The mind numbing boredom of infertility IV

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Yes it's the return of the thread where we're so fucking bored of being infertile and talking about infertility and thinking about infertility and worrying and infertility and learning about infertility treatment and explaining infertility to other people and making up lies to cover up for going for infertility tests and treatment that we can't even be bothered to think of a better name for the thread.

Join us if you are barren, bored and bitter, or any combination of the above. We'll listen to your tails of woe when everyone you've ever met upduffs in an instant, accompany you through the trials of tests and treatment and commiserate the inevitable setbacks and disappointments.

Welcome to the ghetto.

When I can work out links, I'll post linnks to threads 1, 2 and 3

Thanks all for your kind words. I was just so upset the other day I really needed to express my feelings, but i'm all good now.

Mira I know what you mean. My husband and I have been together for 14 years, so there was no reason to wait. Now we are at this stage with all these issues, I always look back and feel like a fool and how naive I was in regards to this. Now I chuckle when I hear people planning their lives and when they will be getting pregnant.

Fuzzy So sorry to hear about your story. I love your determination, and strength. Good luck on Athens.

Close Thanks for your support. Awww, is acne a side effect, or is that from the hormones? Any news on your ovulation? Did your doctor give you any shots to stim ovulation?

I've got rage after reading a post on a local Facebook page. A lady says she and her DH have been actively ttc for a year but that they haven't used protection for 4 years () and is looking for advice. Anyway there is a comment underneath from someone basically telling her she must relax and it will happen immediately and that she herself must be super fertile as fell pregnant straight away with both her children. Is that really the place for a boast about how fertile you are!!!??

I'm posting here because it's all I can do not to respond on fb but I don't want the world to know my business. Stupid woman.

Anyway... I finally ovulated on cycle day 19 which basically means we can't go for the FET in april as it would fall on dates we can't do for a number of reasons. So now looking at May. Annoying as if I'd ovulated as normal on day 14 we'd have been able to squeeze it in before Serum shut for a few days for Easter.

Hi Fuzzy How did it go in Athens?
I've been in touch with them as well and yesterday I Skyped with one of the consultants. I thought we'd be talking about using donor eggs but the majority of the conversation was about using my eggs again. It was nice to think that she's positive about my chances and wants to try again but I know that with donor eggs, my chances are so much higher and I don't know if I'm prepared to take the risk. Did you have to have a Gene Diagnosis Test and a Locus Medicus Test? If you did, was it easy to do?
I'm sorry Close that your ovulation was out.
I hope everyone is okay.

Hi Joey! I'll send you a PM with the full low-down! It was very positive though. We didn't have the tests you mentioned. We're all set to start a cycle with donor eggs in May. Feeling very positive!

Fuzzy I'd be interested too? Will be embarking on one more cycle with own eggs/sperm and then wondering about double donor....

No probs Bean - I'll copy the PM to you now. If you have any questions, ask away!

Glad to hear it went well in Athens Fuzzy. We are hoping for a may FET so who knows, could be out there at the same time!

flirtygertie how's the audiobook so far? Unfortunately for us, my body and mind are totally in sync, and I'm almost textbook with my cycles, but my husband has next to zero (and very lazy) sperm. So however much I could try to improve things, I can't do anything :(

Instead I sit here reading IVF stories and getting jealous of those of you doing or looking into IVF treatment - I'm sure not many people in the world are jealous of those going through IVF! I just need to figure out how I'm going to persuade my damn husband that it's a good thing to go for. He's so against it right now :( and reading some of the positive stories around this board makes me more sure we should pursue it now.

Maybe Close! Are you in the FB group for Serum?

Long, that must be very frustrating indeed. IVF isn't pleasant but I cope a lot better with life when I have a plan of action. It feels better to take some control, even if it doesn't always work out.

Fuzzy - I'm on the more general group (though never actually posted anything) but am I right in thinking there is a more secret group that you need to be invited to by email? Unfortunately my Facebook is linked to my old uni email I have no access to and can't currently change as can't remember my password to Facebook! (It's a predicament I'm choosing to ignore until I end up locked out of Facebook and have to deal with it!)

Oh I'm sorry about that Long. It seemed to take my husband longer than me to come to terms with our infertility problems too, but I don't have any good suggestions for how to help him come around I'm sorry. I think in the end it was just the sheer length of time it was taking that made him understand more how I felt! Why is your husband so against trying ICSI? Would he consider talking it through with someone else there (either a fertility doc or a couple's counsellor)?

The hypnotherapy audiobook is good, it sounds a bit woo but it's all about making your body welcoming to the baby and I quite like the idea of it! I bought another one which is all about egg health and how to improve it, which is interesting, but it's narrated by a lady with the strangest almost robotic voice. I find it very distracting!

Morning everyone, how are you all today?

Just thought I would say hi, and drop a positive and a negative....

Positive, I got another fur baby. First dog been so good for my mental state, decided to be reckless and take on another. Crazydoglady....

