FET Sept/Oct

[Lolly2803]

Hi ladies,
I am due to start an FET in Sept/Oct and wondered if anyone else was too?! Had my first cycle of IVF in August but due to fluid in my uterus and thin lining had to freeze everything. I seem to always have fluid mid cycle, including natural cycles. Very worried that it will always be a problem and will never get to use my embryos. Having a hysteroscopy the week after next to check incase anything in there but doc suspects not. Would be great to have a few buddies! xxx

Great news Lolly!!

Harmony can be done for multiples but panorama can't I think

I had a bleed! Actual proper menstrual flow!! Got a mooncup (urgh) and we're definitely dealing with a bleed

Obvs if I wasn't dealing with the spectre of endometrial cancer there would be more cause for celebration

NHS fucked up and I was referred to the wrong clinic. I should have been referred to the rapid access gynae-oncology clinic, not the colposcopy clinic. Error was only spotted when I emailed to ask if I was still likely to have a colposcopy given my cervical smear was normal

Been re-triaged and referred to the oncology clinic. So colposcopy clinic appt on 29th is cancelled and first gynae-oncology clinic appt isn't till 4th Jan

I'm seeing my fertility consultant on 30th Dec so will ask what investigations he can do and to refer me to a colleague who specialises in gynaecological oncology if needed.

Apparently the Whittington do surgical hysteroscopies under a local anaesthetic - not even sedation. No effing way I'm letting some NHS reg with no experience of Ashermans butcher me while I'm wide awake. Deploying BUPA.

Merry Xmas all xx

Banana that's amazing!!!! Omg I'm so pleased you got a bleed! Wahoo!!! I know it's difficult with the other tests results but as you said you've had recent checks I'm sure it can't be anything sinister. Keeping everything crossable crossed!!
Good call on the BUPA action - you need someone that understands your history for sure. Will your current Dr be involved in anyway to oversee or advise on a thing given he knows your insides better than anyone?!

How are you feeling?

Thanks all. I'm feeling really happy with the scan but also aware it's still super early. I am 9 weeks tomorrow so know it could still all go wrong. It's actually called Serenity the test I am having, I got it wrong. They do it at my clinic and the Dr recommended it so I'm assuming it is relevant for multiples! I'm sure that the test will add to my worries! Having it on 6th Jan which is when we will see them again.

Xxxx

Banana that's great news! I'm so pleased that you got your bleed before Christmas. What an unbelievable fuck up though?! I'm so sorry you're not getting looked after better. Good that BUPA are coming to the rescue. I had my hysteroscopy under GA so I'm a bit at the idea of just a local.

Lolly I know it's hard to relax but they get bigger and stronger every day!

I hope so!
My SIL announced she was pregnant with her second tonight. She's 8 weeks so a week behind me. We haven't told anyone and don't plan to till after our scan at 13wks xxx

Banana- amazing news about the bleed! I love a mooncup, by far the best thing out there IMO. Hooray for blood but sorry to hear about the fuck up and really hope your ok and hanging in there til you get looked at properly.

Lolly - great news about the scan. Past 9 weeks i think you're on pretty solid ground. Try and relax if possible

I'm at my parents' and having a digital detox for a few days so I hope you all have a jolly lovely booze free Christmas and i'll see you on the other side xx

Have a fantastic Christmas Bear!! Looking forward to catching up after the festivities xxxxx

Hello folks. Not having the jolliest Christmas here in Norway - my husband started feeling ill on Christmas Evev and after being up all night, was admitted to hospital on Christmas morning. We were supposed to fly home yesterday but have just been told he has appendicitis and because it wasn't diagnosed until today, his appendix has now ruptured and will have to be drained before they can remove it. We could be looking at another week or more before he can go home. Both of us are self-employed too so that could be two weeks without income for us.

Trying to be grateful that he's receiving care, they've found the problem and bump & I are both fine. Missing home & family terribly though

Csa I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through, how scary for you both. Are you on holiday in Norway or do you know people there? Wishing your husband a speedy recovery and hope you can come home soon xx

He's Norwegian, so we were spending Christmas with his family

Csa - what a nightmare! Hope DH is ok and you get home soon. Not ideal!

