Should we cancel a family holiday after a row over a terrible argument?

[SillyPig]

There is a rather large argument between my daughter and my husband, and it is proving to be a persistent issue. We are going on holiday in a week's time, and my husband and my child are refusing to cooperate. My child refuses to be around her father because she believes he is anti-LGBT, and her coming out did not go down well with him. He believes they are talking stupidly.

Now, next week, we have a 17-hour flight to Australia, where the two of them will be forced to sit next to one another unless someone gives up their seat, which I think is unlikely. I fear the best option might be to cancel/not go on the holiday, but if I do that, I won't be able to get my deposit back. I don't know whether the holiday should be cancelled or whether we should just try to power through this rough patch in our family relationship.

I was thinking that since the holiday is booked through Tui, we could do some group or team-building activities together, like going to a museum or the zoo. But if I cancel the holiday, the tension in the house will continue, though I feel it could be resolved more quickly.

was thinking that since the holiday is booked through Tui,

to Australia? No.

You fell at the first hurdle

Is that similar to the House of Colour telling me I’m a True Summer Natural Romantic?

It was the mention of the deposit one week before the travel date that gave the game away for me.

Ultimately your dh is the adult so it's his responsibility to try to repair the relationship. Would it honestly kill him to take something seriously that is obviously important to your dd? This isn't really about who she does or doesn't want to sleep with, it's about her attempts to define her identity.

I'd expect your dh to put in some effort tbh.

A rookie troll

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She didn’t come out and he isn’t homophobic 🤦‍♀️

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You’ve started a third thread in another forum on here and have omitted to mention the holiday. You’ve not engaged with that one either. Just stop it.

You need to start your own thread otherwise you won’t get the engagement you need.

Never mind the holiday. My sister husband divorced her after a happy 31 year marriage. Because my sister is anti gay LGBT and said it’s not gods plan for her daughter to be with a woman. She would have respected her mum saying that if she accepted her and said my religion doesn’t agree but you are my daughter. It caused mayhem and my brother in law couldn’t have a life with a woman who felt that way about his daughter. Terribly sad. Holiday is the least of your worries.

You tell them they need to sit down and talk it over as adults or you’ll go to Australia on your own!!!

17 hours stuck together in a tin can might be what they need to either talk it out or get over it tbh. You just crack on and enjoy the holiday, let them sort it out.

"... My child refuses to be around her father because she believes he is anti-LGBT, and her coming out did not go down well with him. He believes they are talking stupidly..."

From this rather anodyne comment by the OP I'm amazed at the number of posters who have come to the conclusion that her DH is variously homophobic, abusive and unsafe for their daughter to be around(!)

And if the other thread is by the OP all the DH said was "You simply haven't found the right person yet"

Some people here are just kneejerk virtue signallers and completely bonkers.

Dad seems to be eminently sensible and said nothing wrong.

It would be even more daft to cancel the holiday than the DD coming out as "Aroace" - whatever the fuck that is. (Isn't it just the same as "asexual"? why do we have to keep inventing made up names for made up conditions? Who the fuck cares if the DD is asexual?)

Sooner teens are banned from social media the better...

This whole thing is getting weirder and weirder

And they can only go on a trip because of Tui?!

Exactly. What a load of fuss over nothing

Your poll question is confusing because of the negative framing. Yes, you should still go on holiday. You will all need to figure this out anyway, probably easier done away from home.

You need to start your own thread, probably best on the Relationships board x

So your daughter said she basically doesn’t feel attracted sexually or romantically to anyone of any gender, and because she gave it a name your husband flipped out? He needs to get a grip. Big whoop, your daughter doesn’t want to have sex with anyone. What is his problem exactly.

She might change her mind eventually if the right person appears, she might not. Why does he care? At least she won’t get an STD.

your husband flipped out

According to OP’s other thread, he just said ‘you haven’t met the right person yet’.

Which could be read differently depending on whether the DD is 12 or 45.

But given that the OP hasn’t said how old DD is, or how TUI are going to provide a non existent Australian holiday, I wouldn’t hold my breath waiting for clarification.

An "awful attitude" to her father having an issue with her being gay. Wtaf??

She's. Not. Gay.

"her coming out did not go down well with him"

What else do you take this to mean, if you think she isn't gay?

She's declared that she is aroace. Her father clumsily suggested that she just hadn't found the right person yet. It's a puzzlement to some posters, why you need to tell your dad, that there's no one around, who you want to shag.