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FET Sept/Oct

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Lolly2803 · 02/09/2016 17:36

Hi ladies,
I am due to start an FET in Sept/Oct and wondered if anyone else was too?! Had my first cycle of IVF in August but due to fluid in my uterus and thin lining had to freeze everything. I seem to always have fluid mid cycle, including natural cycles. Very worried that it will always be a problem and will never get to use my embryos. Having a hysteroscopy the week after next to check incase anything in there but doc suspects not. Would be great to have a few buddies! xxx

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Lolly2803 · 05/10/2016 06:50

Bear it really could still be early. Don't give up just yet. If OTD isn't till Sunday you've still got a lot of time to go so hang in there!!

Hello that's great news I'm so so happy for you! How exciting! Hopefully the line keeps getting darker and you'll have a super clear one on OTD.

xxxxx

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Bear2014 · 05/10/2016 06:51

I've ordered another FRER so will test again on Fri and keep taking the drugs but not holding out much hope xx

bananafish81 · 05/10/2016 07:01

Wonderful news Hello, Bear I have everything crossable crossed it's too early 🙏

Embryo grading isn't a measure of embryo competency - all my abnormals were all top graded, and I know women who've had PGS where their BCs were genetically perfect and their supposedly top graded were abnormal. The embryologists told me that at my age (34) they'd expect about half my blasts to be normal - which turned out to be bang on, as of 14 blasts total, 7 were normal and 7 were abnormal. Of the abnormals, 4 were frosties from our previous round and all thawed perfectly.

Point being that IF it is BFN - and it may well be too early, esp if FET are late implanters - it doesn't mean there's any underlying problem where a AA blast didn't take. It's just really shit that we are so bloody inefficient as a species that it is completely normal for humans to make so many abnormal embryos, and it may be 'just' rotten luck, and 'just' a numbers game. Doesn't make it any less shit though, so big big hugs xx

Bear2014 · 05/10/2016 08:34

Thank you Banana. I'll stay on the evil drugs and keep testing til Sunday Grin

I always knew it would hit me hard if this cycle failed. This 'perfect' blast has always been our ultimate back up plan. I felt better about the MC knowing it was there. I felt better about the crappy fresh cycle knowing it was there. We'll give this mini blast a chance next month, then I'll go all in with an ICSI, then I know we'll have to stop. Onwards and upwards!

Really hope you make some progress today xx

Lolly2803 · 05/10/2016 08:45

Def stay in the drugs Bear. As banana says there is every chance it's too early! I've been readying about FET's implanting late as well so that could also add to it. Don't give up yet! xxx

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Bear2014 · 05/10/2016 09:12

Thanks Lolly. I won't completely give up. And I'm going to use a different brand of test tomorrow in case it's a dodgy batch of FRER. xx

bananafish81 · 05/10/2016 09:13

Remember my FRER experience - BFN on a FRER but BFP on a digi??!!!

Bear2014 · 05/10/2016 09:25

How many days past transfer was that Banana?

bananafish81 · 05/10/2016 09:42

9 or 10dp5dt

I realise I am not a very good example because my hCG levels were very low

But regardless of how low they were it was detectable on a digi and not on a FRER

Remember posting them here and us all being quite confused!!

Bear2014 · 05/10/2016 09:45

I've always had total faith in a FRER but I've got a one-step cheapie in the cupboard so will do that tomorrow.

Clutching at straws, long shot etc etc. Thanks xx

Lolly2803 · 05/10/2016 10:55

I remember you posting that Banana- so strange! Hold off till OTD bear if you can so its def more accurate result. Not too long to go now!
I hate FRER but only because it reminds me of the disappointment of testing every month when I was ttc naturally and seeing that stark white box. If I ever get to POAS again I don't think I can face using those!!

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AgainPlease · 05/10/2016 16:27

Bear! Noooo my heart is aching for you!! It's still way too early to test! Don't give up hope yet please. Test again tomorrow if it helps calm your nerves but test again on Saturday or Sunday for a more accurate result. At 8dpt your hcg levels will be very low. Please don't give up yet!

Mist congratulations!! A faint line is still a line! Let us know if you test again and the line becomes clearer. Hope to join you on the June ante-natal thread Grin

Lolly - we are doing natural cycle FET which means no drugs, just a trigger shot the night before transfer so will have no idea when that will be. If my cycle is say 28 days this month then I guess I will have blast defrost and transfer on the 14th or so but won't know till the clinic says I am at peak natural ovulation. The wait for AF is so annoying. We spend all our time when we are TTC NOT wanting AF but when it comes to being able to go ahead with FET it's all we can think about..!!

Bear2014 · 05/10/2016 16:32

Thank you Again. I was pretty teary earlier but I'm ok now - will keep testing til OTD but it's not the end of the road.

