September/October IVF

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Hey,

I've had my appointment through finally to start my first round of IVF. Our consultation is September and hoping if we start on CD21 (no idea if we will, just what I'm presuming from research) then we will be good to start just after the middle of the month. Anyone else the tentatively waiting for a September start?

Oh fuck @peanut - I’m sorry. That’s incredibly sad. Sending you love xx

I'm so sorry @LopeyLopez and I hope you get there one day in the not too distant future xx

I'm so sorry to hear this @Peanut1980 I can't imagine how cruel and painful it must be to have this and have it snatched away. Take good care of yourself x x x

Thanks ladies. I spoke to the clinic and they said it didn’t sound good at all. They’ve asked me to go in on Friday so they can confirm. I have to carry on taking the drugs until then. I just feel drained. We have one more cycle so we’ll have to wait for that and hope for the best.

Thank you to everyone for all your special support on this tough journey. I wish you all the very best for the future. Wishing those that are pregnant a very long and healthy pregnancy and wishing those that haven’t yet got their BFP a sticky one real soon. Take care all xxxx

Sending you good thoughts on the wind @Peanut1980. So so sorry this is happening. Take care XX

Peanut1980 and LopeyLopez my heart goes out to you both, take time and work through it however you need to

Sending you a hug and hand squeeze @Peanut1980 im really sorry you're going through this, and hope it's not long until you're expecting again for good xxx

Oh no @Peanut1980 . I'm so so sorry. Can't imagine how it must feel after going through all this first.... what a nightmare. Sending you hugs and with luck you will be pregnant again soon. Probably not what you want to hear at the moment, but at least you do have an embryo frozen that you can use.... not much consolation now I know but for the future. Take care my dear xxx

Thinking of you @Peanut1980 and hoping against hope that you get some better news on Friday xxx

Thank you ladies. I feel more accepting today. Just have to accept it and move on. I’m going to focus on getting through this and getting fit again. Think the gym will take a bit of a pounding from me when I can get back down there. Good way to release some frustration!! I’m 99% sure the story won’t change on Friday. I’m just hoping I can stop taking the progesterone and let this run it’s course. The worst part is the limboland.

I feel sad about leaving this group as even though I have no idea who everyone is we’ve been a support network for each other. From my heart I really do wish everyone the best xxx

Much love to you @Peanut1980 x x x

Hiya. Just got home. They’ve referred me to the hospital to manage the miscarriage. Think they want to see if it will pass naturally but if not they want to do surgery to remove it all. Just waiting a call back later on. I won’t keep on posting now as no need for updates on the next steps. We’ll be starting our next cycle in the new year. Possibly February but have just got to get through this part.

Good luck all 💋💋💋

@peanut1980 I’m really, really sorry. That’s so shit. Look after yourself x

Oh @Peanut1980 I’m so, so sorry. Wish there was something I could say that would help but I know there isn’t. Please look after yourself and I wish you all the luck in the world for your next attempt xxx

Sorry for this sad end to your cycle @peanut1980. That sounds very distressing. You are a very strong person.

I'll keep an eye out for future updates from you and will hope for better news come February.

I'm so sorry @Peanut1980 look after yourself and have Christmas 'off' TTC. Best of luck to you in the New Year xxx

So sorry to hear about your news @Peanut1980 unfortunately the same thing happened/is happening to me. Although I did get pregnant on my own just before ivf.
No heartbeat at 8 weeks and baby measuring 6 weeks. I choose medical management and just dealing with it now.

Hoping to do my first ivf cycle in January God willing.

Take care of yourself x

Oh I’m so sorry to hear that @kay2705. I had surgical management of the miscarriage yesterday. All feels so surreal. It actually went well and I’m bleeding a little but not massively. I don’t have any discomfort. I’m really hoping that this settles quickly as feel I’ve just been through so much. I’m sure you understand. Do you have a date for your medical management? I’m wishing you lots of love and strength to get through this part and the very very best of luck for the new year.

My husband said we needed some good news this side of Christmas and said we could buy a puppy! So I wasted no time in arranging viewings and am picking up our pup tomorrow. I already have a 5 year old son and the pup will be a surprise.

I’m going to do a FET in the new year and will hope for the best. Obviously I don’t feel confident about it all. It was a miracle to get pregnant on our first attempt of IVF and I can’t see it happening again on the 2nd attempt. We only paid for 2 cycles. Anyway, obviously not in the right frame of mind right now.

Hey all,

Updating because I had my scan today. It's currently a twin pregnancy. Which is quite frankly amazing when you think we only had two eggs collected and fertilised and neither were high quality blasts.

Both have good heartbeats and are measuring the right size (7+5). But one has a very small gestational sac comparatively and the nurse is worried about that one. Going back in two weeks for another scan to see how they're doing.

