FET Sept/Oct

[Lolly2803]

Hi ladies,
I am due to start an FET in Sept/Oct and wondered if anyone else was too?! Had my first cycle of IVF in August but due to fluid in my uterus and thin lining had to freeze everything. I seem to always have fluid mid cycle, including natural cycles. Very worried that it will always be a problem and will never get to use my embryos. Having a hysteroscopy the week after next to check incase anything in there but doc suspects not. Would be great to have a few buddies! xxx

Hey Mist! So nice to hear from you. Hope you've been keeping ok. That's great it's all kicking off again tomorrow - how are you feeling about it? I'll be cheering you on!!! Please keep us posted on how you're doing. We are here whenever you need us :-)

Blue I'm so hoping 2017 is our year. We all deserve it!! Yep my leggings should arrive tomorrow and I'll pop into the shops before my scan. Or maybe after as I don't want to tempt fate. Then it'll be a nervous wait for the results, not sure how long they take to come through.

My clinic just called me and asked if I'd speak at their open evening on Friday. I've said I will think about it and let them know. Not sure I want to stand up in front of 20 people and talk about things. Feels a bit weird. But yet my clinic have been so amazing I feel like I should do something. Have any of you ladies done anything like that? xxx

Bear others have recommended the Fetal Medicine Centre, they do look good. With the packages, they include a 12 week nuchal scan, would you do this instead of or as well as the NHS test? I definitely need to have the NHS one before I see the pre-term clinic so wondering if it makes sense to have 2 at 12 weeks!

Lolly results seem to take between 1-2 weeks everywhere I have looked so far. Hopefully you won't have to wait too long.

I'm really happy with my clinic and might consider doing something like that (if they asked!) but probably wouldn't feel comfortable doing it until after the baby arrived safely. I went to a lot of open evenings though, and just met the staff, no patients. Not sure if I'd have liked a talk by a current patient, I was going out of my way to avoid pregnant people at that stage. That's just me though, do whatever feels right.

Yer that's what I was thinking Blue. I guess some people will find it useful (inwould have as I had no idea what ivf really was!) and some won't. I also don't feel comfortable talking about it at this early stage as you say and I also haven't even told my family yet so it would feel weird to talk about it to a bunch of strangers. I think I'll tell them I will do it at a later stage but I'm not ready yet. Hopefully they'll understand.
I'll ask when I go how long the results will take to come in - another nervous wait!!!

Hi all

Thanks for thinking of me

Cancer clinic today said hopefully nothing sinister, said basically exactly what my fertility consultant said on Friday. So two consultant gynaecologists happily independently agree it’s more likely a wonky result due to all the treatment I’ve been having.

He said with normal histology from a recent hysteroscopy, and no abnormal bleeding, in his opinion there was nothing to indicate endometrial cancer. He said although he hadn’t seen this particular smear result in a long time, he said it wasn’t uncommon to see abnormal smear results due to hormonal changes (such as we’d expect to see with the hormonal stimulation I’ve had).

He recommended that I be referred for colposcopy to rule out any cervical abnormalities, and that the smear be redone. He said the colposcopy clinic might want to do endocervical curettage, but didn’t feel any further examination of the endometrium was warranted - he said basically it couldn’t be endometrial cancer (which was what the smear suggested it might be). Cervix itself was normal so he’s hoping it was just a scare and investigations will rule anything out

He was mind boggled at everything we’d been through this last year (4 IVF cycles, 3 cancelled cycles, 2 pregnancies, 2 miscarriages and 3 surgeries). He asked how we were doing emotionally. Said not to underestimate how emotionally taxing it all was - that was for the benefit of the junior Dr who was sitting in. We were thinking ‘yeah we aren’t underestimating how emotionally difficult it is - we’re living it!!!’

Will feel more relieved once have got the results of the colposcopy and repeat smear, but as things stand, it’s looking more reassuring than it was…

Oh that's great news Banana. Thank goodness! Hopefully you can just draw a line under those dodgy results in a few weeks and start gearing up for the March FET!

Can't believe all you've been through. When you write it all out it's actually unbelievable. You really have come a long way and it really does seem as though things are starting to go as your super Dr hoped and planned! When do you think all the tests will be done on the endo bits? xxx

I'm really pleased to hear your update Banana. It'll be good though get those follow ups out of the way and get back to focussing on your cycles. You've definitely been through more than most in a very short space of time! Totally makes sense that hormones are wreaking havoc xx

Ps we are going to run out of thread soon...

Banana - that's really good news, hopefully you can just press on with the plan now and not be terrified of other eventualities. Talk about stating the obvious that it's been a tough time. Do you and/or OH ever do counselling at all? I've always swerved it but at times think I should have.

