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Should we cancel a family holiday after a row over a terrible argument?

339 replies

SillyPig · 19/06/2026 12:41

There is a rather large argument between my daughter and my husband, and it is proving to be a persistent issue. We are going on holiday in a week's time, and my husband and my child are refusing to cooperate. My child refuses to be around her father because she believes he is anti-LGBT, and her coming out did not go down well with him. He believes they are talking stupidly.

Now, next week, we have a 17-hour flight to Australia, where the two of them will be forced to sit next to one another unless someone gives up their seat, which I think is unlikely. I fear the best option might be to cancel/not go on the holiday, but if I do that, I won't be able to get my deposit back. I don't know whether the holiday should be cancelled or whether we should just try to power through this rough patch in our family relationship.

I was thinking that since the holiday is booked through Tui, we could do some group or team-building activities together, like going to a museum or the zoo. But if I cancel the holiday, the tension in the house will continue, though I feel it could be resolved more quickly.

OP posts:
BeSunnyLemonSheep · 19/06/2026 13:09

@titchy @Bristolandlazy There is absolutely no evidence to suggest the father is homophobic.

AutumnLover1990 · 19/06/2026 13:10

BeSunnyLemonSheep · 19/06/2026 12:49

How old is the child? I would be leaving her at home with such an awful attitude.

Oh...so you're one of those too then 🙄

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 19/06/2026 13:10

titchy · 19/06/2026 12:51

She’s gay with a homophobic father - you can hardly blame her.

She's not gay. She's "aroace".

BeardySchnauzer · 19/06/2026 13:10

Can’t you sit between them?

what is the actual disagreement? Is it something you can facilitate a discussion for so both sides understand and accept each other

InfoSecInTheCity · 19/06/2026 13:11

You started a thread yesterday didn’t you and failed to provide any useful information or context for anyone to provide advice.

Your daughter has come out as AroAce and your husband thinks it’s nonsense and in order for anyone to have an opinion we need to know roughly how old your daughter is and how your husband has actually responded.

Sulgari · 19/06/2026 13:13

You sit in between them or next to one of them

I’d suggest an embargo on any discussion of those controversial issues for the duration of the holiday

There is no need for you to be involved any further, leave them to it, headphones on, do your own activities if they’re squabbling

JadeSeahorse · 19/06/2026 13:14

If you're due to travel next week then surely you have paid the full amount well before now?

Also, if you are with Tui and it's a package holiday, you will lose an awful lot more than the deposit. You will be into 100% cancellation charge by now.
(Retired senior travel industry here.)

Sulgari · 19/06/2026 13:14

InfoSecInTheCity · 19/06/2026 13:11

You started a thread yesterday didn’t you and failed to provide any useful information or context for anyone to provide advice.

Your daughter has come out as AroAce and your husband thinks it’s nonsense and in order for anyone to have an opinion we need to know roughly how old your daughter is and how your husband has actually responded.

Oh

AutumnLover1990 · 19/06/2026 13:15

Zigoo · 19/06/2026 12:50

Out of interest, is your daughter LGB or one of the TQ+++? And how old?

Not sure why that matters.

msmillicentcat · 19/06/2026 13:15

I would be leaving the husband at home - sorry!

Mangelwurzelfortea · 19/06/2026 13:15

BeSunnyLemonSheep · 19/06/2026 12:49

How old is the child? I would be leaving her at home with such an awful attitude.

An awful attitude?! She comes out and her dad is a twat about it? Jesus Christ, no wonder the poor kid is upset. Let me guess, you're one of those people who thinks that it's 'woke' to be LGBT.

The OP needs to deal with this by setting boundaries for both of them on holiday.

Mangelwurzelfortea · 19/06/2026 13:16

AutumnLover1990 · 19/06/2026 13:15

Not sure why that matters.

Oh it matters on here. The usual crowd will come to throw stones if it turns out she's T or one of the ++++s.

susiedaisy1912 · 19/06/2026 13:16

I’d leave the daughter at home if she’s old enough and go on holiday with your dp, your dd and husband will eventually sort it out.

Vaxtable · 19/06/2026 13:17

Go on holiday. But before you go you tell them both to grow up and get 9ver themselves. You are allowed differences of opinion and your child needs to accept tha5 and not assume everyone is going to think the same as them

lifeinthelastlane · 19/06/2026 13:18

Why couldn't he have just said "that's nice dear" and moved on?
As will she (assuming she's a young teen).
Had to google aroace before I posted

prepapiano · 19/06/2026 13:19

Bristolandlazy · 19/06/2026 12:53

Are you serious, she's gay her father is homophobic. What's she done wrong?

We don’t know he’s homophobic?

Steeleydan · 19/06/2026 13:19

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 19/06/2026 13:10

She's not gay. She's "aroace".

What in heavens name is that!?

thepariscrimefiles · 19/06/2026 13:19

BeSunnyLemonSheep · 19/06/2026 12:49

How old is the child? I would be leaving her at home with such an awful attitude.

Her husband's attitude is worse. I'd leave the homophobe at home and take the daughter.

Shedmistress · 19/06/2026 13:19

Mangelwurzelfortea · 19/06/2026 13:16

Oh it matters on here. The usual crowd will come to throw stones if it turns out she's T or one of the ++++s.

Wht is an AROACE? In the LGBTQIA+++ hands knees boomsadaisy 'spectrum'?

What does 'throw stones' mean? You know this is an internet forum right?

Mikopink · 19/06/2026 13:19

Your daughter is aroace. Why not leave her at home and go have a lovely holiday and she can have some personal space. Or she could pull herself together, maybe.

99bottlesofkombucha · 19/06/2026 13:19

Sulgari · 19/06/2026 13:14

Oh

Yep he’s not wrong is he? But that doesn’t help the op.

lifeinthelastlane · 19/06/2026 13:20

Mangelwurzelfortea · 19/06/2026 13:16

Oh it matters on here. The usual crowd will come to throw stones if it turns out she's T or one of the ++++s.

Don't you think coming out as aroace is in a totally different league to being gay, lesbian or bisexual?

ohdelay · 19/06/2026 13:20

I saw that thread and decided I had had my daily dose of internet. This is why the social media ban is a positive thing as they have somehow turned "I dont fancy anyone" into a made up condition or identity that requires support from your dad.

prepapiano · 19/06/2026 13:20

The dad should just say ‘ok, love you whatever you are, can’t wait to go to Australia!’

lifeinthelastlane · 19/06/2026 13:21

Anyone unwilling to behave themselves on holiday is the one who needs to stay behind.
cant imagine giving in to the drama and cancelling though