I feel a whole heap of mixed emotions - very excited of course and glad one of them is doing really well, shocked about the double pregnancy, and worried about the one with the small sac. Fingers crossed it's not a vanishing twin but this seems quite possible.

@pinkfootedgoose I’m so pleased the scan went well and there’s two in there. Hopefully the smaller one will catch up. I’ve heard of lots of twins having a smaller one but being fine so fingers crossed for you lovely. Keep us posted xxxxxxx

Wow great update @PinkFootedGoose . Sorry to hear your news @Kay2705 and @Peanut1980 but you seem to have everything under control, and be coping well under the circumstances.

I am not doing so well: a week after the negative and second failed cycle, I pretty much flipped and couldn't go into work. I actually missed no work at the time, and only the minimum during the actual IVF Cycle. Called in sick, booked a GP appointment with the intention of disclosing everything and seeing what they said. I actually wrote everything down on an A4 piece of paper (and it filled it!) so that I wouldn't forget to mention things....I've been having so many symptoms - both physical and mental - that I can't remember them all. Basically they are all as a result of stress.

Well at the GPs I ended up crying all the way through the app! And there I was worrying beforehand that I would not look "ill" enough or be taken seriously. The result was I was signed off sick for stress and anxiety for two weeks, and given a counselling app. But due to waiting lists it is not til late December!!

Currently wallowing a bit at home but slowly getting things done and getting back to normal. It is a relief to not be at work. As well as the infertility and IVF work is contributing to a huge amount of stress in my life atm. I am seriously considering changing jobs. One main reason for sticking with this one full time was for mat pay, but seen as it's looking like I won't ever be needing that anyway....I may as well leave and find something less stressful.

Has anyone ever been signed off work for stress, and if so what later implications did it have? I have no experience of this. I've never missed more than a couple of days in a row before. I've read it can be quite frowned upon (which it shouldn't be, but with it being mental health and not physical...there is still a lot of prejudice).

I still haven't had my follow up app about the IVF fail, where no doubt they will tell me not to bother with another round. That's partly why I'm dreading it and why I haven't booked a date yet. Feels like the end of the road for me, and I'm not yet ready to accept it.

Hang on in there everyone; let's hope 2019 brings more luck! X

@LopeyLopez you poor thing! IVF is extremely stressful, I don't think your body or mind knows whether it is coming or going.

Haven't been signed off with stress myself but I have managed someone who was - as a manager I can say I just wanted them to look after themselves. I could see the anxiety around how being off would affect them was contributing to the stress, it was a vicious cycle. Nobody other than me knew the reason for the sick leave so it did not affect relationships at work. A year on and they are thriving and on my list for a performance related pay increase. So please try not to worry about that on top of everyone else. Xx

Hi @LopeyLopez, I really sorry you feel that way but I recognize myself on what you say with the difference that I have just started my first IVF. I went to the GP as I had a lot of anxiety and when I said the symptoms she wanted to sign me off for 2 weeks but I thought that I was going to be worse at home...she told me to call her anytime so I will do if needed.i think self-care is very much important and what you have gone through is a lot so take your time.My job is horrible and for the same reason like you I want to stay because of the maternity leave but if it doesn't work I will move on.xxxx

Congratulations @PinkFootedGoose that's wonderful news. I can imagine your heart must be in your mouth a bit but I'm keeping everything crossed both babies thrive.

I'm so sorry you're feeling so low @LopeyLopez. My second IVF fail absolutely floored me. I couldn't believe I'd been through all that again and come out with nothing. Glad you've got this time off - take very good care of yourself

Today was my OTD and I got a BFP. My first ever in three years of TTC and my third fresh cycle of IVF. I'm in total disbelief and keep crying.

Our embryos weren't the best - we had a morula and a 2CC blast. So you just never know. I had written this cycle off from the moment of transfer, and was planning next steps.

It's very early days but for now I'm just grateful to get this far.

Much love to you all. Infertility and IVF are extremely tough

@Trying2bemum Congratulations, that's fantastic!

@LopeyLopez The failure this time hit me harder than ever before - I worked from home on the day I tested but got no work done, just in floods of tears. I have no idea where we're going next on our TTC path, but what I do know is that you've got to be kind to yourself.

@Peanut1980 - ive been thinking of you. Glad you are ok and looking towards your bpnext cycle. I think it’s really positive that you had a BFP on your first attempt - it shows you have no issue with implantation so its very possible you will get a BFP on your next try.
@Lopeylopez - glad you’ve gotten some time off work to get you head straight - i hope you manage to sort out your stress issues. I had massive work stress issues prior to my first unsuccessful IVF cycle, so i quit that job and went back to s9mething far less stressful and less hours and lo and behold next cycle was successful - i think stress has a massive impact on our fertility.
@pinkfootedgoose - amazing news - welcome to the twins club!
@trying2bemum - more amazing news - congrats!