weather is en extra shit for lps

[Unlikelyamazonian]

Snow and ice makes lone parents feel crap about themselves. We have no one to enjoy blitz spirit with, the house is fucking freezing as can't afford to put heating on, no time to build a family fucking snowman. Eevryone else is off being a family with their bloody tin tray sledges and hot muffins.

We lps should get extra tax credits in weather like this just for existing.

UA......I sort of agree with you about it being hard as LP in this weather, but TBH it doesn't get me down IYSWIM.

I mostly try to rise to the challenge, although on bad days might not be quite so upbeat about it.

It is so much easier for me on my own emotionally that the difficulties of everyday living don't seem quite so insurmountable and I would rather be working hard physically than struggling to cope emotionally.

I sort of lost the will to live when H and I were together because it could be so crap and even boiling the kettle was too much at times. I get more done now because I am not so depressed.

Having been both a married parent and an LP, it is undeniably tougher, to a certain extent, how can it not be? You are doing the jobs that normally 2 people share one way or another. It is a tad naive to imagine otherwise.

But I thrilled at sledging on my own with DC's and coming home for Hot Chocolate. Have had snowball fights, dried endless wet clothes, warmed frozen fingers.

Because it wasn't punctuated with shouting and vile mood swings.

UA, if you are down, I think the weather will indeed make it harder for you, because it will feel like just another thing that you are battling. I hope through 2010 you can start to make a plan that makes you feel better about yourself, less overwhelmed by it all and get the chance to 'punch the air'

Oh and we don't choose to have several children with 'fuckwits'. What a bloody stupid thing to say RR.

RebbecaRabbit said "I think some posters on this board romantisise the two parent family but it takes a lot of work and compromise to make a relationship work and children can often cause conflict within the marriage."

No shit Sherlock!?!?!? Wow, that's news to me. Apparently I have to work at it and compromise. Well colour me stupid, that's where I've been going wrong!

With that one sentence you patronise us and destroy your own credibility in one fell swoop. Do you honestly think we gave up at the first obstacle? Do you think we had an argument over who's turn it was to wash up and dumped them when they wouldn't do it? No. We worked hard, damn hard at our relationships and i suspect some worked way harder than you ever will at your relationship.

So please get off your high horse and if that's what you honestly think, keep quiet. Sometimes it's better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt.

UA, have you looked at the Devon meet-up threads? I remember some other single mums posting on those. I live near Barnstaple too and have been stuck in the house for a week. Frankly it's enough to drive anyone completely loony!

Oh my Good Lord.

Rebecca, I hate to say it but you do sound really ignorant.

This kind of stuff might be what you have read in the Daily Mail for generations, but that doesn't make it gospel.

Have you ever thought beyond the facile points you raise?

It sounds to me a bit like someone saying 'well, if black people know they will be discriminated against, they really ought to stay in Africa and not come here'.

Seriously, and without meaning to be horrible to you, you really really could do with some social education.

O123 asked a question, I gave my answer and some of you typically responded with aggression and bitterness.

UA - for the sake of your son you should get some help with your anger issues.

Seriously, if you can't think of anything nice to say - don't say anything at all, you fucking bitches.

IF YOU DON'T LIKE LONE PARENTS, DON'T READ THE BOARD. IT'S YOUR LEISURE TIME YOU ARE WASTING YOU IDIOTS.

RR yet again I fear your lack of understanding for lone parents is letting you down.

UA is on this part of the site to find like minded people so she can vent to people who understand how hard it is. To find support.

She is not here because she is bitter, twisted and needs professional counselling.

For the sake of your family you should get some help with your view of the world.

My suggestion is to stop reading the Daily Mail for starters.

'typically'?

So single parents are now typically aggressive and bitter?

Rebecca are you real?

Actually lindsaygii has got me thinking....why are non-LP's reading this section?

It's not like I am reading their bits on tips for backing fairy cakes whilst putting their champagne on ice for their hubby's.

Perhaps they are secretly unhappy and here to see what the life of an LP is about.

RR, us single parents are not bitter & aggressive. Only to idiots trying to comment on something they have no knowledge about.

I am not a car mechanic so you won't find me posting advice to people about how to fix their car. Ditto here. You have never been an LP. Until you are, you are not qualified to dole out advice.

Absolutely.

I have no interest whatsoever in anyone's marriage, and tend to think married women make so many compromises they lose themselves, and frankly, I have very little respect for the ones that do. So, instead of going over to Relationships and telling them what a lot of useless, whining, put-upon sadsters I think they are - I don't read the board.

It's not rocket science. It is, however, good manners.

Why these stupid, rude, nasty bitches on this thread think they are contributing anything to the sum total of human decency is beyond me.

Yo, Rebecca.

Door. Arse. Hit. Way out.

Yes?

LOL - no wonder you lot are single!

"LOL - no wonder you lot are single!"

Oh, that old line.

It's only an insult if you consider being married or partnered up to be the most important thing in your life. Sure it's nice but it's not the be all and end all.

In fact, it may come as shock, but some of us have chosen to be single and rather enjoy it.

Actually some of those comments to UA are really out of order.

Ever heard of the phrase kicking someone when they're down? Unbelievably spiteful attitude.

Shiney I agree with you

Some of the single parents here are sounding extremely aggressive, I don't condone that at all (and why would I - we're not all clones)

However Rebecca is only engaging with the ruder ones, not you or Janos or even Niceguy who hasn't been that rude

I don't think I can fairly take either side in this argument. It's just really ugly.

poor woman (original poster) was just having a bad week i know we all have and maybe most still are but the abuse she got was not very nice abit of sympathy from her fellow women would have been nice. there was no need to be personal about it we dont know why she`s single could be partner died or some horrible act no body chooses to be single

Actually I really feel for UA here (sorry if that sounds patronising UA not meant to).

She was maybe fed up and looking for a bit of support, nowt wrong with that - we all need it sometimes. And someone has, for no reason other than apparent spite, seen fit to have a go and turn it nasty.

janos I was going to say the same thing.

Heaven knows why it all got silly .

UA, hope today has been ok for you. I am dreaming of the day I can see green grass again so we can get out of the house without any hassle

Me too Meglet....roll on the thaw! Am fed up of slipping, sliding and squelching everywhere.

don't rise to rebecca's bait. not worth it.

And the snow is annoying too (ba-doom tish!)

You're right posh.