Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part TWELVE

[lou33]

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why would you bin off gymboy before asking about it?

he may well just have been checking mail or hiding a profile or something, talk to him before you dump him

juicy - that sounds sooo attractive no really!!

scl - wow you are chilled. is he out of the country? possibly time delays etc?

think i'd be the same as juicy thou if I had no contact (unless it was abroad) and walking away. as it is we're day 1 of him being away and had about 10 texts and 3 calls - happy days!

oh have u girls read the shit men list in relationships - it's soo true all of the red flags, XP has so many of them.

i know it doesnt sound much to weigh, but when you consider that i am 5ft 7 and was about a stone lighter at one point (not by choice), you can see why i am so pleased

i looked ill, i have no idea why anyone would want to be so thin if not thinner (i was fitting a size 6 at that time)

and for some reason i havent heard from lb at all today either

last nite - he's in uk.

Maybe will ring him later. We often go a few days without communicating. He's also quite laid back.

Is with elderly mother, sis and her bf. Is that weird? Couldn't imagine going with my family but I think it's actually quite nice he/they have taken her away.

And he's def single as have been to his house and he has always been free to stay over.

south - even abroad i'd be pissed at no contact. beachbum is abroad. hence he has a PAYG sim. today's first day haven't heard from him(yet), but doesn't bother me as i know if i were to text he would reply. but it will cost him money for me to text. hence i will wait on him sending me something iykwim.

lou - jeezo a size 6... my bones could never be a size 6 even if no skin or muscle.... my dd has same build as me too .

ex grown ds was round seeing ex when i collected dd from him today... saying "oooh she sure is a xxxxx(ex family name"..... had to bite my tongue from being cheeky.... she is my exact double, and incredibly tall(ex family are tiny... really tiny some of them... think 4ft odd some of them.)

then he says.... "why doesn't she know me"...... em..." because you have only bothered visit her once in her 2 yr of life.. and never even invited her to your wedding last month you knob"

scl - why do you say he is deffo single? have you been questioning it? or have i missed someone on thread questionning it?

i think its sweet he's taking his mum off.

if you only text last night i wouldn't be bothered. i thought he was away before beachbum was why i thought it odd you haven't heard. but if he'd only away a day then no biggy

juciy - ah ex's dunch just love em!

yeah I think it's nice as well he's gone away with his mum scl.

It wouldn't worry me if he was abroad honestly - but it's prob as i'm used to it with XH when he went away abroad we would have 2 calls a week, for about 20 mins each if lucky so not that fussed on that front tbh.

shouldn't worry lou, i'm sure there's a simple reason. also understand about the weight thing, size 6 is a bit on the small side - is that an american size 0?

Oh I'm just naturally quite suspicious and like to check things out. From past experience with exh. Tended to be secretive (though didn't lie about his status though but kept many areas of his life and background secretive even when we were married).

I was only thinking today that his behaviour has had a lasting effect on me. I try not to let it but it has.

Plus after all the angst with exbf can'tbe doing with it anymore

a 6 is an american size 2

i am back to an 8 now which is much better, i cant see bones jutting out

i wasnt worried, but funnily enough as i posted that he logged onto msn

i knew he was out of the office all day, he told me he hasnt had a signal

we are both back to discussing when we next meet and flirting mercilessly

lou - for skinny jeans check out the gap sale. If you hold your nerve you can get really nice stuff for around a tenner.

I love my gap jeans and really need a new pair but can't afford 'em atm. Will have to keeo my sale goggles on.

Strangely enough I am feeling very laid back abou contact from men right now but then that I feel is a good thing.

Bloke I was seeing did not work out, but hey ho, these things happen.

I am also on a diet for the nth time. I really need to shift a few lbs as I'm beginning to look distinctly appley, IYKWIM. Not good when you're just about pushing 5ft 2

i want ripped ones janos

pfft janos, i would date you

Pffft that's what scissors are for!

Right back atcha lou.

maybe we should all date each other instead

Phoned him - he's fine.

maybe we should scl.

agree lou - ripped jeans - get the scissors out!

janos - sorry to hear that had you been seeing/dating long? oh and nicely apply is a nice shape as well!

well gymboy rang last night at 11.45 - not impressed, mostly as I'd gone to bed at 9 with a migraine so ignored him. teeth are still killing, day 3 of them moving about and i'm about ready to rip em out!

early indications would suggest i've lost a couple of lb this week, so will see when I get back to fat club tonight, 1.5 is all I need to hit the 1 stone mark.

another vote for scissors.

belle - what did you get done to your teeth?

i went to bed last night.. text goodnight to beachbum. forgot he was away and would cost him. dear me my memory gets worse everyday. he replied.

think i have an ear infection . has been getting worse for couple of days. have to give in and go to docs as cant eat or swallow today

yes i could do that but i dont want to do that to my jeans i already have, which means i would have to search for jeans anyway

i may consider hacking at my d&g ones though

i had a v enjoyable conversation with lb last night, but i flaked out to bed at 11

i am off to see a netter today whom i havent met for a few years, as she lived in phuket, so i only ever saw her when i was there

she is living back her now, and i am excited to see her

was in a hurry last night and didn't mention that although he's fine he said something I didn't like quite trivial but still!!

When I rang he was eating a curry and I said did you cook it and he said'get a life!!'(he doesn't do much cooking) I checked him on it there and then (he said he's been drinking)

Still am not used to being talked to like t hat (maybe by my teen son!) and it's most unlike him. This morning I hav text him to say that he was out of order. Surely he would want to know. So wonder what his response to that will be!!

That's a side to him I have not seen.

scl - wow.... is he 15?... did he laugh when he said it..... still.....you told him off... did he apologise or shrug it off?

I agree I expect to hear that sort of thing from dcs not a forty something year old man. Yes he apologised there and then and said he'd been drinking.

I had to text him to emphasise how out of order I thought it was though because I had visions of his family hearing him say that (surely they can't think that's normal). Perhaps he had reverted to a teen as he's with his mum

I mean WTF. I was only making conversation.

Perhaps that's why he's still single!!

he's just phoned me and we've sorted it out but I am glad I told him. it was the drink talking.

I am going to severely punish him when he gets back

SCL good for you, if any man had spoken to me like that I would have flipped too. It was like to was trying to put you down for being a good mum who cooks etc.

Oh hadn't even thought of that angle. Just thought he was being a prat.

scl - same here, it was prob an insensitive off the cuff comment. glad you sorted it thou.

juicy - it's my side wisdom teeth coming thru my god they're sore, gymboy was rubbing it in monday which was nice, glad you heard from beachbum. ear infections - rather u than me!!!

only good thing about the tooth pain is my lack of wanting to talk to others & eat so hopefully should have done well in the fat club!!

anyhow how is everyone doing today??