How is everyone else?

We had our scan today, heartbeat there and measuring within range for 7+4. They must think we're the most miserable sods ever as we barely cracked a smile but we've been at this point before and it's all gone wrong so it's just a hurdle. Got another at the 9 week mark, then i might relax a bit more xx

Csa I'm glad you're not alone at least. Make sure you look after yourself too.

Bear that's great but it's definitely ok to be cautious. I suspect I'm going to be anxious for many weeks to come.

I've had 2 scans in 2 days and a booking in appointment. The scan at the clinic yesterday was to check everything was OK before discharging me. The scan at the EPU today was because I slipped down the stairs on my ass I had to go to A&E to be referred to EPU, which was mercifully quick and the scan picked up a heartbeat and no signs of bleeding. I wasn't overly worried to begin with because the baby is, ahem, quite well cushioned and I didn't knock my abdomen but I was starting to fret and better safe than sorry. Must be more careful. The booking in appointment was a bit pointless as my care plan will be set out by the consultant so the dates they took me through weren't relevant and the tests are being repeated from April when nothing has actually changed...

Csa that's awful! Hope DH is feeling better and you can come home soon. Not what you guys need right now!! Glad everything is ok with the baby though.

Hey Bear! So glad you saw a heartbeat! Understandable to be worried given your loss before. But that's a great first step and def worth getting excited over. Although saying that we are also struggling to get excited as I'm very aware it could all go wrong at any moment!
Next scan for us on the 6th Jan. I had a cold over Christmas which was very annoying and was in a lot of pain from the injections in my back but both have eased now! Just nausea and tiredness which weirdly I find reassuring! Some days only slight nausea now and again and others it's constant. Lots of twinges and weird feelings which get me worried but hopefully things are still ok. Just want to wish time away till the 24th Jan!
What date is your next scan Bear? xxx

Omg blue I've just seen your message! Hope you're ok! That sounds very painful and stressful. Glad baby is ok and at least you got to see him/her a few more times! Hope you feel better soon xxx

I'm glad your ok Lolly. I had a cold over Christmas too, sucks doesn't it?! Husband's colleague who shouldn't have been in work passed it on

I'm feeling battered and sore, and I'm sure I'll have some almighty bruising to look forward to. But otherwise ok.

My next scan is 24th Jan but I'm toying with the idea of a harmony test. It probably sounds v silly but I really want to know the sex of the baby - I feel like it's a girl but if it's a boy, I need to get my head around having another boy after losing my boy. I don't have a preference at all, I'll be happy either way, but I know it's going to take me longer to deal with the guilt complex if it's a boy. Is that the wrong reason to do the test? Obviously I would also want to know the chromosome results but I'll still be doing the nuchal tests etc the following week at the 12 week scan so I'm not sure if it's worth doing harmony just for those results.

Oh god blue that is scary. Really hope you're ok. I had a couple of spills when pg with DD as my huge bump toppled me over defo take care!! Re the harmony test, do whatever you want/need to get through it. It's no one else's business and i can see the reasoning behind it for sure.

Lolly sorry you've been so rough. It sucks to not be allowed all the good drugs (and wine).

No scan booked yet, i'll do it last minute as we lost our deposit last time when i mc just before a private scan. Better tell the GP too, i kind of want to wait til the next scan but should just bite the bullet xx

I agree with Bear Blue, it's totally your call. Can see reasoning for all options so it has to be whatever you and DH feel most comfortable with xxx

Bear I know what you mean! I didn't want to have my booking in till last min but then thought if I wait I might not get my scan when I need it so bit the bullet. Was hard though!! Still now trying not to get ahead of ourselves. Just waiting for the 6th and then hopefully the 24th. That's terrible you lost your deposit!! What meanies!! And terrible they made you pay one actually.

Yer I didn't take any drugs. I didn't have a fever or anything so just an annoying cold. To be honest (ivf aside) I'm not really one to take tablets and things. And with everything I'm taking at the moment I couldnt face adding something else in!