Negative. I nearly lost the plot yesterday. Had pre treatment appointment, blood pressure, weight etc etc. Nothing exciting. Do you know who was stood outside the doors of the fertility clinic. pro life people. With banners and pictures of aborted babies. I'm ashamed to say I saw red, dh had to march me away, and I called the police. I'm utterly disgusted that anyone in their right mind would think that was appropriate. They were not there when we arrived, only when we left. There is no reason for them to be there. The centre is fertility only. Nothing else. I called the clinic later as I was still raging and they said the police had removed them.

Anyway, Sun is shining here for once. I'm still not in a great place but possibly no worse so maybe in the mend. for all. Maybe nice cheery snowdrops and daffodils.

That's awful fourpaws! I don't blame you for being so cross! Ill informed idiots!

Anyway, congrats on the fur baby

Me and OH are unexplained so far at least...
A young mother at work whose son was an accident was saying how she wants another baby. I can't imagine how it must feel to be so confident you can just have a baby like that. Did make me feel a pang of pain
When will infertility stop hurting?!!

In other news we're going away for our anniversary this weekend-at least that's something to look forward to...

Fourpaws - what idiot thought a fertility clinic was a pro-life target????! The clue is kind of in the title.... I'm not surprised you got rage.

Close - yes, it's a closed group. I was invited in by a lady I got chatting to in the waiting room. They have a general one and then specific ones for once you're cycling. If you get your FB account sorted and you want an add, give me a shout. It's full of good info & everyone seems very willing to answer specific questions.

Fuzzy I've joined the Facebook Serum group but could I also have the email for the secret group Serum Ivf group as it might come in handy nearer the time.

I only have the name of one of the admins through FB messenger. I was added by another member of the group & then she PMd me to make sure I was legit. I'll try to find out if there's an email address & get back to you.

I will let you know when I get my account sorted Fuzzy (assuming you do need access to email to get into the group?).

Can I ask all the ladies who have had an FET - did you have it medicated or non medicated? Serum sent through quite a big protocol of drugs to take for when we decide to go for it. However, I'm still recovering from February's cycle. My skin is horrendous, I literally look like I have chicken pox. I have also started spotting today at just 7dpo and I'm just generally completely off whack for what is 'normal' for me. On this basis, I would quite like to go for the non medicated approach, once I've got my cycles back under control as I feel like the drugs have totally screwed with my body (we have male factor, no issues have been found with me). Does anyone know if there's an approach that is considered 'best' or whether it's just personal choice, or what really? Or any statistics showing which approach may be better?

Fourpaws - that's horrendous that you had to be confronted by that. Good for you for calling the police. Also very glad to hear you are hopefully on the mend.

I know, I know. Stupid people. That's why I was so fucking angry, dh was like omg calm down and I just lost it. It is a hospital so they must have got the wrong part but it's massive and every ward has a different car park etc so it's not difficult. I'm getting cross again just thinking about it. But actually the fact that I am cross is a good thing because I've been non feeling about anything. I am now furious. Let it go.

Close I don't know, but I'd be interested to find out. We came home with 2 carrier bags of drugs for a DE cycle. There was me thinking it would be less intrusive on my body! I've been pregnant before with NO messing with my body, so I'm feeling a little apprehensive about messing with it so much.

You just need a FB account to access the group. It's a closed FB group so someone just needs to friend you and request an add for you.

Thinking of all you wonderful ladies on this difficult day for us all. Sending positive thoughts, doggy cuddles, flowers and sunshine. Fourpawswhite, xx

Thank you Fourpaws. And the same to you. At least it's an hour shorter this year...

Hey guys, it's another big fat failure for us. Blood test tomorrow to confirm. Big decisions to be made about next steps which we will have to think over for a while. Hugs to the barren fiends army x

Can I join please?

I have been ttc for 4 years. Diagnosed with PCOS. Tried Clomid but no success. Have some more left but have stopped for now.
If this doesn't work, will move on to IVF, but need to lose lots of weight first.

I generally just plod along and try and deal with it, but I found out dsis is pregnant on Mother's Day (which I was already struggling with) and today I have my pregnant colleague telling me I'm lucky I've never been pregnant as it's so uncomfortable 😡 I tried gently pointing out that there are a lot of people who would love to be in her position. Her response? "Well maybe, but I don't care. Baby is an accident and I didn't realise how hard it was going to be."

I am finding this so hard just recently. My diet isn't going very well and we're getting nowhere. And now I'm going to watch dsis get everything I want (and I was baby bombed by a friend 2 days before Mother's Day - 3rd one in as many months).

How do you keep plodding on and staying focused / positive? I'm losing my way here I think.

(Sorry for the very negative first post)

PeoOp I'm so sorry that it didn't work out this time. We definitely deserve some good news on this post.
Welcome IsItIorAreTheOthersCrazy to our little group. I'm sorry you've found yourself here. It' doesn't matter how many times I've been baby bombed, it never gets easier.
At work, a colleague came back from maternity leave this week and I have put up with conversations everyday about her baby but the worst was today which included how she'll have to have another baby soon as at 34 she's getting a bit old and how she got pregnant without even trying. I left the room at this point because I think I would have killed if I haven't.