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Can anyone identify this thing that came out of my DIL

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Wokeuptired · 18/09/2024 08:57

The only operations my daughter in law has had are 4 c- sections the last was 20 months ago and since then she has had lower abdominal pain, yesterday she was getting shooting pains and my son pulled this from her, he says it's feels like plastic but could be metal. Does anyone have any idea on what it could be?

Can anyone identify this thing that came out of my DIL
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HeySummerWhereAreYou · 18/09/2024 10:09

I can't imagine why this would have ended up in her vagina/vulva, but it looks like a bit off an earring to me @Wokeuptired

FlingThatCarrot · 18/09/2024 10:09

Has she had any prolaspe repairs or anything done down there? Seems odd to come from her vulva when she's had c secs. I imagine with her having so many they last 2 were planned ones?

LovingCritic · 18/09/2024 10:11

unless she had a mesh repair done and its a clip, not unheard of

rwalker · 18/09/2024 10:17

Things work there way to the serfice I had a bike accident and a good few years later bits of grit came to the surface

Tigertiger23 · 18/09/2024 10:17

What on earth am I reading about here 😂

Choconuttolata · 18/09/2024 10:17

Looks a bit like 16a on this link which is a surgical staple.

https://www.researchgate.net/figure/Figures-16-17-Surgical-clips-and-staples-16-Photographs-show-skin-clips-a-skin_fig20_7938092

Could have been missed by midwife if she had staples that were meant to be removed by them post surgery. Where was her pain? If around scar site it could have been embedded in scar tissue near the wound and now her body may have pushed it out as it was a foreign object.

halava · 18/09/2024 10:19

I am amazed and a bit baffled at the oversharing of information between mother and son about a foreign object he fished from his wife's intimate area.

Is there no dignity or medical privacy left anymore? I'd divorce my H if he discussed anything about my health with my MIL, but maybe you all sit there and share such information over breakfast by video call if needed, every day.

Oof. No way.

WhycantIkeepthisbloodyplantalive · 18/09/2024 10:24

Looks like the arm of the contraceptive coil. copper is wound round plastic.

Ted22 · 18/09/2024 10:33

What a lot of useless, immature and judgemental replies this thread has attracted, including this one @halava

Mumsnet is supposed to be somewhere women can share these kinds of problems and seek advice.

OP it could be some kind of surgical stable, it actually looks more like the arm of a coil to me. I’d be wondering if she’s ever had a coil fitted (even a very long time ago). If you google copper coil, it looks like a bit one arm which are plastic with copper wire wound around.

Sometimes they insert one during a c section.

Tourmalines · 18/09/2024 10:39

halava · 18/09/2024 10:19

I am amazed and a bit baffled at the oversharing of information between mother and son about a foreign object he fished from his wife's intimate area.

Is there no dignity or medical privacy left anymore? I'd divorce my H if he discussed anything about my health with my MIL, but maybe you all sit there and share such information over breakfast by video call if needed, every day.

Oof. No way.

Really? You would divorce your husband if he discussed anything about your health with his mother ? That’s a bit OTT I must say .

Phase2 · 18/09/2024 10:44

I've had four sections, interesting the condemning if it. I think it's case by case really, none of the professionals involved were very worried. Mind you they were all pretty shit and they missed my having a bleeding disorder so maybe that's not a great reflection 😂

TomatoSandwiches · 18/09/2024 10:45

This thread is batshit 😂 I hope your DIL finds out what it is though, please let us know if you ever find out.

housethatbuiltme · 18/09/2024 10:49

Wokeuptired · 18/09/2024 10:01

Sorry had to post and run as was late taking another son to college,

Soon pulled this I think from somewhere in her vulva even though he said vagina but the other photo (that I really didn't want to see) wasn't her vagina.
She has seen her GP a few times about this pain and been to the hospital and they couldn't find the reason for the pain, and daughter in law said I could post here as the aibu is should she take it to show the GP?

Your DS sent you a photo of his wife's genitals????

housethatbuiltme · 18/09/2024 10:51

Tourmalines · 18/09/2024 10:39

Really? You would divorce your husband if he discussed anything about your health with his mother ? That’s a bit OTT I must say .

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Yes.

Privacy and confidentiality are basic rights and trust are probably the BIGGEST thing in a marraige. No one has a right to share my medical info with ANYONE.

My DH certainly doesn't have the right to share photos of my 'vagina' with anyone, thats literally a crime.

Blink282 · 18/09/2024 10:52

Is it definitely all one piece? I had silver nitrate used to cauterise a vaginal bleed following a surgery once and passed tiny bits of metal for ages.

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Wokeuptired · 18/09/2024 10:53

I will let you know, me and my children have a very honest relationships and they know that I will try my best to offer them non judgemental advice and my daughter in law also comes to me, and she gave my son permission to ask me about this and she gave me her permission to post here as you lot will probably have a better idea than her GP that's if she can actually get an appointment to see him.
I'm very lucky as me and my dil get on really well and she is just so lovely and she is a great wife to my son and an excellent mother to my grandchildren so I couldn't ask for anything better.

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Saschka · 18/09/2024 10:55

Tourmalines · 18/09/2024 10:39

Really? You would divorce your husband if he discussed anything about your health with his mother ? That’s a bit OTT I must say .

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I’d be divorcing him if he sent her a photo of my vulva, which OP’s second post heavily implies.

perfumehime · 18/09/2024 10:56

Well this is definitely unusual and I have no help but please update us if you find out? Sorry you’ve had judgy responses.

Thistooshallpass24 · 18/09/2024 10:58

Some Dr's do an online consultation where you can include pics, hopefully she gets answers soon

WideFootWelly · 18/09/2024 10:58

People are wild. Where does OP say that her son sent a photo of his wife's genitals. The photo is quite clearly a hand! 😂

Just4thisthreadtoday · 18/09/2024 11:00

Wokeuptired · 18/09/2024 10:53

I will let you know, me and my children have a very honest relationships and they know that I will try my best to offer them non judgemental advice and my daughter in law also comes to me, and she gave my son permission to ask me about this and she gave me her permission to post here as you lot will probably have a better idea than her GP that's if she can actually get an appointment to see him.
I'm very lucky as me and my dil get on really well and she is just so lovely and she is a great wife to my son and an excellent mother to my grandchildren so I couldn't ask for anything better.

@Wokeuptired

Sounds lovely to me. There are a lot of people who don't have good family relationships, especially not with in-laws.

DarkHollowTree · 18/09/2024 11:07

'Soon pulled this I think from somewhere in her vulva even though he said vagina but the other photo (that I really didn't want to see) wasn't her vagina.'

@WideFootWelly there ya go 😅

People saying they'd want a divorce over the son telling/showing his mother 🙄 DIL was fine and consenting in the situation - no issue there! You're clearly derailing a thread about alien implants! 🤣

PinaOcado · 18/09/2024 11:11

Namerchangee · 18/09/2024 09:11

4 c-sections! Bloody hell. Your DIL deserves a medal. I hope she’s ok. She really should see a GP asap.

Looks like they left it inside her

NeedthatFridayfeeling · 18/09/2024 11:17

No idea but poor thing i hope she's ok and gets this figured out.

HeySummerWhereAreYou · 18/09/2024 11:17

@Wokeuptired Can you clarify please? Did your son send a photo to your of his wife's fanny?

Please say no! 😫