Been quiet twingy, crampy, achey today off and on. Worrying but then DH says "remember you have got two babies in there" and I think perhaps it's normal!!

Big hugs to blue and csa and cautious congrats to bear, hope all is well with you and the dynamic duo Lolly

Happy new year to you all, hoping 2017 is a magical one for you all as you welcome your little ones into the world

Update from me. Saw my lovely fertility consultant on Fri. He said a cytology report is pretty rudimentary vs histology reports where we've done curettage and taken endometrial tissue and are looking at directly sampled tissue, so it was very unlikely anything sinister was going on that three histological analyses had missed. I'm at the NHS gynae-oncology clinic on Weds - said I should have the smear repeated and potentially a pipelle biopsy done (and colposcopy if they offer it, although it's unlikely to tell us anything as the smear itself was normal), but we agreed I wouldn't consent to another D&C. He said if they weren't helpful he would refer me to a colleague who specialises in gynae-oncology to liaise accordingly (BUPA definitely covers cancer and general gynae - they paid for my ERPC and both hysteroscopies, so a private follow up is eminently possible, but will see how we get on with the NHS appt first)

Consultant was relatively untroubled by it, although agreed we couldn't just say 'well it's PROBABLY ok, they PROBABLY didn't miss anything'.

NHS Dr is going to get a surprise when I rock up with reports from three operations, three endometrial biopsies and a HyCoSy report. Consultant said I've got one of the most well looked at uteruses in London!!

He was giddy when I told him I'd had a proper period. He practically leapt up out of his chair and actually exclaimed 'that's the best news I've had in ages!'

He got all excited saying if I had a bleed this month we could take the coil out and do a mock cycle with biopsies, and started talking about doing a FET in March. I told him to calm down as that was a long way to go!

Lining this month was looking great, after only 5 days of stims. I had one mega dwarf planet giant follicle that had raced off and gobbled up all the stims and left the others for dust - but a lining of over 8mm on day 9! Triggered this morning. He said that it was very clear artificial hormones didn't work for me - but that with ovulation induction we seemed to have found a better formula. So we shall see.

Banana that's fantastic! What great news to start 2017 with after the shit show that was the end of the year (excuse my language).
I was thinking it couldn't be anything sinister after all the investigations that have gone into your bits! You def have the best most looked at uterus in London!!! And beyond!!!
You're lining sounds amazing too!!!! And a proper bleed!! Wow!!! Everything you could have hoped for. March will be here in no time and that's great to have something to really focus on and look forward to. It really sounds like there's a huge great big light at the end of what's been a pitch black tunnel. Just need to get these endo investigations out the way so you can move forward or carry on with the plan. I'm really sure it can't be anything sinister but as you say need to be 100%. I am SOO happy and excited for you!!!
How are you and DH feeling about it all?

Saw the duo on the 23rd and they looked amazing! We are seeing them again on Friday 6th for the Serenity test so hoping desperately things are still ok. Then it's a long wait till my NHS scan at 13+3 which is on the 24th. Once we get there think we will relax a bit more and then maybe tell some people. For now we are just scared!!!

How's everyone else?

Happy New Year to All! Really hoping it's a fantastic one for all of us xxxx

Hi ladies, Happy New Year indeed!

Lolly only a couple of days til your next scan! So exciting. Are you showing yet? You must be getting a lot of growing pains.

Banana This all sounds really encouraging. It is true that they have done a lot of examining and sampling so it would be very surprising if you had anything sinister going on under everyone's nose. Here's hoping you get another couple of decent bleeds and your consultant is on the money with a March FET. That' really not long at all.

I'm still in a real tizzy about everything. Can't go to the loo without checking the toilet paper. Every time I have a pain I think it's something sinister. Every time I don't get a pain I start gently prodding myself to make sure there is something there. At this point last time, the embryo had stopped developing, so we're putting ourselves out of our misery with a scan next Monday at 9+1. I wanted one this week but OH held me off as otherwise I would probably want another one at 10 weeks. Still haven't been to the GP. We need to register at a local one as I'm still registered in Clapham where I lived 10 years ago, so I'll do that this week then tell the new GP and get the ball rolling.

