Should we cancel a family holiday after a row over a terrible argument?

[SillyPig]

There is a rather large argument between my daughter and my husband, and it is proving to be a persistent issue. We are going on holiday in a week's time, and my husband and my child are refusing to cooperate. My child refuses to be around her father because she believes he is anti-LGBT, and her coming out did not go down well with him. He believes they are talking stupidly.

Now, next week, we have a 17-hour flight to Australia, where the two of them will be forced to sit next to one another unless someone gives up their seat, which I think is unlikely. I fear the best option might be to cancel/not go on the holiday, but if I do that, I won't be able to get my deposit back. I don't know whether the holiday should be cancelled or whether we should just try to power through this rough patch in our family relationship.

I was thinking that since the holiday is booked through Tui, we could do some group or team-building activities together, like going to a museum or the zoo. But if I cancel the holiday, the tension in the house will continue, though I feel it could be resolved more quickly.

Why should it matter? What toxic question. Its shocking how hatefilled and openly transphobic the UK has gotten over the past few years. How comfortable some people have gotten to encourage hate.

Go to Australia. You're all being rather silly IMHO. Sorry, but you did ask.

Have a lovely time, and hopefully it will prove to be a healing time for them.

Because some identities lead on to medicinal intervention with life long impact despite the evidence increasingly being that this harms the child. And many parents want to protect their child from making decisions they will regret for 50 years. That’s why it makes a difference.

She's not gay

Don't jump to conclusions

She's come out as the zillionth "+" in the "++++...+++" bit

Is it just me who doesn't have a clue what this means?

But it said ahe came out?

She came out as aroace

Can't you sit between them? Why do they have to sit next to each other- as a family group they won't comment if you swop between you.

I cannot actually believe anyone would consider cancelling an expensive family holiday because their teenager is having a tantrum because their dad thinks they are being silly about something as silly as being 'aroace'

She said her daughter “came out” and the father did not handle it well. The daughter is somewhere on the LGBTQ spectrum.

Go.

Go. If your husband can’t deal with traveling with his daughter, leave him at home.

No she isn't. The daughter is "aroace" which is completely meaningless, nothing to "come about" and just means"look at me, I'm so special"

OP said she “came out”. It doesn’t matter. She could have said she was a “furry” and it still wouldn’t matter. Or had a septum piercing, tattoos, as long as she was 18 or older. The bigger deal he makes of it, the more it will escalate. I worked for many years with young adults and the most effective strategy was, “Okay” and to move on to other topics. Even if you’re right and she just wants attention, all he is doing now is giving her that.

This OP has “said” a lot which has been quickly dismissed as nonsense. TUI don’t go to Australia for a start and only the deposit paid a week before you leave? Sure

I’d say that it was more that they have different values and neither respects thoe of the other.

Troll, here’s where I win by not playing. Be well, sod off. Will not respond to you again.

Sorry?

It’s a fact that TUI don’t do Australia though.

I can't believe you would cancel an expensive holiday because your husband couldn't be adult enough to say "thats nice dear" and file this announcement of your DDs away under the heading of teenage nonsense.

You are also an adult and need to make your DD understand that the world does not revolve around her and her whims. By all means support her but draw a line under it and tell her that this is her private buisness, does not need to affect the whole family and needs to take a back seat now.

How can she come out as LGBTQ? Surely she's only one of the letters? Which one?

I’m sorry but if my DH didn’t support one of our children committing by out, that would be a non negotiable. Why are you not standing up for your child? If that was me then I would go just with the child. I couldn’t be with someone so predigest

But I don’t believe TUI do Australian holidays!

Can you give me the link to TUI Australian holidays?