The mind numbing boredom of infertility IV

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Yes it's the return of the thread where we're so fucking bored of being infertile and talking about infertility and thinking about infertility and worrying and infertility and learning about infertility treatment and explaining infertility to other people and making up lies to cover up for going for infertility tests and treatment that we can't even be bothered to think of a better name for the thread.

Join us if you are barren, bored and bitter, or any combination of the above. We'll listen to your tails of woe when everyone you've ever met upduffs in an instant, accompany you through the trials of tests and treatment and commiserate the inevitable setbacks and disappointments.

Welcome to the ghetto.

When I can work out links, I'll post linnks to threads 1, 2 and 3

Hugs to both PurpleDaisies and banana.

Jesus Christ I know IABU but I am actually ready to leave mumsnet at that post on aibu called aibu about my friends. Wtf is wrong with people. I actually give up.

I'm so angry I wish I could link. It's probably a troll because apart from us here and the baby bombs we have experienced, my SIL included, I can't actually believe people then post their fucking sumgness shit all over here.

I saw that too! Is anyone really that self-obsessed/unaware?? I thought maybe it was a reverse, otherwise I just couldn't understand the mindset of posting that looking for sympathy!

I couldn't find the aibu post, has it been taken down?

It's still there: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2907753-AIBU-with-my-friends

Thanks, I was almost certain it was fake, but then I have met a couple of mums who are that in self aware about how ridiculous their bragging is, so it is possibly real. If it is real I feel a bit sorry for her as she can't be that popular.

Ye, they took it down last night and put it up again this morning. Apparently this must be ok

At least the responses on the thread are all that she is totally unreasonable and clueless about people.

I know, and I know I m over sensitive but really. A site that has its own support network for infertility and idiots like that can be allowed to go on like that, and all the calls from people to put it in classics. I just feel so sad.

Hi fourpaws, how are things? I hope you're feeling less sad this week?

Today in 'AIBU threads that make you want to kill yourself': 'Has anyone struggled to bond with a baby that isn't cute?'. They win all the biscuits in the world. Trying to resist posting 'Maybe your ugly baby who you can't bond with because ugh! it's not cute enough is a manifestation of your ugly soul?'

Oh my God. Can somebody help me. One week late. Never had a strong line before. Do I call clinic. I down regarding this month. Do I stay quiet incase I mc again. Help.

Down regging, fuck sake. Can't even spell.

And I'm sorry, I don't know who else to ask, I'm scared to tell dh. I'm so scared.

Four - that's def a line. Are you on buserelin? You need to tell the clinic xx

No bean, thank you for responding. I mean I'm meant to call them when af arrives to start down reg. I don't know whether to wait a week and see what happens or to tell them now. I have had so many mc now I don't know anymore. Never had a line like that though.

I don't even know when af due. Had a bleed 26 March but that was two weeks after last period. Now should be due last weekend but everything is to pot.

I'd wait a week. You don't need to tell them anything yet. Cautious congratulations.

Fourpaws - definitely a line! I think I remember last time you didn't tell the clinic? If I was in your shoes I would definitely call them - they might be able to give you something to help make this one stick!

Thank you both.

I ended up telling them at point of mc as had to get scan.

My fear is that I had to fight to get this cycle as because of the changes in Scotland to IVF they are removing it for people who didn't get to egg collection (under the guise of three cycles for all) so I'm reluctant to lose cycle. I really don't know what to do for the best.

Can you call them and delay it a month under the guise of not being ready?

I have a gp appointment Next week anyway and was going to ask if he could help me try and do that as dh really not ready. He found it incredibly hard. Also because go has signed me off and I had been on medication I thought he might back me.

I stopped taking the medication myself after two weeks on it because it made me feel so incredibly hungover and I found I was feeling better having some time out of work.

I think I will see how this week goes as I tend to mc around six weeks. That will be a week away so things may be clearer then. What a head wreck.

Fourpaws is there a private clinic that could give you some advice? So rather than let on to the NHS but still get some help. Is your problem recurrent miscarriages rather than getting pregnant? If so, no guarnatees that ivf will actually get you any further...? Looking in on your situation, I think you should be trying to hold onto this pregnancy rather than thinking ahead to the hypothetical next one. There might be something happening during these first 6 weeks they could stop. But I get that it must be harder to see it like that when you're in it

That's good advice, thank you. I'm struggling to think straight.

Problem both. Mc then two years of nothing, then three mc, then failed IVF, then mc, then this.

IVF did not reach egg collection. Low amh.

Then did hair analysis which hospital don't support and have copper and lead poisoning which I'm taking a tonne of supplements for and is coming right down.

That test was via a private conception clinic.

Oh goodness fourpaws, can't imagine how you must be feeling at the moment. I know I don't know your situation as well as some of the other ladies but I'd second the recommendation to try and speak to a private clinician if you can? Will keep everything crossed for you.