Back to work, boo! This morning was not fun. Hope everyone has a good day xx

Hey Bear!
2 sleeps till my scan! I can't wait!! We're having the Serenity test so bit nervous about that too but excited to see the babies again. Hope they're ok! I wouldn't say showing as if you didn't know me you wouldn't tell. I just look like I've put on weight as I'm usually a size 8. Although all my jeans are tight / don't fit. I've got some high waisted ones I'm wearing but my clothes just look a bit tight! Think I'm going to buy a couple of lose dresses this week just to tide me over and stop me feeling uncomfortable and like a squeezed sausage!
I've been feeling sick and very tired and had cramps off and on. Some days I'll have a really crampy day and others nothing at all. My boobs are growing loads and they are very veiny! I've also got a very bloody nose! Everytime I blow there's blood pretty much and quiet a lot in the mornings - weird! Still struggling to get excited as feels too early. Just want the 24th to be here!!!

I always check the tissue when I go to the loo as well! Understandable to be worried but I'm sure the scan on Monday will put your mind at rest. Then you can relax a bit and get the ball rolling with everything else!

Hi Lolly, oof it must be really uncomfortable to wear jeans. I can only wear maternity ones (left over from DD), but it feels weird like I'm tempting fate so I'm just living in leggings and dresses. I always get very bloated in early pregnancy and can't bear the sensation of anything pressing on my belly. You're going to have such a lovely neat bump, mine will definitely be more 'spread' - lol.

The whole thing just sends you mental doesn't it. Roll on the next scans!! xx

Yer I have ordered some leggings and am going to get a couple of bits tomorrow. I did put a bit of weight on during ivf etc as I wasn't exercising so i am bigger than usual anyway at the moment. I've also been SO hungry!! Eating helps with the nausea but I really don't think I'll have a neat bump - think I'll be more whale like! But long as things are ok I don't care!
Yes bring on the scans!!! I'm looking forward to my nhs one as not only will I then be able to relax and tell people (can't imagine what that must feel like) but I'll also be able to understand more about what happens during a twin pregnancy. Everything I've been given so far I've been told to ignore so it would be good to have some relevant info!

just peeking in to say I'm happy to read all of your updates. Bear, Blue and Lolly pleased for you and cheering you on. I know it's a scary journey, hoping your upcoming scans go well and ease your anxiety as much as possible. Blue glad all was OK, hope you are feeling less sore.

Banana things are looking optimistic for you! Glad to read that you've had all the necessary tests and so far no evidence of something sinister. Yay for your doctor again! Great that he is so invested in your situation! I hope he is right that FET could be on for spring. How was the NHS appointment, was that today?

I'm on another thread now but am down-regging for IVF again (baseline scan tomorrow). And had a nice Christmas and New Year. Happy New Year to everyone on the thread! :)

Happy New Year ladies, 2017 has got to be our year!

Banana how did you get on with the gynae-oncology doctor today?

Lolly I haven't been able to wear my jeans since 7weeks into my last pregnancy - April 2016! It's been floaty dresses with mat tights/leggings for me. Due to all the illness and injuries over Christmas I barely went out and have managed to put on 4kg I must manage my weight better. Good luck with the Serenity tests, I'm sure it will be lovely to see the duo again.

Bear that's understandable, hope you will feel more relaxed after Mondays scan. I do the loo paper check too.

HelloMist lovely to hear from you and I wish you the best of luck with your next cycle.

CSA how are you getting on? Hope that your husband is on the mend.

Hello Mist - hi there, good to hear from you. Glad you had a nice Christmas and NY. It's nice to have fun distractions! Wishing you all the luck in the world for the IVF xx

Banana - yes do let us know how you got on today xx

Blue - glad it's not just me checking the loo roll. It makes me feel like such a weirdo. Are you getting the Harmony test done? I'm going to the Fetal Medicine Centre for my scan next week and they do a bargain package, I'm actually quite tempted by it.

Lolly - embrace the comfort!! You know you want to

Xx