weather is en extra shit for lps

[Unlikelyamazonian]

Snow and ice makes lone parents feel crap about themselves. We have no one to enjoy blitz spirit with, the house is fucking freezing as can't afford to put heating on, no time to build a family fucking snowman. Eevryone else is off being a family with their bloody tin tray sledges and hot muffins.

We lps should get extra tax credits in weather like this just for existing.

jesus it's not a fucking competition. This is what I mean about how shit by and large the 'Lone Parent' topic is.

As an aside, I see that HQ finally gave it its own individual topic in the main 'being a parent' menu rather than putting it under 'more' for us to find...like scrambling under dead leaves for a leftover sandwich

I had better go and find myself a partner and ruddy fast. You lot make me feel even moe of a fucking half wit for having the nerve to just be here.

And if you have a DH coming home at 10pm to drink champagne with, please have the decency to fuck off

you are not a lone parent

not that it makes much difference where you post, as 'Lone Parents' has the whiff of unmentionable failure about it as a title anyway.

Put your champagne-swilling, snowman-creating, started-a-conservatoire-after- lunch-for-budding-chopins stuff in the "AIBU To Be Puffing About My Busy Day Waiting for Hubby to Come Home in the LP topic???"

You sound terribly depressed if you can't see that we are fooling around about the competition stuff to try and make you laugh, UA. Is there anything anyone can do?

UA: several of the people discussing this issue with you are single parents. Not everyone finds being a single parent hellish, just as not everyone finds being a partnered parent wonderful. Being completely snowbound ie stuck in the house and running out of supplies with small DC is no fun whether you've got a partner or not - but the trapped-due-to-weather is more to do with where you live than who lives with you - some parts of the country and some roads/towns/villages are more snowed up than others.

I went to my parent's. I'm not sure which is worse tbh-me and dd cooped up or me and dd cooped up with elderly parents.

DD and I ended up in A and E today as mum accidentally let her eat on of her anti-depressants. She's fine.

We hav emade a snow man etc but if it wasn't for mum and dad we would have run out of gas, electric and food.

Mabe you could buy a sledge on ebay for a tenner and put littly on that and pull into town? Not sure how harnass would work?

I am now drunk as only way to cope! hic.

UA- please don't be mad. I often wonder why
smug marrieds partnered up ladies post on here.

Only joking peeps.

Also- you should try to be proud that you are doing so well as a lone parent as many couldn't cope. My best mate has a dh and he's at work today. Her parents are snowed in so I have been out more than she has as I have mum and dad to look after dd. But it is damn tough.

I blame the lack of grit.

Ah yes, grit. Back to the ol' Blitz Spirit

I'm sure OP has had a bad day but her tone comes across as extremely aggressive to non lone parents and lone parents

i'm a single parent (sorry watching Land before Time and do not like associations with Lone Dinosaur)

I don't see why anyone should be sympathetic to a tone like that. I certainly feel offended by it.

UA you're not doing yourself any favours here. Nobody can get you out of your hole if you don't want to come out. Sorry but you do have to make the first step. That's how it works.

You could start a thread about anything at all being 'extra sh*t' for us, but it would just be the same. I know it's horrible being a single parent at times, but I don't blame it on the weather...that would be way too easy.

I feel sorry that your R is broken. It sounds like a bad end to a bad day.

This topic is just impossible. As it always has been. You are defensive and see being a Lone Parent as something to fight and be proud of all the time. I shouldn't need to be nice or 'non-angry' on this thead/topic surely?

I am not feeling angry or aggressive ironically. I am pissed off. Rightly. Is that against the LP laws? There is a herd mentality on here and its depressing.

What, all of us are defensive and proud etc etc? Really?

I've never, ever been accused as being part of the herd

UA you are seeing exactly what your mind wants to see here, and I'm sorry but it's horseshit.

i'm actually defensive on this thread as I feel under attack by your posts.

I don't see any reason to fight for being a lone parent, it isn't something I am either proud of or aspire to.
I am just getting on with it because I have little choice atm.

You telling me I feel like shit because of the weather is patronising, disingenuous and plain wrong. It makes no sense. You seem to be demanding a herd mentality if anything with that statement.

What do you WANT, UA? I don't get it.

It's threads like this that make me take all my depressed posts off to other forums where people keep their bitchy shit to themselves, or do the decent thing and fuck off.

If someone is feeling so desperate as to post like that can't you either (a) make a nice answers, or (b) move on?

UA hasn't gone to the general boards to moan about being a lone parent - she is doing it on the lone parent board, ffs. If you don't want to engage with lone parent issues in a sympathetic way, don't read them.

Why shoot her down? Just to make yourselves feel better? Nice one. Really, really nice.

UA - I actively dislike the L word in this topic too, seems far more negative than single IMO, thought it was just me!

The snow can be a pain in the bum yes. Can you get out or are you snowed in? Do you have a friend nearby you could go to in the morning for a cuppa? Anywhere you can just go to het out of the house for an hour or two?

In xmas hols me and DS walked to the shop down the road in the snow and I bought him a 15p choc bar. I got rid of some of my cabin fever and he got chocolate, win win.

GossipMonger - I have never seen such a smug, pat myself on the back for my suerior parenting, patronising post on MN before in all my life, and that includes bonsoir!

Shiney makes a good point about not all single parents struggling, we are all in different financial situations, but I am sure most of us on this topic have struggled before at som point or another, be it emotionally or financially, and I know for me being able to vent on here and have a little virtual support is a lifeline.

I hope you have a better day tomorrow UA

Lindsay- I don't see unkindness here, just attempts to try and get UA to see that life doesn't have to be unrelenting misery, and that your attitude is where you start. If there is a reason this isn't possible (and depression has been asked about), then people want to know what it is and how to help. It is not easy when you keep getting the cyber finger though.

Whatever else she has done, this is the lone parent board. So either show some common decency, or post elsewhere. That's what I'm saying.

If UA is depressed then wanking on about cake and champagne if fucking nasty, actually.

As for the snow, frankly, I've been oppressed by it too, for the simple reason that all the children's groups I usually go to are closed (term time only) and now the park is so bloody icy that's out. So DS and I are stuck in the house looking at each other for days, and days, and days. And at the end of it no-one comes home from work to distract me. So yeah, I think it's harder.

But like I say, why would I admit to any sadness in this place? MN is good for a laugh, but if you want any kindness or support, it's pretty poor, frankly.