Should we cancel a family holiday after a row over a terrible argument?

[SillyPig]

There is a rather large argument between my daughter and my husband, and it is proving to be a persistent issue. We are going on holiday in a week's time, and my husband and my child are refusing to cooperate. My child refuses to be around her father because she believes he is anti-LGBT, and her coming out did not go down well with him. He believes they are talking stupidly.

Now, next week, we have a 17-hour flight to Australia, where the two of them will be forced to sit next to one another unless someone gives up their seat, which I think is unlikely. I fear the best option might be to cancel/not go on the holiday, but if I do that, I won't be able to get my deposit back. I don't know whether the holiday should be cancelled or whether we should just try to power through this rough patch in our family relationship.

I was thinking that since the holiday is booked through Tui, we could do some group or team-building activities together, like going to a museum or the zoo. But if I cancel the holiday, the tension in the house will continue, though I feel it could be resolved more quickly.

I think we can presume her father is not accepting of her identity or sexual orientation. How does that give her an attitude problem exactly?

What about the father who disapproves because his daughter is not heterosexual?
OP don't cancel the holiday. They don't have to sit together. You can sit next to one of them .
Hopefully they will reach an agreement but if not agree not to discuss it when they are on holiday
It will be a lesson in tolerable and trying to understand other people's views for them both.

@susiedaisy1912 can I say I fully support your decision to come out and I would happily holiday with you in Australia if that helps.

He doesnt disapprove of her not being heterosexual so thats fine.

You have far bigger issues than a family holiday, your hubby is homophobic.

Sorry why is her attitude awful?

Having googled what aroace is I conclude the world has gone label mad.

Again nope, RTFT… 😫

Still none the wiser

He is not, so its all fine.

@PinkEasterbunny basically they don’t feel sexual or romantic feelings for others.

It means no interest in sexual or romantic relationships, I class myself as an asexual in that respect.

A sexual. Please god read the other thread which has been posted and stop with the homophobia comments.

If LGB - husband is being unreasonable - tell him to have a word with himself

if T - daughter being unreasonable and may need counselling as she can’t become a man

“Should I not go on holiday” is a hard poll to vote on, does a “yes” vote mean “yes you should travel” or “yes you should cancel”?

I am now off to investigate some of the terms I have read on this thread, I am clearly not up to date.

My child refuses to be around her father because she believes he is anti-LGBT

Well, is he?

Well I quoted a post that said "T or one of the ++++s" so I think my response was on the mark.

Lots of info missing including age of the child. I was originally going to say take the child and leave the husband at home. But based on the other thread I would sit them down and tell them unless they can sort it out then holiday is being cancelled. Husband can apologise for being flippant, it is clearly a big deal to your child (even if it doesn’t seem like it or it might change in the future) and they can try to find a way forward. If not then Australia is cancelled (or I would go on my own but that’s just me)

Was the homophobia comment aimed at me? Because all I said was I didn’t understand the terminology, I certainly didn’t pass judgement

How so?

More info required. How disappointing and/or homophobic was your DH response to his DDs revelation? What did he say?

Why do they have to sit next to each other?

If DH is homophobic then are you going to support your DD or do you agree with him? Depending on his reaction to DD coming out, I am not sure I would want to go anywhere with him either.

Oh but that stops all the smug virtue signalling LTB responses.:.

If you're going to start a thread at least have the decency to stick around for the first half hour or so, instead of immediately pissing off leaving posters to try and offer advice based on vague information.

Also means the OP doesn't have to sift through page after page of irrelevant opinions which could have been better formed were there a few more lines of information.

OP seems to have another thread running.

According to that thread the DH said ‘you simply haven't found the right person yet.’

Unless there’s more to it than that, it seems like a massive overreaction from the DD.

Thanks @ALovelyPinkUnicorn I was also wondering. Sounds ridiculous. How can a young person know for certain they will never have those feelings for the rest of their lives? They might meet someone in the future who they do have feelings for. Another stop the world I want to get off moment for me.