weather is en extra shit for lps

[Unlikelyamazonian]

Snow and ice makes lone parents feel crap about themselves. We have no one to enjoy blitz spirit with, the house is fucking freezing as can't afford to put heating on, no time to build a family fucking snowman. Eevryone else is off being a family with their bloody tin tray sledges and hot muffins.

We lps should get extra tax credits in weather like this just for existing.

There isn't that much support on MN for lone parents eally is there

the R just fell off my laptop keyboad

DH left the house at 6am to get to work. He will not be back til 10pm.

With my two boys I have built a snowman, made hot choc, made chocolate fairy cakes, watched a film, MNetted, cleaned the kitchen. Put the champagne on ice!

today I am an LP and have been all week,

Now, stop being self pitying and make a cake!

"DH left the house at 6am to get to work. He will not be back til 10pm."

FFS, that is not the same as being a lone parent

UA - whereabouts are you? You are welcome to come into my cosy flat - maybe we could make it out into the snow between us!
(Fellow LP btw!)

I'm in noth devon just outside barnstaple.

As I said before, the LP theads are a bit shivey and sparse.

fk shiveRy

I have't got an R let alone a clean kitchen, snowman, champagne on ice and a dh on his way home later

and I am not bloody self-pitying you fecking idiot.

Get out there and make a snowman????

I have been out there -- getting sticks for our fire you twit, and I say again I am not self-pitying.

It is quite scary in this weathe being lp and no family. Nothing. Not even a propely functioning R

Get off the lp thead if all you are going to do is talk about DHs and champagne.

I reiteate my oginial thought: not much [useful] suppot foR pRopely lone parents on this LP topic.

Thank god the wod fucking hasnt got an R in it

btw madameO, my ds also had clicky hips and was in the haRness for 4 months.

He is two now and doing just fine and runs/walks like a leopad on acid. He was diagnosed at 5 days and I only held him without the velcro strappy harness thing foR a total of fouR times in the fouR months.

Gossipmonger

not the same at all.

I too feel the weight of it all at times like this so I feel your pain. In fact feel the extra burden all the time.

The difference is gossipmonger that you have someone supporting your twee fairy cake lifestyle (well that's how it sounds anyway).

FWIW I used to think I was like a lone parent when I was married to exh but it's nothing like it!

Ah, I'm in Edinburgh.
Yes. DD is 2 in April and runs about happily too. Its hard when they're in the harness isnt it? The only good thing was that because DD was so young it didnt stress her, in fact she got upset when it was finally taken off, but thankfully that passed.

Ignore GM btw, she has not a clue.

I don't have family either but I do have a good health visitor who got me some support, recognising how isolated I was. Its been a huge help. Do you have any support at all?

yes, it is extra shit i think. Office has been closed for two days and ive been stuck in with DD for two days. I am honestly going to strangle her.
I BEGGED my mum to take her for me tonight, but she said no beacuse of the weather i might not be able to go and get her tomorrow ( HAHAHAHAHAHA i thought, that sounds good!)

House is more of a mess as we have both been here the whole time. Cant go play in the garden as i had been lazy and i know there will be a few frozen dog poos covered in snow... Cant be bothered to go to the park.

Gossipmonger - not the same AT ALL. I used to be married to someone in the forces, he was away for months at a time. Even that is Better/different that being a lp ALL THE TIME.

hey - i think some people are being a little bit unfair here.

OP is probably having a bad day and just needs a bit of sympathy, arent we all allowed a little moan now and again.

Other LPs MUST know how she feels. Sometimes the smallest thing ( snow or whatever) can make you just feel so very lonely.

its driven me insane. I think this weather is a real test for LP's.
I have been stuck in for days with only the kids for company.... the worry of the huge heating bills which are going to hit me and just the bordom of it all.

I think tomorrow we are just going to have to get out otherwise im going to go mad.

GM dont want to sound liek im having a go but your life is nothing like being a single mum. Your dh will be home later on tonight. You will have someone to talk to and share todays events with. If your worried about your heaating bill you will have someone to share the burdon with and he will be contributing financially. Its not as easy as you assume.

i can kind of understand. had a pretty shite day here, but Dh home at the end of it, i would feel the weight of it all a lot more keenly if i were tegh only responsible adult in the cold and horrible weather. if you are alone and your power goes, your pipes freeze, you can['t get out , it must be absolutely awful

sorry you are feeling shite

no blitz spirit here, everyone working !

I can totally understand the heating comment - I can't afford to put mine on either. I am using plug in heaters which have taken nearly £5 since yesterday but less than the storage heaters. The key meter means finding the money up front which I don't always have. Never used a key meter before and this one was here when I came in so I am using it and shrieking at how expensive the heating is .

However, I went out for a walk with DS today and we had a snowball fight - it was fab. Forget the snowman as the snow is just too powdery and crap to make one. We had a great day, the living room and my bedroom are warm - DS will curl up with me tonight (and every night that it's below freezing) so there will be a nice cuddle.

Everyone has crap days - I miss the adult conversation but make the best of the situation - most of the time.

I think some lone parents want/need extra support on MN and in RL and it is not one size fits all

how about we stop married couples from complaining and asking for extra support re their horrible spouses? , yeah, that's gonna fly...

everyone is entiteld to rant and rave and let off steam

and I thikn the extra tax credits thing was tongue in cheek

i bet all those wonderful 'DH'S' can pick up some milk on the way home though......a lp with a baby is pretty much stuck!! i know if it wasn't for my teenage dd i wouldn't have got supplies in. no way can i drive,or push a pushchair through the snow we had!!

I think it's possibly grimmest for people who have toddlers that they are snowbound with. I am a lone parent but my DS is big enough to a) amuse himself at home (he's 5) and b) to have fun in the snow for an hour or two ie hurtling down the hill on a cardboard box. So while I am fretting a little bit about how much pay I will lose if the weather gets worse and the schools close again,it's bearable, whereas anyone (single or coupled) who is literally shut up in the house with toddlers, no playgroup for them, can't go to the park because it's too cold for really little ones to be out for any length of time... that must be pretty fecking hard.

Try an autistic child who is out of routine and can't watch TV or occupy themselves, bar throwing electrical appliances out of the window to see what noise they make when they smash, SGB...

Top Trumps

Oh come on, UA, get thee on i-sketch or start an outrageous AIBU or something. We've all got broadband at least, and our little imaginary friends in the computer- keep your chin up!

Hey I'm not even competing... I'm quite aware that we're doing OK. Sympathies to those who are stuck, though.

Oh don't let the side down SGB- we love a bit of Competitive Desperation round these parts