Lolly - Wow that is quite big that your clinic asked you to do that! I would personally have been really keen to hear from a patient, but I never went through the avoiding pregnant women phase when choosing a clinic as we had never TTC before. If you feel it's too soon I'm sure they would be keen to have you back at a later date.

Blue - I still haven't been to the GP and I'm nearly 9 weeks so I'm fully expecting to be offered quite a late scan appointment. So I'm thinking about booking in at the FMC for 10+6 and getting the £400 package. We would pay £250 for the nuchal scan alone so it's a bargain really. The egg age is 36 so not old but not young either. DD was low risk of Downs though, something like 1 in 2000.

Do we run out of thread at 1000? Do we want to start a new one? Would it go in Infertility or somewhere else?

Blue I would have the NHS scan as well at 13/14 weeks or whenever it was, but would tell them not to worry about the screening elements.

Yer Bear I think I would have been keen too but I didn't go to any open days. Kinda stumbled across the clinic for a fertility check expecting to be told to keep trying! I've replied and said I'd be happy to at a later date but I don't feel comfortable yet as it's too early in my pregnancy and I haven't even told my family yet!
I went to the midwife I think at 9 weeks and I got my scan for 13+3 - feels like a lifetime away!! Once I've seen them tomorrow I know it will feel like forever!!

Ah I didn't realise there was a limit to the number of posts. We should set up a new one then. Not sure where it would go. I'm scared of the pregnancy board!!

Yes we run out at 1000! There was an AIBU recently about keeping pregnancy talk off Infertility threads. I guess it's slightly different here as it's evolved from cycle buddies and easy for people to avoid than a more generic thread.

I can see both sides - not being ready to move onto pg threads and feeling more at home here - and not wanting to upset anyone / be insensitive with pg talk on an infertility board. I've joined Pregnancy After Infertility thread where people seem to have graduated from Infertility. It's a much safer place than the general pg thread!

I've looked at the Pregnancy after Infertility thread, it's so fast moving and seems a bit late to join but I guess that will be getting a new thread at 1000 too, and could just pick it up from there. We could make our own antenatal club - Summer babies for the Sub-fertile

Yes that's a good one! Bear why don't you set that up on the pregnancy board and we'll join!!

Not too late to join at all, we get newbies all the time. And quite often it's helpful to chat to people a few weeks ahead who have already been through the same things. Equally happy to join a new thread!

I find the August antenatal club a bit scary though, I feel like I've been through far too much to even try to explain on there!

I started the first pregnancy after infertility thread back in February as I felt really out of place on the normal preggo threads.

I wish you all well - you definitely all deserve to graduate to the pregnancy boards as you are happily not infertile as things stand.

Can definitely recommend making a dedicated thread for ex barrens as the normal pregnancy threads are scary!

Good luck all xx

It's sad that we can't just keep this thread as we're a mix of people in a bit of a transitional phase... Banana you are right, though. I'll continue to stalk you on here as I'm rooting for you big time.

If all goes well at my 9 week scan next week I'll join in with the Pregnancy after Infertility thread, and may start a little 'niche' antenatal club and notify you all about it. It's been good to have our little close-knit support network xx

It's so annoying! Don't feel like I belong anywhere apart from here. Yes please do set that up Bear. I can't imagine not having you ladies after all this time. Or I can set one up now? I don't mind.

Banana I will also continue to stalk you as I too am rooting for you! xxx

Of course, please do if you would like to. I'm still being ridiculously superstitious about everything. Hopefully by Monday I'll be less of a kill joy ;o)

I've done it!! It's on the pregnancy board and Bear I used your name suggestion.Hahaha.
Please join me. I feel lonely already xxx

Hi guys! Banana, really hoping things go well for you. Every time I hear a little bit of positive news for you I have my fingers crossed!

Blue: how are you doing after falling down the stairs!

Husband was released from hospital today, but his potassium levels are creeping up so they want to do another blood test tomorrow morning. As he's 4-5hrs drive from the nearest airport that might make it difficult for him to come home tomorrow feeling a bit down to be honest at the thought of still not having him back by the weekend. Doesn't help knowing that if they'd screened him properly when he went in, he'd probably have been home for a week already... (and they'd have been able to take the appendix out right then; now we're going to have to get it done once he's home as he needs to recover from all the secondary infections before that can be taken out).

I'm worried now - why are the pregnancy threads scary? (too scared to visit them myself and find out...)

Csa! Great to hear from you. So sorry to hear about poor DH and you going through all this. When is he likely to come home? What will his treatment/recovery plan be? Hope he is back on his feet and looking after you in no time. How are you and baby doing/ feeling?

There's nothing particularly scary about the threads we are just all scared to join it! I am still feeling like a fake pregnant woman and feel more comfortable here! But we are running out of space here so I set up a new one called "Summer Babies for the sub-infertile" xxx