DH says my vagina is ridgy

[Kelpienvag]

Name change, for obvious reasons.

AIBU to wonder whether this is normal?
I know that most vaginas have ridges (rugae??)
But he says mine is very ridgy and I agree, when feeling myself.
I'm worried that it makes me feel strange or looser?
Is it unappealing for men when someone's ridges are more prominent?
Sorry, Google didn't really help me.

Did he suggest it was unappealing or was he making an observation?

They are all ridgey

Don't most male sex toys have ridges inside for pleasure? Which would suggest it's a good thing?

Is this a sudden thing or has it always been like it?

@MeetMeAtOurSpot oh he was very neutral about it. He would never insult me. But he doesn't like to put his fingers there so I am making an educated guess that he doesn't really like how it feels.

Has it changed?

@Theunamedcat It's always been like this

he doesn't like to put his fingers there

Get a new husband.

As a gay woman I can assure you all vaginas have plenty of ridges. It’s not an issue and it really should add to the pleasure for both of you!

All vaginas are different surely? Some probably are more ridgy than others but I don't think penis's are able to feel in that much detail. As long as it's warm and wet I'm sure they'll be happy.

Plus, does it matter if other men may be put off by a ridgy vagina? You've got a man who probably was introduced to your vagina before you got married so if he had a problem with it, he's sort of missed the boat!

This

Tell him his cock stinks

To echo what others have said - all vaginas have ridges. It's normal.

@Shamoo thank you! It's handy to get your experience!

@SliceOfCakeCupOfTea
Oh I'm just asking more for my own peace of mind, rather than anything. Mine's the only vagina I've felt and it seemed a strange thing to ask friends.

@RedwineforSantaplease

he doesn't like to put his fingers there

Get a new husband.

Way to go..:)

He's your DH. surely he noted this pre marriage, why is he suddenly mentioning it now. Was he fairly inexperienced before you? I'd take this to heart too, it's a weird thing for him to comment on. Tell him to get over himself.

@TeapotCollection

Tell him his cock stinks

Yes

They're all ridgy! Tbh some more than others obviously, not everyone is the same.

What matters is your DHs sexual preferences, there's no need to be insulting (PP I'm looking at you suggesting you tell him he smells) to try and "even the score". If he doesn't enjoy it / isn't comfortable doing it, then there shouldn't be any pressure on him to do it. Perhaps a work around can be found, either using toys etc?

He is married to you so doesn't find you unappealing! He might just have a preference / not enjoy that aspect of sex.

In my job I see a lot of vaginas, all of them have ridges of some form! It's normal!!! All are different! All penis' are different!
He sounds awful OP. You said that he wouldn't say that to insult you, but he just has!

No more vagina for him!!

Yep. All ridged. Just like all cocks are wrinkled!

My vagina is less ridgey these days, probably due to me having been around the block and back

Presumably he hasn't experienced many vaginas if he thinks this is noteworthy. Tell him he's not going to find a better one, so he's going to have to get used to it and not mention it again.

Where is it ridgey? I'd have thought that was a positive?

This is such a weird thread.
Did your DH out-of-the-blue launch into a post marriage analysis of your private parts? …or did you ask for his view and he just gave an honest answer?
Context needed. I’m sure it’s not an issue….he did marry you after all.