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Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part TWELVE

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lou33 · 07/09/2009 17:38

starts here

why would you bin off gymboy before asking about it?

he may well just have been checking mail or hiding a profile or something, talk to him before you dump him

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Remotew · 29/09/2009 22:10

Hi Waiting, if he said he was going to call but didn't I would have left it. If you are just looking for casual and you really fancy him then you could send a text.

See what the others say.

Belle normally after 3 dates.

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 29/09/2009 22:12

eve - 3 proper dates??

i have been known to say "well... its after midnight... technically its another date"... do you do that.. ?? or just me

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thesouthsbelle · 29/09/2009 22:14

hi waiting, agree with the other girls. they're wise.

phone is on silent. I now have a head ache so on that note am going to fall into bed with tom cruise!

juicy - you should know my typing is always bad!

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thesouthsbelle · 29/09/2009 22:16

god I must be really bad, XH was about 5 months XP was erm 3 4 dates possibly and was a disaster.

gymboy erm yeah lol. seems to prefer playing that doing iycwim. (tmi)

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waitingforbetterdays · 29/09/2009 22:19

donttouch - maybe you are right maybe I just want to take things very very slowly. I just dont really like the idea of meeting up JUST for sex. It doesn't feel right to me.

abouteve - With the guy I met I didn't want a relationship but abit of fun. It was a couple of weeks ago so its too late to contact him now.

But wanted to see what others do when they meet someone they are kind of interested in do they contact the guy? Or wait for him to contact them? As I have always been the type to wait untill they contact me. But then I have always been in a relationship really and never had anything casual for too long. But when I was with someone casually, they would have been the one trying to contact me...

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 29/09/2009 22:21

sb - nowt wrong with playing ... i keep tabs along the lines you

if i make dinner you owe me

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thesouthsbelle · 29/09/2009 22:22

ooh well he already owes me a massage. and without going into too much detial a lot of other nice things. damn really off to bed now lol.

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 29/09/2009 22:24

waiting - some of girls on here wait for men to contact. and works great for them.

i have no patience. if i want to contact i do. even though its been a couple of weeks. there's no harm in sending a wee text something light hearted and humourous... see if you get any sort of response.. assuming it was him who called you that night after you met, and not you who contacted him??.

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 29/09/2009 22:26

me too. night belle. i'm owed rather alot tomorrow.

i'm loaning bf a case for his trip away this wkd... AND giving him an early morning lift to airport (where a stay over the night before will be required )

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Remotew · 29/09/2009 22:29

Night Belle.

Juicy technically chatting in the morning can count as another date. lol

Waiting, if you are looking for casual dating as opposed to casual sex then I think the old rules apply, let them do the running initially.

Would you consider internet dating. It hasn't been good for me but some of us have had successes. I prefer to meet someone on a night out.

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waitingforbetterdays · 29/09/2009 22:46

donttouch - yes it was him that called me, but he said he would call me the next day and didnt so i feel he cant be that interested. But saying that we didnt spend much time talking really, and his friend really liked me and was asking to take me out etc. I wasnt interested in him. But did kinda like the guy who I gave my number to. I just feel I have left it too long now.

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waitingforbetterdays · 29/09/2009 22:48

abouteve - I think casual dating sounds about right I dont think casual sex is really my thing...

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Remotew · 29/09/2009 22:50

Similar thing happened to me a couple of weeks ago met someone I really fancied but he had a gf. I sent a friends request on fb but he's ignorned it so far. I knew it was the wrong thing to do. Still at least I know where I stand.

I do think if you have to find out where you stand you probably know the answer .

You could try a text.

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waitingforbetterdays · 29/09/2009 22:51

Also not too sure about internet dating. I donthave a promlem meeting men when I'm out, men do approach me, but I dont really show much interest in them as I'm abit of a man hater because of exp being an arsehole.

So I know I'm not making it easy for myself...

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waitingforbetterdays · 29/09/2009 22:55

well done for trying, i just dont feel that brave. I usually just go for the guys that go for me... only the ones I like not just anyone... lol

so did u know he had a girlfriend when you met him at the party?

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Remotew · 29/09/2009 22:58

Not at first, a third party told me as he was showing an interest. He did bluff it a bit.

I don't meet many that I like either. Keep going out and enjoying yourself.

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waitingforbetterdays · 29/09/2009 23:01

I will defintly keep doing that, I am very picky though...

There really are not many nice guys out there all the good ones are taken I suppose...

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Remotew · 29/09/2009 23:09

That's what I find. Going to bed now, night.

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lou33 · 29/09/2009 23:12

i've had fwb in the past, i am still on good terms with most of them

as for when i have sex with them, it depends on how i feel

it may well the the same evening it may not be, but i dont believe there is a rule that means waiting for x amount of time means it will last any longer, relationship wise

i have had my evening talk with lb, caught up (tho we only spoke at lunchtime anyway lol), discussed more about friday

apparently i am getting a massage to help my back , and may be meeting a friend of his as well

and on that note the valium and painkillers are working nicely so i best float into bed

night

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waitingforbetterdays · 29/09/2009 23:15

Night...

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thesouthsbelle · 30/09/2009 07:47

wow you guys were busy last night.

He rang last night, phone flashing I was semi concious! lol.

apparently the thing tonight it's another bloke going, and they're not stopping over night. so all is ok there. Says doesn't want to talk about the issue every day - good cos I don't either, but he understood why I was giving him space to work it out & the I added that he didn't need pressure from me when he was putting enough on himself.

we're gonna be needing a new thread soon!

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 30/09/2009 07:48

agree with lou - holding out doesn't guarantee lengthy relationship.infact.. all my lengthy relationship i jumped in there in less than 1 week.

morning all though.

wondering about what you ladies say about the good ones being already taken.... can you remind me your ages?? are you stuck in that odd age bracket where the men are suffering mid life crisis and after women 20 yrs their junior?

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 30/09/2009 07:50

think its wise to call the new thread number 13?..... mind you.... number 13 is lucky for some

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thesouthsbelle · 30/09/2009 08:06

I vote 12a.

he's talking on fb chat.

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lou33 · 30/09/2009 08:35

yep a week or less for my long lasting ones too

my back still blardy hurts can you believe, it hasnt lasted this long usually

i'm still going on friday, i want my massage and dinner

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