DH says my vagina is ridgy

[Kelpienvag]

Name change, for obvious reasons.

AIBU to wonder whether this is normal?
I know that most vaginas have ridges (rugae??)
But he says mine is very ridgy and I agree, when feeling myself.
I'm worried that it makes me feel strange or looser?
Is it unappealing for men when someone's ridges are more prominent?
Sorry, Google didn't really help me.

As pp say they are all ridgy! The ridges are called vaginal rugae and there are also all sorts of changes in texture and skin bumps inside too, and the size and shape and ridginess also changes depending on where you are in your cycle, how old you are and whether you’re aroused or not.

Tell him to man up and read a biology textbook 🤣

rugae 😉….clocked this for my next game of scrabble.

Well I’ve learned something today.

Men's wank toys have raised bits and ridges to increase sensation don't they? So surely it's a good thing. I'd want to talk about it though - he's left you feeling a bit unsure about yourself and wondering if he doesn't like the feel of you - and I don't think that's ok. Saying it this long after you've been together is just rude as it's not a new thing, it's like it's designed to throw you off and knock your confidence a bit.

Perhaps you could point out that his member is also ridgey. Does that mean you shouldn't put your hand there?

@foxgoosefinch

As pp say they are all ridgy! The ridges are called vaginal rugae and there are also all sorts of changes in texture and skin bumps inside too, and the size and shape and ridginess also changes depending on where you are in your cycle, how old you are and whether you’re aroused or not.

Tell him to man up and read a biology textbook 🤣

Tell him if he can feel ridges, he's not arousing you enough and he needs to try harder

@Tal45

Oh come on, we’re not all going to start saying this “ridgy vagina” comment was a ploy to gaslight OP and began some serious emotional abuse are we? It would be peak MN if that’s the way this thread goes.

Who gices a shot what men think!? Its a fucking privilege to be allowed access!

I’d have thought it would give him more pleasure.
I hope he is an absolute Adonis with a perfect penis.

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginal_rugae

as a gay woman I concur, speaking as a lesbian, vaginas have ridges.

Thought this was interesting!

“Vaginal rugae can disappear during the second stage of labor. After a vaginal birth the rugae are not visible and the walls of the vagina are smooth. By the third week postpartum the vagina has become much smaller and the rugae begin to reform on the vaginal walls. Six weeks after birth, the rugae have returned to approximately the same size as they were before the birth. The number of rugae after childbirth decreases. In women who have not given birth, the rugae are more prominent than in those who have given birth multiple times.”

Women’s bodies are really quite amazing!

I guess they’re all somewhat ridgy? (Though I can’t speak for everyone)
It might make a difference in feeling more ridgy if you have very little body fat or have lost weight?
I guess that might make it feel different to him.

Although maybe he meant nothing at all and it was just a totally asinine male comment, which your now insecure about and he’s probably forgotten.

The first time I felt another vagina I was surprised at how like my own it felt. I'm not really sure what I was expecting, but yeah. There you go. Ridges and all.

@Shamoo

As a gay woman I can assure you all vaginas have plenty of ridges. It’s not an issue and it really should add to the pleasure for both of you!

Have you seen all vaginas?😳

@RedwineforSantaplease

he doesn't like to put his fingers there

Get a new husband.

Really?

he was very neutral about it

What was the context in which he felt the need to mention it at all?

I've just asked my DH if mine is ridgey.
It went like this.....
Me. Have I got a ridgey pussy?
Him. What?? 😲
Me. Does it feel like ridged inside?
Him. How do you mean? Like the stretchy hose on the hoover?

So there you have it ladies.....mine is comparable to the stretchy hose on the bloody hoover!

Weird to mention this tbh. You’re married so presumably been together for a few years now, I’m wondering why he decided to mention this suddenly now? I think it’s pretty rude, I’d find something about his penis to comment on.

He sounds awful OP. You said that he wouldn't say that to insult you, but he just has!

No more vagina for him!!

Wow. OP just said he was neutral. He could've said it in any context that has nothing to do with being insulting. Perhaps OP's is his only experience of vagina? Perhaps they were just discussing body parts.

"No more vagina for him"?

Plus, does it matter if other men may be put off by a ridgy vagina? You've got a man who probably was introduced to your vagina before you got married so if he had a problem with it, he's sort of missed the boat!

I agree.

The hoover? Mine is definitely not ridgey then. Will message dh now and ask him what he thinks. This is a weird but enlightening thread.

rugae is just Latin for "wrinkles" by the way. (Helpful.)
I was about to comment that I think mine is slightly less "ridged" since having children and then saw the comment above which actually explains this, how interesting. Also I can feel quite clearly the line inside where I have been stitched up again (twice in the same place) after birth, and presumably my husband can too, though he has never commented on it. I assume this is not what your husband was referring to though as you don't mention a post-childbirth context.

@OhGiveUp

I've just asked my DH if mine is ridgey. It went like this..... Me. Have I got a ridgey pussy? Him. What?? 😲 Me. Does it feel like ridged inside? Him. How do you mean? Like the stretchy hose on the hoover?

So there you have it ladies.....mine is comparable to the stretchy hose on the bloody hoover!

LTB at once!

@foxgoosefinch

If his comment has any thought at all behind it he’s a man who is like a vagina foodie who has experienced an incredible amount of vaginas and compares and contrasts all their qualities, or he’s a man who has experienced very few lol.