Flying Fakers come what May! Come and join the half-arsed Fledglings as we post our To Do and Ta Da lists and get our houses just a tiny bit tidier...

[Cagliostro]

Or try to anyway!

All welcome! I am struggling to stay awake so I’ll do the proper thread stuff tomorrow, but if you’d like some encouragement and chat while you get your house sorted then this is the place for you. We follow flylady in a delightfully lax sort of fashion.

Special thanks to zoo for the title idea 💐 😘

Man alive. DS has been an utterly horrible child today. Not his fault entirely (impulse control/hyperactivity etc) but FFS. I actually ended up sending him to bed early after he jumped off the sofa onto my foot! :( (Didn’t hurt amazingly but it was the final straw of doing things I had told him not to.)

Afternoon with my parents was nice - and I was more assertive in making choices myself rather than going with what everyone else wanted. I have decided it is essential that DH and I do this more often. Our choices don’t harm them (for example I chose somewhere different for lunch and nobody spontaneously combusted. Who knew?) but maybe we actually are harming them by ALWAYS shrugging and saying I don’t mind, you choose.

✅put a wash on
✅got dinner done in a timely manner
✅gave back a bag of jeans to my mum because they are all too big for me! Woohoo!
✅wore jeans that had hitherto been too tight. Double woohoo!
✅ordered a couple more cheap textbooks (year 7 English and chemistry) - quite excited for next week when we start using some!

Aw thanks tidy re home ed, I had a discussion with DD recently and she’s not trying secondary yet (she’d be going into year 7 in September), at present given the issues she had before it would do more harm than good, and we have finally got to a really good place academically with what we are doing in our home ed, so I’m pretty happy to carry on for the foreseeable. DS is perfectly happy HE, he was miserable at school too (she was in year 3 and he was in year 1 when they left) but he doesn’t carry the epic trauma and angst that his sister does.

Caglets are still awake and the baby’s fallen asleep on the sofa. FML

Well done on be assertive cag never an easy thing to do lol zoo been s madam.may be it's something in the air/weather making them extra difficult!!

My kids have only just gone to bed, i feel like I have to stay up later now, just so I can get s bit of me time lol

I know the feeling! Everyone is asleep in bed now but I’m still faffing online just to get some headspace.

Re tablet time, I am very strict on that, but I’m not sure how it’ll work when DD gets her phone (11th birthday in a few weeks). TV time I am more lax on but getting stricter (we now no longer have it on at all during “school hours” but I think actually in holidays like at the moment it’s still on too much.

I feel like the half term has been wasted, no surprise there, we have sorted some stuff sure but such a long long long way to go. Ugh.

I am really glad I was assertive today. I will nudge DH in that direction. I do remind him with little things like if he picks up something the Caglets have forgotten to bin/put away, he will tell them they forgot, but then do it himself! Because it’s quicker. But it’s not teaching them anything is it, so I do say, no they need to do it themselves. It has occurred to me though that his terrible (as in cruel) upbringing may be a factor here.

Right, I really am going to put the iPad down now! Honest...

Gosh, hats off to all the busy people on here today!

I tried quite hard and didn't achieve very much. I am just going through a phase where everything seems a bit overwhelming. Dh and dd are very, very stressed too and my role seems to be trying to blot that up a bit.

Dh has worked himself in to the ground as usual, could barely move off the sofa tonight (very unusual for him) and looked white with fatigue. He is so tired and stressed he is quite short with everyone too. His doctor has said he needs a fortnight's holiday but he won't listen. He's had a blood test back and everything else is fine but his triglycerides are sky high which is not good at all. So we are cutting out alcohol, bread, pasta, any fast sugar releasing carbs and going to up the oily fish.

DD is very stressed because we have just discovered (I don't know why we didn't know this before!) that the maths test she is having tomorrow counts towards the end of year exams and if her overall scores do not reach above a certain percentage (based on her year long average scores) then she will automatically have to redouble the year because maths is what they call a "notification" subject. First time we had heard of this and bloody hell I feel negligent that I didn't know. Feel slightly better though since (a) I had a glass of rosé (contrary to above diet) and (b) I rang some other mothers (native to this country who have been schooled here) and they didn't know either!

I must admit I didn't get much Flying done but I did help dd a bit with her physics (Archimedes, submarines, hydrostatic weighting etc).

Every room in house still a terrible pit!

However, links for tomorrow have been posted on June thread! See you there everybody!

Hello is anyone awake? Just had emergency doctor out to dh. He is fine, no need for a&e, but blood pressure upoer linit of normal. Going to follow up with gp in morning. I darent go to sleep!

Hope you got some sleep sc and dp doing better

SC hope you got some rest my love

Argh sc read your first post and it all sounds so stressful then your update re your dh , hope he is doing better this morning and you managed a bit of sleep.

Thank you so much everybody, dh is ok but very tired. He turned white, started sweating, said he felt dizzy. He looked awful and I was worried because he has had these symptoms before. I immediately thought "heart attack" but no chest pain at all so called doctor not ambulance! (Was touch and go though!) Fortunately right decision as heart is fine (and he's recently had all the tests, 24 hr tracings, etc etc and all good). So we just don't know what it is and will be ringing doc in 20 mins when surgery opens. I think it is probably stress ... but he is very calm person normally ... and symptoms seem very "physical" ifyswim and start when he is asleep.

Poor dd was up from midnight to just before 4 am (took doc 1 hr 45 to arrive) but has bravely gone off to face her maths test this morning bless her!

Will be back later tonight (sorry prob should have posted this on June thread???)

Thxs again x

Hi everyone, just a final word to say that we are now all ...

over here! on the June thread!