behaviour stop.
There was an incident when DSD^^ a month later she attacked me verbally, whilst in my wheelchair and holding it to stop me getting away, her face inches from mine for about 10 minutes, telling me they would get me out whatever it took. All in front of a neighbour, watching through the fence. I had the locks changed when she left the house because I was genuinely terrified for my mental health. It brought things to a head and some skids left, said they would never speak to me again, I would never see kids if they ever had any etc etc. Some stayed and things did improve a bit with them.
I then needed spinal surgery and counselling stopped and has never restarted so lots of unresolved issues.
In March this year when I had this massive surgery the ex wife had a relapse of mystery illness and is once again dying despite the fact that she has never spent a night in hospital and has no diagnosis. She has needed 24 hr care ever since. Not from social services but skids, friends, neighbours etc, demands that her DC take time off work to care for her etc. They believe it's physiological but won't / can't confront her because she is so manipulative and controlling,
After my surgery I once again had major respiratory problems which is when paralysed diaphragm was diagnosed, nine years after my neck was broken. It's been paralysed since it happened. Skids BM has recently developed breathing difficulties but when skids take her to A&E there is never anything wrong. Emergency services will only attend her address if a GP calls them for reasons I can't go into but I'm sure you can draw your own conclusions.
The worst part is that I love my skids, I've been their SM for 18 years, they always lived with us and I did all the hard stuff, BM was all fun fun fun.

That's it - I always say to DH that if he wants a divorce I will agree, can't imagine how hard this is for him but skids have made it clear that divorce means not just me but my DC and DGC as well, no contract ever again.

I can't stop crying and haven't eaten a thing today.

[Veryflummoxed]

Right I've just caught up again. So much going on. Ilove so brilliant you kept it up on holiday and your DH is right about the Six pounds. You must feel really pleased with yourself. I've just booked into Legoland for my summer treat (??). I somehow don't think the holiday fare will be as delicious and LC as yours. However I am determined to follow your example.

Sadly today I caved for the first time. The combination of huge lovely birthday cakes hanging around for days and the upheaval of the last couple of weeks saw me cave and eat a large slice of cake. I am of course sorry now.

C4 if you decide to repost I will certainly read it. I am so sorry for all you've been through and are going through. Stay strong

[ClearEyesFullHearts]

I avoid non-mumsnet emojis like the plague, but... 💜

[AdalindSchade]

You love your step kids? That's a feat in itself, they sound putrid (sorry)
I guess their mother is so poisonous that they couldn't escape unscathed really.
Would you really miss them if you never saw them again?

[TimeIhadaNameChange]

C4

Love, thats utterly, utterly awful, all round. I feel desperately sorry for you. I also feel sorry for your DC, your DH, your skids and even, to some extent, your skids' BM. There is so much going on there. I honestly believe that, at some level, she is jealous of you which is why she competes so much with you. The skids are torn between real worry for you (I strongly suspect, though it may not appear to be the case) and manipulated worry for her. Your DH is torn between them and you. And you bear the brunt of it all. You poor, poor thing.

Are you having any counselling yourself? I honestly don't think that divorce would make things easier for any of you, especially not for your DH. He loves you.

Sorry if I'm speaking out of turn. It truly is a fucked up situation.

[ilovecherries]

nameless, that sounds very stressful. I do identify with the getting so stressed about the sleep you aren't getting that you don't sleep even when you could. It's a horrible cycle. At one point many years ago my mum gave me £80, told me to book two nights in the local travel lodge, and for us each to have a 24 hour break. 20 years later, I still remember it as a sanity saver.