Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part TWELVE

[lou33]

starts here

why would you bin off gymboy before asking about it?

he may well just have been checking mail or hiding a profile or something, talk to him before you dump him

[sincitylover]

he was pissed!

[Remotew]

Sorry, I just thought that someone saying get a life sounded more sinister than it is.

[thesouthsbelle]

see i've never been a fan of that reason per se (but only as XPIL & XH use it as a reason to be abusive - and it was oh I didn't mean to do XYZ it's cos I was drunk ) as I say thou that reason never washed with me - not to say I haven't gone out & got drunk, it's just haven't gone out got drunk and come home pinned my kids against a wall & threatened everyone in the house hold & then the next day said 'oh i'm sorry it's cos I was drunk' . or MIL would ring up me when XH was in iraq drunk & say well if he can't be arsed to ring me then I hope he doesn't come home . still least not everyone's like that - just alkis lol.

[lou33]

went to meet mmy friend fro lunch, now home, kids home, lb is home on msn, i wont speak to him til late monday after today , as he is away again, having fun

[ninah]

scl didn't he just mean life's too short to grind his own spices? that's how I took it
I like that he took his mum away
lol at all the fellow george shoppers! I've been wearing long T shirts for work £1.75 each obv they won't last, but at that price is cheaper than oxfam
see what you have unleashed eve, and now you have a blind date also lol
Must admit the idea of a school reunion woudl freak me out, was invited to one by phone a few years ago, chatting to Charlotte the School Rebel sharing dc stories and she had turned all 'what does your husband do' rofl and 'our new Aga'
lou 7.7 sounds v thin glad you have put some on I'd like to be about 9 but suspect nearer 10 (that's stones not size)

[thesouthsbelle]

eve unleashing george shopping.

Just been talking to gymboy, who's picked up I was upset with him on monday, (finally) but it's all sorted out, & smoothed over, so all's good there.

[lou33]

lb has gone to see his dc before he goes away tomorrow, i fell asleep for 45 mins just now

[winnie09]

mousie, I am sorry to hear about your Mum. And xh - what an arse! You should not have to do what you are doing.

Everyone sounds relatively chilled about where they are at on here

My date went well. Had a really nice time. Thetrekker is a gentleman. We are meeting for dinner next. Didn't feel a 'spark' but had an enjoyable time so will see how it goes

[thesouthsbelle]

jolly good winnie.

do we all rate the spark then, or is it nice to have someone grow on you as well?? hmm..

[lou33]

growers have never worked out for me, but that doesnt mean they cant of course

it was mahoosive sparks for me and lb (and he puts a naughty smile on my face)

[winnie09]

I think a naughty smile would be nice Thepianist did that (online) for me but he has got quite ar*ey with me and I am glad I didn't meet him His loss

[thesouthsbelle]

well said winnie.

naughty smiles are good - it's teh wicked ones you need to watch!

[winnie09]

lol @ belle

[lou33]

i struggle to hide them sometimes with some of his messages that come in

[winnie09]

Can you please all give me tips on writing a 'perfect' profile? I need to update mine I think.

[lou33]

i am hidden on pof but mine always says what i dont want rather than selling myself

[notevenamousie]

Hi everyone,

Well, I plan to meet musicman on Friday evening - the one I have spoken to on the phone, who has a 17yo tho he is only 35, and has been on holiday for a couple of weeks. And then the trekker on Sat, who has a 6yo son, works hard, is out of the country a bit, and very involved with his family the rest of the time, and looks and sounds totally like a really lovely bloke.

But my ex, no, Janos, it's not something that I could present to the police. But do I cash in my very last ISA for a solicitor? Maybe.

(This could be long, feel free to ignore.) He said first I can't have her back on Sunday, it is too disruptive to his new life. I can have her back on Monday, if his GF who works for OFSTED conducts an independent and unjustified review of dd's nursery, because I need advice about where to put her whilst I pursue my career. And dd is not clean enough. I am deliberately damaging her. Limiting his contact. Making things hard for him. Damaging his career and earning potential. I ask what he means by each. He reiterates that whatever his official political title and seat may say, he does no longer have a home in his political constituency, which is near me and I could take her to and collect her from. His only home is with his GF, 4+ hours away, dd's only happiness and family are to be found there. Even if I collect her from his GF, which I have agreed to, I can only have her back from 5pm on a Sunday. So we get home after 9 (she is 2.9) and need to be up at 6 am the next day.

I don't think so. But I am so tired of arguing. I will go to his GF and get her. But only if we are back at a reasonable time.
I don't know what to do. I gave in, then it got worse again. My mum is my main support usually, but she had 4 litres malignant ascites taken off yesterday and an urgent CT tomorrow.

Someone nice, be interested in me? Hardly.

[winnie09]

oh mousie {{{{}}}}, my instinct is to say fck him!!! You have enough on your plate. Dd is 2.9 and will not remember this. Go to a solicitor and get this sorted. He is full of shte and threats... the OFSTED thing is unf*ckingbelievable (sorry, I am so for you). You do not have to do this round trip it is up to him. Don't let him bully you. Please get advice... you don't need to be putting up with this

[thesouthsbelle]

mousie - honestly he's a shit, he's manipulative and he's full of shit as well. sorry but he is - i'm not normally one to say stop contact btu I honestly don't think your LO will have an unbias happy time there. he is doing everything he can to control you and keep your self esteem at a low.

I'd stop contact call his bluff and say ok you sort it out, it is not in DD's best interests for that much travel at that time of night.

Sorry to sound harsh but he certainly sounds like a man who is more bothered about putting one over on u and making your life hard than he is with what is best for your DD. Are you able to get legal aid? if not then i'd seriously seriously think about cashing in that isa.

[winnie09]

Meant to say - most importantly - I am so sorry about your Mum. Your dd, your Mum and yourself are your priorities ... look after yourself xxx

[thesouthsbelle]

and and fwiw I would tell the nursery about the 'ofstead thing' and if it transpires she does try to gain entry into the nursery under that umbrella i'd make damn sure I reported it to every superior she has.

[thesouthsbelle]

will also keep my fingers crossed for your mum. xx

[sincitylover]

mousie is your ex an MP?

[lou33]

i'm pretty sure if she did that it would be illegal or a breach of trust or something, and it wouldnt look good for an mp to be seen to condone it for his personal gain, especially in this current climate after the expenses scandal etc

he sounds like a hideous bully

and i am sorry to hear about your mum

[DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE]

mousie - sorry about your mum and your ex is a twunt. def speak to your nursery and inform them incase he calls looking for details.

i'm another who jumps through hoops to continue access with dc and their father. and wouldn't cut contact easily.... but your ex really is a piece of work. and the things he wants you to do is appalling.

its worth considering cutting his contact for a couple of weeks till he gets it into his head you are not a doormat.

it is HIS responsibility to travel... he CHOOSE to move even further away than you already were.

good luck with the dates everyone.

i went to travel agent to see about booking a "learn to snowboard" holiday.

was gonna go on my own. but seen a real bargain.

got a few friends wanting to go now and trying to get days off work booked for jan. i will be seriously pissed off if i lose the bargain price waiting on them ... and they are doing my head in wanting to change dates/airports/hotels.

i was more than happy to go on my own as i always end up organising everyone and i just couldn't be arsed with dealing with sorting them all out and deposits and payment with xmas coming up i'll be doing that and chasing them.....

tempted to just go and book mine as a single and tell anyone who wants to go just to get their own booking... but then there will be a fall out.