We didn't want to spend all our spare cash on fertility treatment, but at least we can afford a couple more cycles, which is very fortunate. And we have our DD. We were thinking about not trying for a sibling, partly to avoid all of this potential heartache but now we've got ourselves so deep into the process, giving up is unthinkable.

xx

Lolly2803 · 05/10/2016 18:13

How did you get on today Banana? xxx

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AgainPlease · 05/10/2016 18:36

I'm having a bit of a shit time ladies.

I was 'feeling pregnant' the last few days and thought AF started a few days ago as was spotting. Bleeding stopped so I decided to do a test this morning which came back with a very faint positive.

Got really excited and DH was happy but fast forward to this evening i went to loo and tmi warning: there was fresh blood when I wiped. Did another test and it was completely negative. Went to loo again and absolutely no discharge/blood nothing! So confused.

So I've experienced every emotion under the sun today! Still in touch with the clinic to do natural cycle FET this month so at least I have that to look forward to.

Why o why can't I just be like most women and conceive easily?!?!!! Sad Just feeling very down and angry with my body.

Ate loads of chocolate to make myself feel better... But now I just feel fat and sick.

Rant over. Sorry..

Bear2014 · 05/10/2016 19:02

Oh crikey Again - so you conceived naturally but possibly had a chemical? So sorry to hear that, what a crazy rollercoaster. Really hope you're ok xx

AgainPlease · 05/10/2016 19:15

Yeh I think a chemical pregnancy. You always here of these "miracle stories" of women like us going through the emotional trauma of IVF and then conceive naturally. I thought that was me today! I was so happy this morning. It seems it's not meant to be :( Ho hum... Roll on middle of October for my FET. Maybe I should take comfort in knowing that I can conceive naturally though. Don't know what to think. Just want to be pregnant again

Lolly2803 · 05/10/2016 19:23

Aw again what an absolute head f**k. I'm so sorry you've been through all of this today, life and the body can be so bloody cruel!

I would say focus on the FET as planned, it's not too far away now so get excited about that. You're starting at the same time as me so I we can keep each other sane. You'll get there :-) xxx

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AgainPlease · 05/10/2016 19:34

Thanks lolly! Xx

There was definitely a line there this morning. I know it's faint but it can be seen! Never heard of "false positives" so I'm very sad that it probably is a chemical pregnancy.

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Bear2014 · 06/10/2016 06:17

I'm still out. Never seen such a negative pregnancy test Sad Looking forward to my appointment next week to discuss next steps and coming to terms with the fact that my November due date will pass by and I still won't be pregnant again.

Keeping my fingers crossed for everyone else and will check back to see how you're doing.

Again - hope you're ok today xx

AgainPlease · 06/10/2016 07:06

Bear I am so very sorry. It's a bfn for me over here too and the bleeding has started again :-( Sending you big hugs Flowers

bananafish81 · 06/10/2016 07:15

Oh lovely ladies, so many hugs

It's just SHIT

It's the permanent aching sadness of wondering if we will ever become parents

I'd go through more miscarriages IF I knew we would ever get there. But it's the shittest roll of the dice

If we redid the kitchen instead of spending money on IVF, at least we'd know we'd get a kitchen at the end of it!

Really hope you can be kind to yourselves Flowers

Hugs to you all

AFM I had my hysteroscopy yesterday evening, Dr was very pleased, said he was feeling much happier having seen the endometrium was looking so healthy. There were some very very minor filmy adhesions, but these went as soon as he flushed with saline, nothing needed resecting. There was a small calcified area, but again this went with saline flushing, no instruments needed. Copper coil is in, biopsy is done: he said I'd probably feel quite battered as he flushed the uterine cavity out so many times (think he said something like 7?!) and he jacked my cervix open a fair bit

We knew I didn't have Ashermans syndrome, but we didn't know quite what to expect when he got in there. So very relieved to hear it's looking healthy, and we're at least starting from a solid base. The key test will be if I get a decent period in 3/4 weeks after my first HRT cycle 🙏

Realised my first egg collection was 12 months ago exactly to the day. 'Only' had 3 more ECs, 2 transfers, 2 pregnancies, 2 losses, 1 D&C and 2 hysteroscopies since then! Quite a year...

bananafish81 · 06/10/2016 07:17

Oh and bear extra hugs on the due date

Mine is on Monday. No baby, but I'm one more loss down and I'm on frigging contraception

Fuck. This. Shit.

Lolly2803 · 06/10/2016 07:43

Oh ladies I'm so sorry. It's really is shit and unfair. Echo bananas words and advice of being kind to yourself. But it really is a so bloody cruel. Sending you massive hugs today xxxx

Banana that's great news about the endometrium looking so healthy fingers crossed going on contraception does the trick - still can't quiet get my head around contraception helping pregnancyHmm

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Lolly2803 · 06/10/2016 07:44

Oops pressed post too soon... Are there any steps in between now and waiting for a bleed banana?

Lots of love to everyone. xxx

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