Do you buy everyone new?

[Sunshin80]

Hi all,

Im curious!

When going away more so with children and partners, do you buy yourselves all new outfits?

How many day outfits do you buy like swimwear and cover ups. How many evening outfits?

I know some people like to take previous outfits away but I love the feeling of putting new on when away. Feels like a nice treat. However doesn't feel so great panicking has everyone got enough with the endless lists and calculating it all. I don't put things in catalogue or credit cards though. Just curious as to what others do and spend, ends up a dear do when you include spending money, holiday cost etc 🤦🏼‍♀️

I laugh at my holiday pics I’m like ooh that dress again as I wear it probably once a year on holiday so it’s ten year old been worn 10 x 😂😂 who cares tho

Absolutely not. The kids might get one or two new bits when we go away because they obviously grow but we basically in our house have “summer clothes” and “other” clothes and take the former. My kids won’t wear anything remotely smart which helps. So just t shirts and shorts get packed.

What?? Oh my word, I had no idea this was a thing. And then…? Do you allow yourself to continue wearing them after your holiday? What happens if there’s a really lovely dress you like? Will you never take that on holiday again because it’s not new anymore?

Where’s this bizarre trend come from? Some superficial-as-shit influencer? Absolute nuts!

I usually buy a few new items. Typically sandals for me and the kids as they do wear out every year. Maybe a new dress or other summer clothes.

Id never buy loads but I just admit it’d be nice to freshen up my summer wardrobe more. It never gets worn out so I can’t justify buying new, and we don’t have a sunny holiday every year.

Honestly that's just an obscene waste , you think it's funny too ...

This thread has been an eye opener for me. It appears that social media is the main focus for many people when it comes to how they look. I never take selfies and it never occurs to DH to take photos of me, so I'm never in any holiday pictures.

Last time we holidayed in the Med I replaced my 11 year old bikinis and bought a pair of shorts and some walking sandals for the holiday. Everything else I packed was what I already owned.

I also wear my summer holiday clothes at home when it is warm enough. I don't just keep them for holidaying.

We go on some sort of holiday around 6 times a year. Couldn't be bothered with going shopping every time.

That class and background dictate a lot of our behaviours I would suggest.

It does. We had no money growing up, my mum used to set more store by stuff like this. There were lots of hand me downs as a large family, but also more concern about looking a certain way on special occasions. As an adult I have money, and care much less because I don't have to. The opinions of people who might feel inclined to judge my family's holiday clothing for not being new aren't of sufficient importance to take into account. And I think that's one reason people react quite viscerally to stuff like this. It's about power and social ranking relative to others.

She is 2 years old and you’re having a fashion show of her holiday clothes?

One side of my family is very aspirational and this is very much a thing, as is an airport outfit and matching family suitcases. People like this tend to think everyone is looking at them, and they need to "create an impression" or as my aunt says "let them think you are from money". Eh no, aunty, people from money do not buy from Shein!

Yep, it’s all about the image, projecting that you are able to spend on new (even if it’s shoved on credit!)

lol - the irony is that "people from money" aren't the ones parading about Birmingham airport with matching suitcases and outfits from Temu, Shein and Asda...

They're the ones wearing their ordinary clothes and using a suitcase that's 20 years old.

And neither are they in "curated family outfits" on themed beige/peach/floral days either. Alexandra Tolstoy's DC on holiday look like a Banardo's poster, they are wearing clothes that have been in the holiday suitcase for at least three generations.

on the other side, not everyone is lucky to go so often on holiday it becomes nearly a routine - a good one, don't get me wrong, holidays abroad are the best part of the year

but for some people it's such a big event, they make a massive fuss about it.

It's wasteful and a bit cringey, but they're not really hurting anyone.

Let's just hope they don't put so much expectations on their one holiday they don't get disappointed because no holiday is ever "perfect"

It’s easy to spot the difference between people with old money and new, it always has been.

But there’s now this third class, people who insist on a certain look, almost certainly funded by credit. Stand out features (sometimes literally being;

1. plastic surgery/heavy fillers
2. matching outfits (particularly in white/beige)
3. obviously named handbags/luggage/clothes
4. Talking about money
5. fake tan
6. Range Rover less than 5 years old
7. taking pictures/selfies every 5 minutes.
8. buying new stuff all the time/ referring to this as a “haul”

Of course I don't throw all our holiday clothes away & return home with empty bags - that would be properly insane.

But in reality there isn't much difference between doing that & buying excessive fast fashion constantly or buying new clothes for the whole family because "holiday" and soothing yourself by justifying your decisons with "but I donate clothes to charity when I don't want them anymore" like you are doing the world a favour.

1. Charity shops are DOING US A FAVOUR by providing us with an exit route for unwanted & excess clothing. And some people get the added bonus of thinking this makes them a "good person" for being so "generous" with their unwanted items.
2. The clothes don't disappear when you drop them off at the charity shop - they go on & on and the bulk of donated clothing from UK/Europe goes on to create havoc elsewhere i.e. in Ghana & other African nations.

But its out of our sight so not our problem right?

Buy less, buy second hand, repair, reuse, upcycle etc.

https://earth.org/fast-fashions-detrimental-effect-on-the-environment/

"Fast fashion is the second-biggest consumer of water and responsible for about 10% of global carbon emissions – more than all international flights and maritime shipping combined. Unfortunately, the industry’s problems are often overlooked by consumers."

https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2023/may/31/stop-dumping-your-cast-offs-on-us-ghanaian-clothes-traders-tell-eu

https://www.nature.com/articles/d44148-025-00203-4

Outstanding post. Clothes last years. Synthetic materials are here for potentially decades. We need to get back to buying clothes out of necessity rather than “hauls” (just how chavvy does that sound?) of stuff we don’t really need and likely to only wear a few times?

Yes, the "third" class also known as the chav class!

Its not easy.

I have 2 DD's who have grown up with their Mum having a reduce/resue/reware/mend/make etc ethos re clothing and the youngest DD14 in particular is still vulnerable to the "call of the haul" from Shein or whatever fast fashion appeals. Its a powerful force driven by SM.

She also is a big fan of those black plastic eyelashes bless her.

My work continues.

But you’re paying for it all presumably?

The call/pull to her to do it is strong, but she doesn't do it anymore. Mainly because I now hold onto her pocket money/allowance etc so she can't order it directly. She knows why I do this.

I would prefer she has control of her own ££ but she will blow it all on random subscriptions she has signed up for, wannabe hauls etc.

I have intervened for now - ideally its not the best way for her to learn about ££ but I have been very clear is she wants to spend ££ on Shein/Temyuvapes/plastic eyeslashes she will have to fund that herself as I will not pay for it either directly or indirectly.

So no I don't pay for it @Nowpause

So what does she spend her pocket money on?

well this weekend she spent some £ on some posters for her room.

There is a whole world of options for teens to spend on that doesn't involve fast fashion.

Has she accepted that though?!

I allow mine to buy whatever they heck they want with their pocket money. They’ll learn soon enough. Just as we did